Those fees only count if the sender doesn't pay using funds already in their paypal account (they send payment through a credit/debit card) and they uncheck the "I will pay fees" box which means the person receiving the money gets stiffed for the payment fees (rule of thumb here is to state that the sender MUST stump up the fees if they are not using funds from their paypal account).
Although paypal are already in my bad books at the moment since they never BOTHERED to send the direct debit mandate to my bank when I originally set everything up (which I only found out after trying to transfer money to my paypal account only for my bank to dispute it because the direct debit mandate wasn't there).
£85 total in fees. Bummer. You could always request to cancel the transaction with the buyer. If he agrees, you get the £65 final value fee credited back to your account. There isn't anything you can do to get the pp fees back now.
I've done this a few times now and saved into treble figures on the final value fee's. Yes it's dodgy, but so is charging someone £85 to sell something. You get charged less for selling a car for £1000's.
Next time try Used everywhere or Gumtree
Only applies to gifts. And is also not allowed by eBay rules. The price on the auction end is the price the buyer pays. No ifs and no buts.
If you refund the buyer then you will also refund whatever has been paid in fee's. You will not be out of pocket and the buyer will receive the entire payment back.
Of course you would have the hassle of lining up another buyer outside of eBay