Not looking forward to Christmas

Bluecube said:
Practicalities - just remembered I'll have to get the lights up on the house. That's the worst part of Christmas. I hope it's a bit warmer this year than last as my fingers weren't half nippy once I was finished. And getting the four trees down from the loft... At least I don't have to decorate them! I think that this year I need to set up a sound system for 24/7 Christmas choons.
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I can think of nothing worse. There's already a house in the village covered in flashing lights and plastic reindeers. In November. :mad:
 
Going to be a strange one this year. First year that the wife and I aren't together. Now we're paying for two houses etc. it'll scale things right back and make logistics a bit more weird.

At the same time it really helps some reflection on the things that matter. It's not about presents, it's not about anything other than time for appreciation of what we have and the people we want to have in our lives. **** everything else. I'm looking forward to it though. Even though it will be different, it'll be a chance to recharge. Some real me time to refocus and plan.

I find that sort of time and space amazingly powerful these days. For that, I'm looking forward to it. I'll be making christmas decorations with the kids as the wife is taking ours. Will be spending time cooking, crafting, relaxing and whatever takes my fancy.
 
Uther said:
I can think of nothing worse. There's already a house in the village covered in flashing lights and plastic reindeers. In November. :mad:
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There's a place in Glasgow just round the corner from my sister that has the full shebang up and flashing away by the end of October... And how dare you say I put up plastic reindeer! My light show is tasteful! :D
 
If i dont have Covid or Cancer then im happy as a pig in muck. Xmas does not even register on my top 1000 bad things that could happen this year.
 
Zefan said:
I'm not sure if I'm noticing/imagining a pattern here but there's a distinct lack of references to kids in this discussion. For me, this is what Christmas all comes down to and of course, I am much more than excited about it now I have a young family than I was in my early 20s for example... I'll of course be even more in to it when they're old enough to be excited about it in advance, and I hope to be able to perform nearly as well as my parents did at delivering that ultimate Christmas wish fulfillment, something I consider to be a bit of a parental rite of passage.

Isn't this just natural? Adults getting excited about Christmas as if they're still a child is quite an odd and uncomfortable thing to witness IMO. Thankfully it's quite rare.
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I agree.
I also think there's an assumption if you don't have kids you go to others. If you have kids you can get away with not. Or people coming to you.

I loved Christmas as a kid. In fact I loved it until my extended family fell apart. Over inheritance. Now it's just some hollow thing with memories of good times.

Glad I'm not only one! :D.. I think
 
arknor said:
I'll be alone again like last year.
probably no presents to open and nothing new.

pretty much just becomes another day of the year for me.

There are people I could visit if I really wanted too though. so it's self imposed at the end of the day.

in 40 years of living I've probably spent 5-10 Christmas alone, sometimes would cook a Christmas dinner and live on it for a week... last year I didn't bother and this year I probably won't either.

I might actually go for a walk on Christmas day and see if I can spot anyone else with no life
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:(

Hope you're OK.
It's hard being at Christmas on your own. Even if it doesn't matter. It's still thrust in your face.
Going out for a walk is a good shout.

Even the old religious connotations I do not like. Commercialism.. Do not like. People put themselves in debt. For months over Christmas.
I used to like it for family stuff but that's worse.


Thinking of booking a January holiday to look forward to.
 
Lysander said:
Sorry for not really addressing your points, @413x, but having spent the last two Christmases on my own, I can see what an utter load of rubbish Christmas [in its current form] is. So I can only empathise.
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It's OK. This was more of a vent. Signing this year off as a test year. If I genuinely hate it. I'll make changes going forward.
 
413x said:
Sorry to hear about this.

Yeah it seems to get worse as time goes on. Family rifts, age, just time.

I can see why people just end up spending it with thier very immediate family


I hate the commercial side too.
Navigating presents. I feel I managed to get the 'no presents for me or for you' message across before covid. But now people are askinge what I want. Nothing. I don't want more tat
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Present buying for anyone other than your own kids I feel is just a faff these days. With consumerism where it is these days, people generally just already buy what they need/want. Gone are the days of buying physical media which made good presents, i.e. CD / DVD. Now it's like, what can I actually buy for £20 that someone won't already have that isn't tat.... This is why I tend to buy alcohol and food for people as you know it will be appreciated and used. I like buying fragrances as well as it's simple, small and no stock issues but again hard to keep the cost down.

I feel like it's all hyped to the point where I cba. I mean I like having the tree and decs and the food and the kids being happy, but if I could click my fingers and it all be done for me, that would be awesome. lol
 
jaybee said:
Present buying for anyone other than your own kids I feel is just a faff these days. With consumerism where it is these days, people generally just already buy what they need/want. Gone are the days of buying physical media which made good presents, i.e. CD / DVD. Now it's like, what can I actually buy for £20 that someone won't already have that isn't tat.... This is why I tend to buy alcohol and food for people as you know it will be appreciated and used. I like buying fragrances as well as it's simple, small and no stock issues but again hard to keep the cost down.

I feel like it's all hyped to the point where I cba. I mean I like having the tree and decs and the food and the kids being happy, but if I could click my fingers and it all be done for me, that would be awesome. lol
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I'm going with this.
Just gonna buy duplicate food things for people.
At least things like socks, toiletries, food will get used.

Anything else I can and have bought for myself. I'm 36 ffs.

My parents a few years ago got me a drone for some reason. They even asked my gf 'would he like a drone' and she said no. Get him a go pro. They got the drone.

Used 3 times. Bought myself a go pro that year.
 
Christmas is an environmental nightmare. Tree? Paper? Tat no one really wants? Food waste? Ramping up the heating (never understood this?). Argh horrible.

Even though I had covid last year, it was my most enjoyable Crhistmas in adulthood (post 25). I cooked, ate, made some calls, then just shivered and spluttered the night away with my covid ridden partner.

I'll be going to family this year, and I just about get away with being left alone with the dogs to read OcUK and watch Netflix because everyone know I'm such a humbug :D
 
I do enjoy Christmas. Thankfully I get along well with all my family and all the in-laws. There's quite a few kids on her side of the family so we generally only buy presents for the kids, but (for me) the enjoyment comes from spending some quality time together.

The last few Christmas' instead of buying presents (on my side), we book something to do together, e.g a nice meal out, trip to the theatre, weekend away, etc.
 
413x said:
I'm not really an extroverted type so this rushing around in itself is stressful.
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Can sympathise with this. I've got it all done this year, Christmas grocery deliveries booked in, getting everything I need to avoid going to the shops around Christmas. Luckily wont be visiting many people and no extended family are visiting so it should be a good one this year. Christmas is now about fine food and drink for me whilst relaxing, it's somewhat more hectic for those with kids!
 
Zefan said:
I'm not sure if I'm noticing/imagining a pattern here but there's a distinct lack of references to kids in this discussion. For me, this is what Christmas all comes down to and of course, I am much more than excited about it now I have a young family than I was in my early 20s for example... I'll of course be even more in to it when they're old enough to be excited about it in advance, and I hope to be able to perform nearly as well as my parents did at delivering that ultimate Christmas wish fulfillment, something I consider to be a bit of a parental rite of passage.

Isn't this just natural? Adults getting excited about Christmas as if they're still a child is quite an odd and uncomfortable thing to witness IMO. Thankfully it's quite rare.
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I certainly am enjoying Christmas a lot since I have had kids.

I did enjoy our before then though, it had always been a nice time to catch up with family.

Actually having kids has now made that aspect a bit harder. Now my brothers and sisters have also had kids it's is harder to practically squeeze us all into one place.
 
Im going to be having a strange one.

I had a falling out with the wifes mother and brother about 5-6 months ago. We usually head to their house for Christmas as they have a big family usually about 22 around the table.

Wife and son are going to go to her mums on Christmas as I do not want a fight between adults to retract from my sons xmas. He is only coming 3 so will be good for him to have all his cousins in the same place playing.

I am gong to stay at home and either go back to bed or play COD.
 
If it wasn't for our kids, my GF and I would spend Xmas drunk and in bed. Neither of us are particularly fussed on Xmas and my GF eye rolls harder than me at the Xmas isle in Tesco in October. :)
 
With how often Mariah Carey is heard you'd think she was venerated more than Jesus ever was, I think that might go some way to disproving it as a uniquely Christian event.
 
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