Q6600 @ 3.6GHz vs Q9450 @ 3.6GHz(Providing he can clock it stable that far) is going have little to none noticiable improvement. I'm not talking about synthetic benchmarks here, sure super Pi will be a tad quicker but for gaming like hell is there going to be any difference.
If he's getting a decent price for his quad, may as well jump to the next gen for longevity. Not to mention the i7 920 is now £200~ and you talking about a Q9550 for £170, just look at how much more power you're getting for £30. Granted requires new mobo and RAM but i'd much rather invest in something that's actually going to be step forward and not sideways.
At OP
Something to bare in mind, iirc your mobo has a max supported FSB of 1600. The Q9450's multiplier is 8, therefore giving you a maximum overclock of 3.2GHz in keeping with the supported FSB. Any higher and you will require a lot more voltage tweaking to push the FSB further, in turn generating more heat on the NB and SB.
Q9550 is slightly better with a 8.5 multi. Something to bare in mind atleast