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We fell out love. It would be so easy for me to just try and get back with her but I love and care for her like a sister. We have been split for 5 years now. We speak every day and am there for both of them if they need anything.
To be honest my Last partner I split with recently of 4 years could never except are friendship even though it was totally innocent and 1000% benefitted my daughter. She just couldnt handle it....... Do you think me keeping such a close contact with my daughters Mum is a negative?
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Well possibly. I think it takes a secure person to accept that your partner can have a close, and entirely platonic relationship with an ex even if there is the legitimate reason of a shared child to consider.
The question you really need to ask yourself is are you prepared to compromise the relationship you have with your daughter and her mum for a girlfriend? Or is understanding and accepting the importance of those relationships fundamental to any future long term relationship you have?
Unrealistic expectations of 'love'?
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That's not a bad thing even though you seem to be framing it as such. You should expect - demand - someone special who will share you and your daughter's life.
It's positive that you and your ex-wife are on good terms. Be grateful for that.
Why are you getting bored with the people you are dating? Are you making poor choices? What do you need from these dates?
Couldn't have said it better myself.
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I'm 23, been with my other half for 5 years now. we're engaged and just taken out a mortgage together. none of my friends or anyone else i know of my age are in the same situation i'm in. Their all still sleeping about and going out spanking all there money down the pub. I've never been one for that, but i do sometimes wonder if i've wasted the party years of my life as bad as that sounds lol.
as for kids.. No, just no. can't stand the things lol. that's one thing we won't be having. once i'm dead that's it for my familys name :L
As for you though, sound's like you're living the life, single with your own house and all the toys a man needs with uninterrupted access to bang babes :L you're living the life most lads want!
as for kids.. No, just no. can't stand the things lol. that's one thing we won't be having. once i'm dead that's it for my familys name :L
As for you though, sound's like you're living the life, single with your own house and all the toys a man needs with uninterrupted access to bang babes :L you're living the life most lads want!
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This is horrible.... this isnt even 0... this is going on a Minus scale.
Yep you have
No, just a little unusual. I've had such a break myself (although without the children) so I know it can happen, but it's rare.
I broke up from my misses 3 years ago,i live 3 min walk from her,we have a really good relationship,she has her own key to my house and i have a key to her's.
We have a 7 year old daughter together,we stay at each others places,have dinners together....infact,we do lots of stuff together apart from the sexy time (i have a black book for that
)Has been a good 3 years,i dont want anyone in my life apart from the people i have (daughter) tried a relationship a few months ago,didnt last 7 weeks as its not what i want-need.
We are both happy with the way things are and our daughter is our main focus.
Im 46 and she is 49.
Same boat here... currently enjoying my hobbies and have very little spare time left after those ..
I've been in relationships for as long as i can remember, i've never been single! However, my i've never had feelings for anybody like i have for my current partner, i've been in a couple of 3 year relationships and a 9 year relationship, but with my current partner, i just can't get enough of her!, We have lived and worked together for over 18 months now, we live constantly under each others feet and it never gets boring. She is my best friend, and dare i say, soul mate!
She's just gone home to New Zealand for 6 weeks to see her family, and i'm currently alone! It's taken a week to get used to being alone lol but i can't wait for her to get back. She's gone to scope out wedding venues for when we get married in December 2015 I couldn't go with her because of work commitments andi haven't got my new passport yet.
Anyway, enough of the sad talk! I guess it's down to what you want at the end of the day.
She's just gone home to New Zealand for 6 weeks to see her family, and i'm currently alone! It's taken a week to get used to being alone lol but i can't wait for her to get back. She's gone to scope out wedding venues for when we get married in December 2015
I couldn't go with her because of work commitments andi haven't got my new passport yet.Anyway, enough of the sad talk! I guess it's down to what you want at the end of the day.
I've been through a couple of periods where a lot of my friends all settled down, got married, had kids and then disappeared from the social scene altogether. All I did was find new things to do and made new friends.
Fortunately two of my spare-time pursuits are typically done by people with forgiving partners or those with few constraints.
Fortunately two of my spare-time pursuits are typically done by people with forgiving partners or those with few constraints.
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I bpp from my misses 3 years ago,i live 3 min walk from her,we have a ret good relationship,she has her own key to my house and i have a key to her's.
We have a 7 year old daughter together,we stay at each others places,have dinners together....infact,we do lots of stuff together apart from the sexy time (i have a black book for that
Has been a good 3 years,i dont want anyone in my life apart from the people i have (daughter) tried a relationship a few months ago,didnt last 7 weeks as its not what i want-need.
We are both happy with the way things are and our daughter is our main focus.
Im 46 and she is 49.
This is exactly like me to a T.... All though I would like to meet someone.
My X of 4 years used to make me so Alien For wanting and keeping a good relationship with my daughters Mum, it caused the breakup with us in the end as she got so obsessed being negative about her.
I just wanted other peoples views to see if other people still kept close bonds with their daughters mothers. Obviously 9 years with her she knows the true me and is there For me.
The problem is finding someone stable enough who can except it for what it is. Maybe a women similar position would work better
This. There's just no need at the age of 24 :-\
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See this is just stupid talk, and in my opinion why there are so many unhappy people today.
People are indoctrinated with this belief that they must sleep around, that the best is always around the corner.
Reality is that you could well have met the best person, that maybe when you get to the age of OP, everyone already has children/baggage.
My experience of people at university is that most of the excellent "catches" are already starting to get engaged/married.
And why not? If you meet the right person, why toss it all away to look for unknown quantities?
On the flip side I do think people sometimes rush into marriage in the early/mid twenties and just end up getting divorced 5-10 years later (obviously not a hard and fast rule).
My personal opinion is that people are still 'growing up' (so to speak) in their twenties and they can end up changing/having different priorities by the time they reach 30.
I'm already seeing that and I'm only 21!