Hi guys, im not normally one for asking for this sort of help on a hardware forum, but all my flatmates are still asleep and im a little confused.
I'll give you some history and then the problem. Im in my first year of uni, theres been a few girls but after a few weeks ive broken it off as ive realised ive wanted to stay single, I had a messy break up a year ago and havent been in a 'proper' relationship scince.
Anyway, im in the gym a lot and notice a girl whos a friend of a friend of a friend. We all end up playing pool last sunday. Shes 5 ft 2, cute as hell as an amazing smile and georgous eyes. Its obvious we both like each other and a week passes and we grow closer. I kissed her a few times, we watched films and cuddled and its been really nice. It felt like the beginning of a relationship starting to bloom. I find out she broke up with an ex about 2 weeks ago, because he got very posessive threw drinks on her, pulled her hair even bruised her so obviousley she saw sense. Hes finding it hard to let go and has even been asking me personal questions about me and her, and is even so insecure is asking me which weights i use in the gym etc etc! He's stick thin and im 5 ft 10 and 13 stone (stocky/muscley build) so i think he is intimated by me.
More to the point - out last night and she meets us with her best friend for drinks, she doesnt have a lot to say to me, so 2 + 2, at the next bar, im almost ignored and at this point am getting quite drunk. Her ex is there at this bar, and she is talking quite intimatley with his best mate which makes me
More drinks me and a friend thought! which i now regret.
I asked her friend what the hell was going on, and she explained she's still **** scared of her ex because of the violence. She explains scince she was 15 shes been in and out of relationships and wants to be single for a little while and that im best off staying in the 'friend zone' and waiting a few weeks and giving her space, but also to not not see othergirls or etc etc because of her. Apparently she likes jack the lads and being treated like dirt, and i fill one of those too, im a nice guy which shes not used to. She says 'i wish i'd met you a month later' which makes my heart sink.
I finally talk to the girl her self and she says she really likes me and i made it quite clear I liked her too. She says exactley what her friend told me, and i said she doesnt need to be scared of me because im not a violent ****. We all walk back to a friends, im sick in his bathroom, joy, sick walking back to mine, sick all over my bathroom, which luckily is a wet room and here i am this morning.
So what would you guys do, im in a tricky situation. I like her and she likes me, but she wants to be single for a while (not to get some no pants dance action - just because she wants to be single). It could be weeks or months before she decides shes ready to settle down in a relationship. Do i keep waiting for her, for god knows how long? or do i move on? ( i know its been just over a week but we got on brilliantley and all ive done is think about her)
I dont want to move on and then a week later have her tell me shes ready.
Sorry for the excessive length of this post, if youve managed to stay awake through it i welcome your replies
Benny C
I'll give you some history and then the problem. Im in my first year of uni, theres been a few girls but after a few weeks ive broken it off as ive realised ive wanted to stay single, I had a messy break up a year ago and havent been in a 'proper' relationship scince.
Anyway, im in the gym a lot and notice a girl whos a friend of a friend of a friend. We all end up playing pool last sunday. Shes 5 ft 2, cute as hell as an amazing smile and georgous eyes. Its obvious we both like each other and a week passes and we grow closer. I kissed her a few times, we watched films and cuddled and its been really nice. It felt like the beginning of a relationship starting to bloom. I find out she broke up with an ex about 2 weeks ago, because he got very posessive threw drinks on her, pulled her hair even bruised her so obviousley she saw sense. Hes finding it hard to let go and has even been asking me personal questions about me and her, and is even so insecure is asking me which weights i use in the gym etc etc! He's stick thin and im 5 ft 10 and 13 stone (stocky/muscley build) so i think he is intimated by me.
More to the point - out last night and she meets us with her best friend for drinks, she doesnt have a lot to say to me, so 2 + 2, at the next bar, im almost ignored and at this point am getting quite drunk. Her ex is there at this bar, and she is talking quite intimatley with his best mate which makes me
More drinks me and a friend thought! which i now regret.I asked her friend what the hell was going on, and she explained she's still **** scared of her ex because of the violence. She explains scince she was 15 shes been in and out of relationships and wants to be single for a little while and that im best off staying in the 'friend zone' and waiting a few weeks and giving her space, but also to not not see othergirls or etc etc because of her. Apparently she likes jack the lads and being treated like dirt, and i fill one of those too, im a nice guy which shes not used to. She says 'i wish i'd met you a month later' which makes my heart sink.
I finally talk to the girl her self and she says she really likes me and i made it quite clear I liked her too. She says exactley what her friend told me, and i said she doesnt need to be scared of me because im not a violent ****. We all walk back to a friends, im sick in his bathroom, joy, sick walking back to mine, sick all over my bathroom, which luckily is a wet room and here i am this morning.
So what would you guys do, im in a tricky situation. I like her and she likes me, but she wants to be single for a while (not to get some no pants dance action - just because she wants to be single). It could be weeks or months before she decides shes ready to settle down in a relationship. Do i keep waiting for her, for god knows how long? or do i move on? ( i know its been just over a week but we got on brilliantley and all ive done is think about her)
I dont want to move on and then a week later have her tell me shes ready.
Sorry for the excessive length of this post, if youve managed to stay awake through it i welcome your replies
Benny C
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), use a first come first serve policy with making arrangements with others (ie. don't bomb out of a night out with mates to go and see her) and most importantly put that extra testosterone to good use in the gym!! 
