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I would go for it as it seems like a good idea money wise.

Just one thing. I've been there and I can just say that even if I did pay rent I could never get comfortable with living in someone elses house, let alone my in-laws house! Although it was a bit smaller than what it seems you would get :)
 
Surely taking the step of moving in with your fiance and her mother will give you a good idea of what it will be like if and when you get your own place? In many ways it is an excellent oppurtunity to see how things work out... I would imagine that it is much better to find out now if you can make it work rather than doing it for the first time when mortgagaes are involved?

I'd say go for it!
 
If you save a significant amount then before i'd go for. Also, take into account how much you're going to be spend on food each month... (since that's free atm?!)
 
I'd snap that up , although be careful, you don't want to walk in on her while shes in the shower and see her musty pie.
 
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You know this heart-to-heart you've just had with us? Have you had it with your folks? :D

Seriously, you might be surprised at how they respond if you approach them straight-on about it. Explain your situation, before you get onto the part about moving in with your GF, and why it would make sense financially.

Do you currently pay more than you would've expected / hoped to? A third of your wages seems a bit steep, especially if you're trying to save for your own place and move your life forward. And you are at home! I can understand that you need to contribute, but a third? So, let's say you get £900 a month - your folks get £300?? :eek:

I would say go for it. It's part of life's adventure, you sound like your head's screwed on, and it's a positive step towards getting where you want to be. And - if it goes completely belly-up with your parents, use your GF's NHS status to sod off to Australia!
 
Im in a similar situation, only myself and my gf kind of house share just sleep at each others houses, i pay rent, she pays rent.

We are really going to start to save next year but it is tough, i give my parents 1rent but they require it to keep afloat (a long story)

Im 22 and planning on moving out at 24/25, hopefully sooner if we can save a deposit (dont want to rent, would rather have a mortgage)
 
dont do it , my sister had her boyfriend move into my parents house when she was in her early twenties and it killed the relationship she had been in for around 5 years
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I moved in with my girlfriend of two years into her parents house. We got engaged a year later, married two years after that, got a house a year later and now 5 years on we have an excellent life and three wonderful children.

If the relationship is strong enough, I'd say do it!
 
Definately do it.

Living with girlfriend has its plus and minus points, but the plus definately outweights the minus! Especially knowing there's pussy waiting for you at home every night :D
 
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Now this has multiple benefits, being with my fiancé, paying less rent, and gaining a little more independence to mention just a few.
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First tip on being engaged, it's Fiancee when referring to your lady friend :)

Just a heads up as would hate for you to make that mistake when say buying a card for something then having to write the extra e on afterwards when you realise.

Not that I have had to do that before, honest :p
 
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First tip on being engaged, it's Fiancee when referring to your lady friend :)

Just a heads up as would hate for you to make that mistake when say buying a card for something then having to write the extra e on afterwards when you realise.

Not that I have had to do that before, honest :p
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ha ha cheers for that, I honestly didnt know there was a difference

Glad you made that mistake before i did
 
Talk to your parents. Explain the situation. They may be able to advise you or help you, after all they are your parents and only want the best for their son.

You are 23, it's young to be moving out but the earlier you DO move out the better.
 
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Talk to your parents. Explain the situation. They may be able to advise you or help you, after all they are your parents and only want the best for their son.

You are 23, it's young to be moving out but the earlier you DO move out the better.
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23 is YOUNG to be moving out? Really? I know very few people who still lived with their parents at 23.
 
Don't be too concerned with your parents reaction on moving out, you'll have to do it some day, but it's nice that you're taking their feelings into such a consideration.

From what you've described, it sounds like a good middle ground between staying at home and getting your own place. It'll be a good experience as it will give you a taster on how you and the other half will be in your "own place" so to speak. The house you've described sounds big enough to accommodate you all whilst maintaining a degree of privacy.

It looks like a good move to be honest, positives outway the negatives from what I understand of your current situation. But don't feel pressured to do it simply because of the financial situation with the size of the property and the missing income into the mortgage. If you feel like it's a good move, go for it. At the end of the day, if it really doesn't work out, you can move back in with your parents and wait until a better opportunity presents itself that will allow you and your fiance to move in together.

The best of luck to you whatever you decide.
 
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