Pretty ****** Off!!

[Neoni]

My mum and dad have gone to egypt for a week i had to stay behind to finish my first year in uni, its like my last two weeks for all work to be done and dusted. now my girlfriend has been given a key for the house, because ive got work etc.

the dogs are normally taken to kennels but i said id look after them being at home, so now i have work on friday and satuday, my girlfriend was asked to look after the place while im at work, feed the dogs etc, i have no family etc around here, no friends, so its pretty lonely by myself... and now her parents have told her (my girlfriend) well her step-dad who is a complete **** told her she is not allowed to leave the house tomorrow even though it was arranged for a night out at the movies, meal etc, and now also not allowed around while im at work. she is younger than me yes, but what the hell am i to do i hate being by myself, its awful got so depressed from it... no one can feed the dogs friday til like 2am.

Hes also told me im not allowed anywhere near her while shes getting dressed, and im also not allowed to ring her after 10pm, and he then turned arounds to me yesterday and said its now 9.30 because you rang her the other day after 10pm, im not a kid surely i can ring her when i want?

im 19 and she is 16 by the way a bit of an age difference but its a strong relationship and its going well, im just pretty upset over things.

-Neon

 

[Neoni]

Parents are protective, to be honest until she either plucks up the courage to tell him whats what, or she moves out there is nothing you can do really mate.

The age difference isn't major, but her dad will probably still think of her as just a kid rather than an adult.

Sorry though, mate.

her family are protective yes, her mum really likes me, she knows we have done stuff i.e, in the bedroom she said shes fine with that sort of thing because she knows i look after her and im good to her.

but god damn!

 

[Neoni]

I wouldn't want some 19 year old lad hanging around my 16 year old daughter.
I don't like receiving phonecalls after 10pm myself.

Hanging around? shes my girlfriend, for about about 3/4months and her family know me were always at eachothers houses, for her birthday i asked to take her out, they are fine with me, they know im a decent guy.

 

[Neoni]

I dont understand

Your gf is supposed to be looking after dogs whiile your parents are away than meeting you for a night out after you finish uni or whatever?

But her dad aint plying ball and keeping her in the house.

Never mind bud, just stay in with the dogs and chat on here and go out with her another time

basically i have uni on friday etc and to make it to work on time i have to go straight after uni, to work, making it impossible to go home and feed the dogs check the house etc.. so my parents gave her a key for it. she offered to help out, but her step dads being a fool, tomorrow i finish uni early, and we were gonna go out for the night, she was suppose to be staying friday and saturday. like every weekend.

 

[Neoni]

Honestly, I am not a dad but I have a sister who is almost 16 and I would be very sceptical and look down upon some 19 year old dating her.

are you kidding me? why... yes its young but nothing was rushed nothing is sneaky... everything is out in the open. i am in university i have a job, i have qualifications, she is doing well, its not like im a down and out. age doesnt come into it in my eyes, i love her, she loves me, why should it stop us.

 

[Neoni]

Sorry but I don't think he's doing anything wrong here. He doesn't want his 16 year old daughter staying at her 19 yr old lads house while his parents were away, what's unreasonable about that?

I doubt I would have been allowed to either, although tbh it wouldn't have acrossed my mind to even ask.

well... she stays every friday saturday, and we share the same bed they both know this, they even know we sleep together, they are ok with it, its not her dad, its her step dad.

 

[Neoni]

If you you can't appreciate how her father feels, then I think you are acting a bit younger than your apparent age.

Of course, thats not to say it must not be irritating, I sympathise with you.

i cant appreciate it because his attitude is really ****ed up, its not just this i could list hundreds of stuff what hes done and said infront of me.

her actual blood mother tells her to ignore it, but whenever hes around she goes with it, like she was drunk last week and i told her i didnt agree with his attitude she said just let it fly over your head, she says it all the time.

 

[Neoni]

No I am not kidding and TBH, if it were my daughter I wouldnt let them date. Because she is 16, WTF does she know about love or life? She hasnt lived outside her parents house and is probably still in school. I would also be sceptical of anyone who is dating my sister who isnt even in high school any more. Did you guys meet in high school or at a club.

we met through friends at a party. take a look around you if i were you, there is 15 year olds dating 26 years olds, teens with prams. not me and her.

 

[Neoni]

Oh, so that makes it OK. thats a ****** up way of thinking.

so you think im out of order for dating her?

 

[Neoni]

No, you're just saying if one daughter is a sl** it is ok for another daughter to be one.

what? i dont understand.

there was no mention of anyone being sluttish. were very mature actually we dont mess about, its not fun and games.

 

[Neoni]

Do you know her step dad? Get her to ask you over for dinner or something, have an adult conversation with him and he will either realise you're a responsible adult who only wants the best for her, or think you're a weirdo who just wants an easy one.

Whichever is true.

he knows me very well, i asked if i could take her out for her birthday he said yes stay out til whatever time you like, look after her, were always out together and in her garden, ive been invited over to bbqs, when i have turned up everybody has known or seen me before and known that im a decent guy. i get on with them all.

 

[Neoni]

YES

im not taking this conversation any further with you.

 

[Neoni]

Fair enough she's not allowed round to yours on her own, probably her step-dad thinks it's too much responsibility, and fair enough to the phone calls - I wouldn't want people ringing my house that late if I had a family. But it's a shame about the night ou etc - you'd think that if you're known by her family then she'd be allowed..

I understand that you get lonely - I do all the time and I've a good few mates about - it's really hard to find motivation and occupy yourself when you're like that..

Just be pleasant to her step-dad even if you think he's a ****. That's probably the best way, and when he sees it's more than just a little thing then he'll relax.

no no her mobile its her mobile i cant ring :/ ive been out before and brought him food back and everything had a rate laugh with him at times, one of his best mates knows me from when i was like 14, and drumming with his other mates band.

 

[Neoni]

My friend seems to have a thing for the younger ladies, he is 20 and has dated several 16 and 17 year olds.

When we have met them they are all really immature, and I have a 16 year old sister myself so know that they all have a lot of growing up to do.

The reason he dates them is because it's fairly easy. You only have to see them at weekends and they look up to you and are eager to please, its an easy lay.

Her step dad probably knows this and thinks you are only after one thing, regardless of your actual intentions. Unfortunatly since you are dating a child you have to follow the rules of her parents.

all my girlfriends have been 18 or 19, i stopped dating for a while until i met her, all her friends are immature not her, if she acts stupid at times i jus ignore and she knows, yes she has growing up to do, but so do i .

 

[Neoni]

Mmmm 12 weeks and you're in love lol.

12 weeks when its been really serious, i had been seeing her much longer than this... and yes its easy to fall in love when you find somebody who you think is lovely, and has an amazing personality.

 

[Neoni]

Neoni, one thing you'll learn about these forums (and surprised you haven't learnt already considering your join date) is that you should never post for advice with a girlfriend issue.

Deal with your problem, cancel this thread and don't get your back up with comments posted so far.

lol. its not really a gf issue tbh, more like a gf step dad issue, i dont take much notice of posts such as "NO, you shouldnt be dating a 16 yr old"

 

[Neoni]

If I was entrusted with responsibility for another persons child I might be even more protective of that child than of my own. It might be why he acts the way he does or maybe he doesn't like you.
He doesn't *have* to want people ringing his house after 10pm, he doesn't *have* to like a chap who is nearly 20 watching a girl who is merely 16 getting dressed. Why does he *have* to play it your way?

see it might just be me, but im not even bothered about looking at her when shes getting changed, probably because im a bit older, im not into the whole "i want sex, go find random girl" i like relationships. plus its her mobile i ring, i dont ring it anymore, so im obeying that rule.

 

[Neoni]

Tbh you seem to not be taking notice of any posts

im taking notice, im trying to see it from his perspective it is shedding a bit more light on it, but i still dont get that when shes allowed at mine every weekend, every night, they know everything that goes off, her mum is fine shes happy for her to come to mine. but step dad is not.

 

[Neoni]

geez hes only 19 himself guys....its not as though hes some old perv cracking onto young girls.

@ VIRII- on the love thing, how would you know? some people just have chemistry there from day one.

as for my age yes ive just turned 19 well january, i hadnt had a girlfriend for about a year before i met becky my current gf, i never went out on night times, im at uni, in a gigging band, work in a hotel on weekends, yes theres something strange about me. thankyou balddog for that.

 

[Neoni]

Why are you still attempting to defend yourself? You shouldn't need to! This thread will end in tears and if you're the intelligent person you claim to be then I;d suggest calling it a day and accepting that further posting in this trread will not in any way help with your resolve.

im just watching now. im not putting anymore input into it, but if people have opinions or ideas then go ahead.