Quick question to all parents...

Cuchulain said:
It most certainly is, seperately both our GP and Health Visitor recommended it via Christopher Greens book, nearly every parent I know has a copy of Toddler Taming kicking around.
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Clearly I'm out of touch. Mind you, parenting techniques change every 6 weeks. How old are kids supposed to be when you start them on solids? That's always a good one to switch around.
 
vonhelmet said:
Clearly I'm out of touch. Mind you, parenting techniques change every 6 weeks. How old are kids supposed to be when you start them on solids? That's always a good one to switch around.
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thats changed again recently, as has the stance on steralisation of bottles after 6 months etc.
the amount of times my wife was coming home from work saying she had to start telling people different things was shocking!
 
vonhelmet said:
Clearly I'm out of touch. Mind you, parenting techniques change every 6 weeks. How old are kids supposed to be when you start them on solids? That's always a good one to switch around.
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My wife started our son on solids at about 6 weeks, the health visitor got all twisted up about it so the wife kicked her out and told her not to return.

Our boy is a healthy 12 year old now.
 
EniGmA1981 said:
is it me just being uptight and paranoid or is this something a lot of parents do when they go shopping and their kids are sleeping?
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I hate this with parents. The amount of times my wife says 'just nipping to this shop, you can nip to that shop', I'll mention about the kids and she will say 'I can see them from the window'...Yet what if someone breaks into the car? what if another car crashes in to the side of it? What if something happens to 1 of the kids?

I have 4 month old twins, 6 year old and 3 year old and get very over-protective of them all. When my 6 year old goes out to play I still have to make sure I can see him, even if he is with about 8 of his mates outside the house, 10-15 years ago, you could go out with no problems, now-a-days ya cant let you kids go out anywhere without worry, or that may just be me :D

Castiel said:
My wife started our son on solids at about 6 weeks, the health visitor got all twisted up about it so the wife kicked her out and told her not to return.

Our boy is a healthy 12 year old now.
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Agreed, my twins started their solids about 12 weeks old tho, but they spent a good few weeks in Intensive Care when they were born so a little behind to most other babies but they are really healthy now...
 
I'm sure health visitors are very nice, but all the ones we've met haven't known a darned thing about things. They just ask their standard questions, try to look like midwives and weigh stuff.
 
Don't have kids yet, but would never do that. In fact I would most likely either phone the police or grab a member of staff at the shopping centre and alert them to the fact.
 
Paying for petrol? Yea, if I could see them all the time.

Shopping? No way. At least not until they are 5+ and even then it depends how the child is and where you are parked. But that would never be any longer than getting a few items.
 
vonhelmet said:
1) That story is stupid.
2) I've never defended leaving an 18 month old in a car for an extended period of time, unless of course our definitions of "extended" differ substantially.
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1 - yes, but shows that stupid things can happen, be it officially or illegally.
2 - The who thread is based around an imaginary 18 month old, you haven't objected to children being left in any scenario from what I can remember.
Also, it was a post about the thread, not just about you..
 
Morba said:
2 - The who thread is based around an imaginary 18 month old, you haven't objected to children being left in any scenario from what I can remember.
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Then you've not paid much attention.

Morba said:
Also, it was a post about the thread, not just about you..
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Excuse me if I get a bit sensitive in a thread where I've been defending my views for 6 pages.
 
Morba said:
Where have you said its wrong to leave a child of that age?
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That's not what you asked. You asked:

Morba said:
you haven't objected to children being left in any scenario from what I can remember.
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Which I have.

As for an 18 month old, I'd not leave them for very long, certainly not longer than 10 minutes, and probably not at all if they were alone or awake.
 
The context is around the 18 month old. Are you now saying that it is wrong to leave them?
 
Morba said:
The context is around the 18 month old. Are you now saying that it is wrong to leave them?
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It is wrong to leave any child in the car out of site full stop. I hate parents that do it, what if something was to happen to the child? Lets say the child chokes or something, how they get get help? Its stupid leaving the child in the car, I would NEVER dream of leaving my children in the car and my oldest is 6 and still wouldn't.
 
Morba said:
The context is around the 18 month old. Are you now saying that it is wrong to leave them?
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I actually just came back to edit my post.

I'd leave an 18 month old, but not for long, and particularly not long if they were awake and/or alone.

I can't really say otherwise, being as I left my 20 month old in the car for a few minutes while I went in to get my 4 year old from the childminder.
 
vonhelmet said:
2) I've never defended leaving an 18 month old in a car for an extended period of time, unless of course our definitions of "extended" differ substantially.
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You said that you've left your child in a car which converts to OCUK as:
"I leave my child in the car 24/7 and no matter how I have carefully worded my posts there are those that will still not read them and there are no instances where you shouldn't be able to leave your child in a car."
 
dmpoole said:
You said that you've left your child in a car which converts to OCUK as:
"I leave my child in the car 24/7 and no matter how I have carefully worded my posts there are those that will still not read them and there are no instances where you shouldn't be able to leave your child in a car."
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Maybe you should read the thread. He has only recently changed his story to leaving them for a short time to what he said earlier.

vonhelmet said:
My children (near as damn it 18m and 4 1/2) are routinely left in the car alone while my wife pops in somewhere to do something, be that grabbing a couple of things at the shops or whatever. So no, this is not just "argumentative bravado".

They'd feel bad, sure. But in a purely numbers game sense, those bad things happen so rarely that you have to wonder whether it's worth the stress of fretting about every little thing that might go wrong.

Life is a risk. You choose to live in fear of it or you choose to manage it.
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Life is a risk...more so if you have vonhelmet for a parent. You simply don't take risks with your children however unlikely it is that something bad will happen to them. Especially as it is only because it is inconvenient for you to take them with you.

To back up my point of people being bad parents who leave their kids in the car. Just watched a film and the drug dealer left his kid in the car whilst he was dealing drugs. Point proven! :p
 
bloodline76 said:
Maybe you should read the thread. He has only recently changed his story to leaving them for a short time to what he said earlier.
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Ok, just re-read it and he hasn't changed a thing.
He mentions nipping into Tesco for a couple of things and uses the word 'reasonable time'.
Can you tell me what version you have read?

Oh, and I'm not sticking up for him, I'm having a go at people who don't read posts properly and make their own versions up.
 
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