Parents Split

It's already been said, but it's worth saying again - "It's not your fault".

I think you'll find pretty much everyone is nervous about starting uni, some bring baggage, some jettison it. Don't worry, you'll be amazed at how resourceful you can be.

Be YOU.
Let "them" sort it.
Be a bit selfish now and then. (Especially if you need high grades for what you want to do).
 
Try to get on with your work etc ....... they are adults and have their reasons, even if you don't like it.
Also, try to maintain a relationship with both and not take sides.
Gonna be hard but it's worse for them, believe it or not.
best wishes and good luck.
 
Your parents are adults you're an adult. Let them sort it out for themselves try to be honest and don't take sides. Love them both they are still your parents after all. Keep your head down at university get on with your life and remember they were getting on with theirs before you were even concieved.
 
It's understandable that you have a lot of mixed feelings right now - it would be a shock for anyone regardless of thier age.

Thankfully you are old enough though to understand that they would only be doing this if it will make them happier. It will be hard at first but try to bare in mind that it will get better.

Make sure your parents are aware of your feelings but remember they'll have a lot of feelings about all this as well. Be a bit selfish at times especially while you have coursework, your guitar, your friends (and even us!) to concentrate on but they are going through a big change too.

And finally, even though it may feel a bit stressful at times make sure you still have both your parents too! Just becasue they might not be with eachother anymore but they'll still be there for you :)
 
Mine split when I was 21. I remember my mother turning up one day without any warning (they lived overseas) and she marched into the house to inform my brother and I that they were getting a divorce. My brother and I were so happy as it was clearly the best thing for them (years and years of quarelling). But now, many years later my mother is probably one of the bitterest women I know, she made the biggest mistake of her life and she knows it. Even though my father has been happily re-married for 14 years she still wants him back.
 
My Dad had a gambling problem for years and y parents were always arguing debt and moey problems ect. A few years ago it got really bad and my mum finally booted him out ad for the first year things were great no more arguing ect but then we found out my dad had died. I came home to find my mum and sister crying ect but I just felt nothing which suprised me but what else was there to do I hadn't spoken to him for a year. Over a year later I've realised how much I missed him and cried at times when it hit me that he's actually gone.

Things atm would be great but my health has been at it's worst for years and causing tension in the house but hey ho BF2 seems to keep me happy. :(

Not sure that helped but your parents both love you and that's all that matters. All the stuff that went on with me started in my first year of sixth form and it's basically 3 years down the line and I have nothing to show from school and am too ill too even go in nowadays.
 
My mum and dad split up when I was about 13, it was very hard on my mum as I do believe she loved him even after he cheated on her plenty of times but she knew divorce was the only thing to do. I know it affected my schoolwork and my behaviour defiantly went down hill for the next few years and I got into a fair amount of trouble at school, I guess it was just my way of handling the feelings I was not grown up enough to understand.

Glad to say 10 years on my mum is a different person, she has a lot more self-respect and sticks up for her self that is something she never did while with my dad her use to control and manipulate her.

Obviously every situation for divorce is different, I've been lucky that my mum and dad are still civil to one another and can talk about more things than just my brother and me but it has taken time.

Take comfort in friends they will be there for you in hard times talk to them, there is never a good time for a divorce but when it’s something that needs to be done the short term hardships are well worth happiness in the long run.

I really do wish you all the best and hope everything works out ok.
 
My parents split when I was 11. My mum left, she'd been cheating on my Dad for 6 months. I was fine. I just didn't speak to my Mum for 2 years, not because she left or because I was upset but because she lied and she cheated, which was bang out of order. I forgave after about 2 years and we started getting on again.

If it's going to make both of your parents happy in the long run then I wouldn't worry about it too much,just concentrate on your studies.

Edit - Just realised your from Bish, me too. Getting away from that place in September will do you the world of good, trust me. Focus on getting yourself to uni.
 
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