Not ANOTHER relationship thread!!!

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Hi all,

First off this is not some spam robot!

Ive been reading the forums for a while just never joined, I appreciate the answers I will get are bound to be sarcastic from some, true of any internet forum.

Anyway, a long story cut short-ish, I was in a relationship for over 6 years, it started to fizz out towards the end, including times when my ex would call me and say its not working and she wanted us to split etc.
Anyway, amidst this situation, she fell pregnant! The arguments that followed became unbearable and we split up before Christmas.
A couple of months later we became amicable to the point we would meet to discuss the child etc go to scans.

The baby was born in the summer, and obviously has a good relationship with us both, as we are very amicable regardless of what happened.

Now, heres the thing, my ex has asked me if we should talk things over, if I felt what happened was the right thing last year etc etc
Obviously I do have feelings for her, but there is immense pressure that, if we were to try again, if it went wrong, the whole situation with the child may change, we may not be 'amicable' anymore etc, I know I shouldnt think of that but you have to look at all options.
There were a lot of things wrong with that relationship, but a lot of good things too, but the problem is im not sure if it will work out or not.

In terms of my own personal relationships this year, obviously leading up to the summer I didn't get into any kind of relationship because It wouldn't have felt right regardless of the fact I was officially single anyway.
I did meet someone a few months ago, and that recently ended in quite a horrible way for me, as it was going well and all of a sudden out of nowhere, dumped by email! We still chat, she ended it and still wanted to be 'friends' that usual story you know...

It took the wind from my sails as I had been honest with that girl about everything, but hey ho there is nothing I can do about that.
It just seems weird that literally 2 weeks after her dumping me, my ex contacts me with a random question like how I felt etc

Now there is NO WAY at all, she would have known id recently split, or was even in a relationship, it does seem a coincidence, I know people say everything happens for a reason etc.

Sorry for another relationship thread!
 
Weird first post!

Don't get back with either of them, be amicable witht he mother for the childs sake, but no sense getting back into something like that if it ended like you said.

Step back a bit and relax women wise for a while, don't feel pressured to find anyone else and just play it cool for a while, things will get easier and sort themselves out eventually :)
 
I know, first post but no point posting on a few threads to get a post count up, this is a genuine post, I know only my opinion ultimately will count but no harm getting other views, this is of course in addition to friends / family views.
 
Obviously it wasn't all arguments day in day out, i'll admit to things like over the last few months this year, I still made sure I got her a decent birthday present, if she wanted to see any films I lent them out / gave them etc.
I even dropped round at easter with chocolates for her.

I know thats kinda random, but it was just me trying to 'be nice' as such however silly that sounds.

Does it make sense if I say when I was with the girl I was seeing a few months recently, that at times, id be thinking of my ex, and feeling guilty or that 'it doesn't feel right' (I just mean in day to day things like going shopping / short holiday break etc)
Yet I was massively devastated when she broke up with me a couple of weeks back?!
 
Oh god.... you have a baby and you're asking a geek forum for relationship advice.

Another piece of my soul just died.

:confused:

Many of us have babies here and not all of us are geeks (I am though!)

For what it's worth OP, I wouldn't go back to a bad relationship. Do what's best for the child and stay friendly with each other rather than risk a falling out. That's the last thing the child needs.

And this is from someone who's just come out of a 4 year relationship and has two children. We've just mutually ended our relationship before we have a big falling out. We are still good friends though and we are spending Christmas together as a family.

(And you don't see me making whiny relationship threads ;))
 
I hope the OP learnt the lesson of not having unprotected sex when a relationship is on the rocks.

Looks like it's going to cost him. Oh and no, don't go back.
 
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