Reasonable request or out of order?

Gaygle · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:14

Azagoth said:
Phone the police and tell them that you saw her dragging Madeline McCann into her house.

As everyone else says, tell her your children will play outside if they wish and you aren't going to lock them up.

Tell her that you'll try and tell them not to be too noisy, but nothing else.

Johnz0r · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:15

Blatant Fritzl wannabe.

Nitefly · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:17

Tell her she is being very unreasonable.

But say you will speak to your kids and ask them not to shout or scream loudly.

Seems like a good compromise to me with yourself keeping your ground and your kids enjoying the outdoors.

Ed · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:18

Slinwagh said:
Our neighbour works from home, as do me and my wife I hasten to add. Now as some of you are aware it is the school holidays, bear this bit in mind.

We don not get on with our neighbour, not our choice but that is the way it is. A couple of weeks ago she complained about noise, we were having new bathroom floors and the fitter cut the tiles outside on his machine, she suggested in future that we run by her any DIY and the like we were having done, why I am not sure but she did. The thing that irks me about this is that fact that about a month before she had exactly the same type of work carried out with the fitter she employed cutting his tiles outside on a machine it did not bother us in the slightest.

Today she has asked if we can keep out daughter in the house during the day, 9am until 5pm if possible. Being fair she has not singled us out she has also asked another neighbour who has a boy the same age as our daughter the same thing.

To be honest we are a bit taken aback by this and think it is a little unreasonable, they are not overly noisy children, they are just children playing.

So, is it a resonable request or is it over the top?

You're asking for this. The fact you're even questioning it means you're a soft touch and she knows it.

I don't know what to suggest really. Do as you're told? Say no politely? Offer to double glaze her windows?

Ed · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:21

Nitefly said:
Tell her she is being very unreasonable.

But say you will speak to your kids and ask them not to shout or scream loudly.

Seems like a good compromise to me with yourself keeping your ground and your kids enjoying the outdoors.

I think asking kids to be quiet is unreasonable. It's just not a viable option. She works from home, lives near kids and it's the summer holidays. What does she expect?

vanandjuanunited · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:23

Tell her to take a 2 month holiday if its an issue,

or buy her ear plugs

Nitefly · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:23

Ed said:
I think asking kids to be quiet is unreasonable. It's just not a viable option. She works from home, lives near kids and it's the summer holidays. What does she expect?

Well, thats exactly what he should say. In addition, he should say he will ask his children to be concious of the situation and avoid being too noisey (which isn't unreasonable of him).

Ed · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:28

Nitefly said:
Well, thats exactly what he should say. In addition, he should say he will ask his children to be concious of the situation and avoid being too noisey (which isn't unreasonable of him).

I don't think the problem is the neighbour here, it's Slinwagh. He's such a lightweight that she feels she can be unreasonable with him and dictate terms in his familys personal space. It's ridiculous.

Slinwagh, I even read that previous thread about your daughter pouring water in the garden and the neighbour complaining. I'd seriously consider looking into assertiveness courses. I mean it.

v0n · 12 Aug 2008 at 11:40

Ed said:
She works from home, lives near kids and it's the summer holidays. What does she expect?

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Professional environment. Maybe she's running sex hotline from home, and all that racket of kids in the background is driving her customers away.

Well - put thsi whole issue in "Chelsea" wrapper: At the end of the day, in theatre of her life, the kids are ruining the play. She asks, she doesn't get, she pleads, she doesn't get, she demands, he goes and asks internet people to back him up. What is she to do?

EdGey · 12 Aug 2008 at 12:27

link her to this thread. then punch her.

Exentia · 12 Aug 2008 at 12:46

Any of your kids birthday coming up, I think a house party with lots of friends is called for. Then if she barks during that just do the whole "how dare you come over here and say my kid cant enjoy their birthday" works a charm.

Stretch · 12 Aug 2008 at 12:52

If your neighbour has a particular reason for your daughter to stay inside for because she needs some quiet for a few days then that's fair enough. If it's general request not to let her out at all over the summer then I'd tell her it's massivley unreasonable. Why the hell doesn’t she have a job anyway?

Ask her not to use the toilet between the hours of 9-5 because you find the sound of her flushing repulsive. Oh and tell her if she complains again you'll be buying a small "yappy" dog.

Ed · 12 Aug 2008 at 12:55

Stretch said:
If your neighbour has a particular reason for your daughter to stay inside for because she needs some quiet for a few days then that's fair enough.

Are you serious?

semi-pro waster · 12 Aug 2008 at 12:56

Stretch said:
Why the hell doesn’t she have a job anyway?

It's in the original post, she works from home as do Slinwagh and Mrs Slinwagh.

Stretch · 12 Aug 2008 at 13:06

semi-pro waster said:
It's in the original post, she works from home as do Slinwagh and Mrs Slinwagh.

It's not in the OP, but if that's the case then threatening to buying a "yappy" dog will almost defiantly do the trick

Ed said:
Are you serious?

Yes. If it's a one off request, like she has an exam or she's been very ill and needs some quite then I wouldn't have a problem with it. If only because I'd expect the same in return.