You need AHCI mode set in BIOS first, then a registry tweak in Windows to use AHCI, then istall the Intel drivers etc. I think the option to use NCQ was then offered in the BIOS.
I spent a while messing with this as I *should* have installed my OS with AHCI already enabled - then the install picks up on AHCI and makes the correct registry entries for you. However I didn't, and making the change after install is a bit of a hack and I can't remember the precise series of steps I took. If you Google it you'll likely find the same tutorial I did.