One of the usual GD responses...

I have a local copy of the Mumsnet merge (Mumsnet side), but the online versions got deleted.

I'll paste the text of the Mumsnet side (see inside spoiler tags as it's a lot), and let the swear filter take out any of the swearies on there. Easier than me editing it and missing out the odd swearies.

I've been caught out, he's stopped all contact - AIBU? (80 Posts)
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psifrhhz Thu 23-Oct-14 17:52:31

This is where he has posted everything about us: forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18631840
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WipsGlitter Thu 23-Oct-14 17:54:42

And is it true?
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ZivaMcGee Thu 23-Oct-14 17:55:06

Sorry what was your question?
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CookieLady Thu 23-Oct-14 17:55:14

?
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 17:57:45

Not clicking but i'm guessing this is just someone promoting/getting traffic for their own blog/website and unlikely to be a caught out anyone.
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LuisSuarezTeeth Thu 23-Oct-14 17:58:51

Some threads are hard work lately.

Any chance of a little more detail? Or are you the OP on the other thread?
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Serenitysutton Thu 23-Oct-14 17:59:03

Bu about what?
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mynewpassion Thu 23-Oct-14 17:59:37

Leave and go to your other option . Leave the poor man alone
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CherryLips1980 Thu 23-Oct-14 17:59:41

hmm
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HearMyRoar Thu 23-Oct-14 18:00:02

Dia, its a link to another forum with a post from someone saying they have caught their dp cheating and want to chuck her out. He seemed pretty reasonable to be honest.

I'm not sure what this thread is about though.
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AuntieStella Thu 23-Oct-14 18:00:45

What is it you are asking?

You might find more useful answers if you post your circumstances in 'Relationships' rather than linking someone else's (posted where they are seeking support?) to AIBU.
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LuisSuarezTeeth Thu 23-Oct-14 18:00:45

OTOH if you are the girlfriend, the way he talks about you, you're well out of it hmm
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Catsmamma Thu 23-Oct-14 18:02:06

can't you move in with MRHeyBaby?
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magpiegin Thu 23-Oct-14 18:02:34

Are you the girlfriend and are you having an affair? If so then I guess you are very unreasonable.
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:03:39

Oh thanks hear

What an odd OP in that case. I'll bet the OP is actually the 'he' in this case and the caught person is probably a MNer he is trying to humiliate.
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MrsWombat Thu 23-Oct-14 18:04:13

Overclockers is a real website and forum aimed at people (men) who build their own computers.

OP - If you are the woman in the thread on OC then I doubt there is very much you can do unless he's misunderstood everything and you are not cheating on him. Hope you have somewhere else to go.
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ArabellaTarantella Thu 23-Oct-14 18:04:31

Luis - he's been quite the gentleman from what I can see. Nowhere can I see anything that he's been nasty about??
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JingleSpud Thu 23-Oct-14 18:05:34

Gets the popcorn out and settles down to read the other thread
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Birra Thu 23-Oct-14 18:05:49

If you are being unfaithful, I think you should take your stuff and leave quietly
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mynewpassion Thu 23-Oct-14 18:06:11

Haven't read the whole thread in the link but if his partner is cheating, a few names being thrown about is par for course.
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LuisSuarezTeeth Thu 23-Oct-14 18:07:18

Arabella

Ok, well been in a long term relationship with girlfriend. She lives with me (this is important), she has no say, she pays no bills, mortgage etc, she only buys food so in my mind has ZERO rights.

This is rather unpleasant, to say the least.
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LisaMed Thu 23-Oct-14 18:07:37

On the offchance that the OP on overclockers is reading this thread...

If it is like you say it is, get lots of witnesses, get lots and lots of witnesses for when she comes home, and as many female ones as possible.
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Nomama Thu 23-Oct-14 18:09:08

It's nice to see they are as supportive as we are... and that some have pointed out that his ZERO RIGHTS assertion is not necessarily so.

Odd that none of them told him that made him sound like a prat and may be part of his problem!

Men! What would you do with them? smile
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OraProNobis Thu 23-Oct-14 18:11:34

<< gets extra stash of popcorn to sell at a premium later >> grin
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scaevola Thu 23-Oct-14 18:12:13

"Ok, well been in a long term relationship with girlfriend. She lives with me (this is important), she has no say, she pays no bills, mortgage etc, she only buys food so in my mind has ZERO rights"

But that's not just "his mind" is it? Unless married, it's a statement of the basics of the law.

And I wouldn't hold someone, posting on another site at a time when they have just discovered much of their life has been based on lies, to any particular standards of literacy.
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ArabellaTarantella Thu 23-Oct-14 18:12:32

Luis - but he's right shock

He's not lying, being nasty, threatening to destroy her stuff, refused to have 'sex one last time' as one of his mates suggested. What more can the poor bloke say. It's his house.

It would be completely different, wouldn't it, if it was a WOMAN's thread hmm
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SantasLittleMonkeyButler Thu 23-Oct-14 18:12:37

What's your question OP?
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fairgame Thu 23-Oct-14 18:13:39

I don't know what you want from us OP.
You cheated. He wants you out. Move out and get on with your lives.
What's the issue?
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minkymuskyslyoldstoaty Thu 23-Oct-14 18:14:15

i can't be arsed.
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BuzzardBird Thu 23-Oct-14 18:14:26

"She has no say" is a particulary telling part of your story.
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Birra Thu 23-Oct-14 18:15:13

She's only been living with him a couple of months, I doubt she has many rights?
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Maryz Thu 23-Oct-14 18:17:27

Bloody hell, intersite arguments.

Don't you sometimes just wish people would talk to each other [sigh]
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Nomama Thu 23-Oct-14 18:18:03

Personally I'd say the same. It's not the reality of someone not contributing to a relationship, its the not very niceness of stating it that baldly. In a long term relationship both parties acknowledge that they accept how things are... if there is no sudden change then non contributory status (financially) is just how it is in the relationship is. The person with no cash could be contributing something else, maybe in full time education, etc.

So it is not a gender thing, or that he may technically have a point. It is just probably not as cut and dried and, should he have ever behaved how that one sentence sounds, then he is possibly a bit of a prat!
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Birra Thu 23-Oct-14 18:18:15

For a man who has just found out his girlfriend of 6 years is cheating on him, I think he's being very reasonable. The other men seem quite civilised too!
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LisaMed Thu 23-Oct-14 18:18:29

True or not, linked here for whatever purpose, it is interesting that a woman faced with this could access DV unit at the police as it would be considered DV. I wonder how the police would react if a man tried to access support? It should be the same, but it's an interesting question.
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FrancesNiadova Thu 23-Oct-14 18:18:43

Hmmmm, the link to the blog reads remarkably like iwashappy's thread, which got frozen by MNHQ. Hmmm, my radar is twitchin'! hmm
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ArabellaTarantella Thu 23-Oct-14 18:19:15

Sounds to me that SHE is the 'prat' !! She's living rent/bill free and she screws it up? Who's the prat?
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:19:23

get lots of witnesses, get lots and lots of witnesses for when she comes home, and as many female ones as possible.

hmm

Witnesses? For what? Changing the locks and ignoring the doorbell?
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Maryz Thu 23-Oct-14 18:19:49

shock there are 22 pages over there.

So presumably someone is writing a novel, again?

Or is saying that troll-hunting too [sigh]
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scaevola Thu 23-Oct-14 18:21:25

"She has no say" is a particulary telling part of your story.

Yes, unmarried cohabitants who are no co-owners do find they have no say whatsoever about having to leave when the relationship breaks down and the proprty owner wants them out. (The comment was made in context of mortgage, admin etc after infidelity discovered, nothing beyond that, as I read it).

It's not uncommon for the to be threads on MN from unmarried cohabitants in similar circumstances, when they discover they have no say over someone else's assets.
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PatMullins Thu 23-Oct-14 18:21:37

Skipping to the last page, this has been posted by someone from that forum. Hilarious
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JingleSpud Thu 23-Oct-14 18:22:01

Some seems to have us confused with Netmums with an addiction to acronyms.

And mumsnet is a lovely place. Full of sarcasm, swearing and wonder grin
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JingleSpud Thu 23-Oct-14 18:23:10

Plus i have to say i quite like the OC site.

Its full of geeky people like my DH blush
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:23:17

Where did he sound like a "prat"?
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:23:27

Really doubt the OP of this thread is the girlfriend of the other. It's him publicising what she's done. Most likely she's a Mner and he knows it or an attempt to 'prove' that women stick together and would back her up. <fail>
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WhereTheWildlingsAre Thu 23-Oct-14 18:23:28

Has op come back or is that it?? No point to posting any more until she does.

Because as it stands, if this is really true then he is being reasonable that this relationship is over..
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Snickersnickers Thu 23-Oct-14 18:24:57

Leave him alone and get on with your own life?
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JingleSpud Thu 23-Oct-14 18:24:59

DiaDuit I think you are right. Someone from over there obviously wanted a female perspective and didn't get quite what they were expecting.
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ArabellaTarantella Thu 23-Oct-14 18:25:45

What's the female equivalent of a 'cocklodger'?
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:26:42

Someone from the overclockers forum posted this on here. It's not the OP of the original thread nor is it the girlfriend of the OP. We're still waiting for him to respond.
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LemonadeRayGun Thu 23-Oct-14 18:26:58

The other thread has been fun to read though. I agree that it was probably someone trying to prove that no matter what us crazy women do, other women will always say it is the mans fault...
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WhereTheWildlingsAre Thu 23-Oct-14 18:27:47

I actually thought the response, 'have sex with her dad' was quite funny!
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CrumpleHornedSnorkack Thu 23-Oct-14 18:28:47

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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:28:48

Oh does it say that on the other thread adam? Why did they post it here? confused
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:29:16

Most of you guys mums then? Any single mums?
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alltoomuchrightnow Thu 23-Oct-14 18:29:29

don't understand the q
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CrumpleHornedSnorkack Thu 23-Oct-14 18:29:45

hmm
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:30:37

No adam. No single mums. Not a one. You need singlemumsnet wink
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:30:38

No, it doesn't say that on the other thread DiaDuit. But it's obvious it's a fellow Overclocker messing about and posting the thread here. His "girlfriend" has no idea what's waiting for her.
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:31:22

Ah because she is a MNer?
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:31:32

And my other post was a joke. A bad one at that.
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MrsWombat Thu 23-Oct-14 18:32:10

I've been quoted on OCUK. <preens>
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fairgame Thu 23-Oct-14 18:32:10

They are watching us watching them.
<flicks hair and flutters eyelashes> Hi guys! smile
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:32:30

She is not a mumsnet person, no. As I said, she doesn't know about any of this.
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digger123 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:32:41

<marking place, off to make popcorn and waiting for the gf to turn up>

IMO and for what it's worth he should dump her

(from a single mum grin)
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:32:48

And we are indeed watching you.
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:33:16

So why post it here if its not for her to see it?
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ArabellaTarantella Thu 23-Oct-14 18:33:50

Ooh, what time is she due home?
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gamerchick Thu 23-Oct-14 18:34:07

God all that blue... can't read that thread man!
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Fredski Thu 23-Oct-14 18:34:09

Is this website for picking up single mums?

Please advise asap. thx, too busy building my rig.
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:34:48

Because they think it's funny. And she's apparently working late tonight. So not sure when she'll be back.
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radeonhd Thu 23-Oct-14 18:35:00

I'd swap his gtx 980 sli and 4k monitor for a 48k speccy.

That;ll teach him......
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:35:13

Fredski you copycat! That's my line.
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Fredski Thu 23-Oct-14 18:36:31

Radeonhd, that would give him an erectile dysfunction straight away.

Its like losing your manly-hood.
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:36:34

Hmm so they are watching us watching them and presumably we will watch their responses to them watching us watching them and where will it end? shock someone will get a life soon and the whole thing will fall apart. Shame.

<toddles singley off to join singlemumsnet and meet men called adam98150>
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digger123 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:36:56

Okay I've put some slap on....quite fun reading another website ,<flirting wildly whilst smelling supper burning>
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adam98150 Thu 23-Oct-14 18:37:53

Good god man. I think you guys have scared them away. What the hell happened to civilised!
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Fredski Thu 23-Oct-14 18:38:20

-off to get paper towels and lotion-
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DiaDuit Thu 23-Oct-14 18:38:55

Have lots of MNers invaded OC? grin

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I have a local copy of the Mumsnet merge (Mumsnet side), but the online versions got deleted.

I'll paste the text of the Mumsnet side (see inside spoiler tags as it's a lot), and let the swear filter take out any of the swearies on there. Easier than me editing it and missing out the odd swearies.

Haha, perfect! I remember spending 2 days glued to that thread to find out what has happened, I remember this as well.

"For a man who has just found out his girlfriend of 6 years is cheating on him, I think he's being very reasonable. The other men seem quite civilised too!" :p
 
Hmm...how can there be any swearing on Mumsnet when their rules require every sentence to be reduced to an acronym? :)
 
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