Renting with a partner

Depends on the relationship IMO.... with my wife after 4 months (of dating, not marriage!) we were still learning new things about each other, it would have been too soon. Whereas I probably could have tried living with my ex after a couple of months, had circumstances allowed, she lived life at a much faster pace and I probably knew everything there was to know by then.

Wife and I bought a house together after about 15 months, in hindsight it was probably a mistake and we'd have been better off renting, but we were really keen to live together and could afford to buy so it seemed like a good idea at the time.

Practical matters apply too, i.e. how difficult do you find it living apart? Is there a lot of travelling involved? How much of a financial strain will it put on you?
 
me and the gf moved into this flat just over 2 years ago.

I was 23, she was 20

living together owns :)
 
My missus moved in with me after about six months. 13 years on and to this day I still don't remember ever asking her to. I woke up one morning and she seemed to have acquired a shelf in the bathroom cabinet for her own toiletries. From there it was a short hop to her own drawer in the chest-of-drawers, and subsequent "tidying up" and "rearranging" was, I now suspect, just a ruse to relegate my own clothing to one drawer and about a fifth of the wardrobe space.

After nine months, my great little batchelor pad had sprouted a washing basket (what was wrong with the floor?), little pots of smelly tree bark, vases of flowers and several photoframes containing various pictures of her family. My tenancy expired shortly after and all of a sudden I found myself stumping up a huge deposit for a mortgage so we could have "somewhere to call our own". We're still living there and I still haven't figured out what the pots of smelly wood are actually supposed to do.

Don't trust 'em. They're devious creatures!


Seriously, if you both want to go for it, to hell with what everyone else says. It's your life and your own adventure, so don't live it wondering what could have been - because you will.
 
Don't do it.
iirc student nurses do shifts all over the place, including nights sometimes so it makes it impossible for her to have a part time job.

Therefore you will be paying for everything. I am assuming she has just finished 1st year nursing, which I don't think they get paid for.
The 2nd year is something crap like £50 a month (all this is from what a friend said who is studying nursing) and the 3rd year only pays about £200 a month.
 
mglover070588 said:
Don't do it.
iirc student nurses do shifts all over the place, including nights sometimes so it makes it impossible for her to have a part time job.

Therefore you will be paying for everything. I am assuming she has just finished 1st year nursing, which I don't think they get paid for.
The 2nd year is something crap like £50 a month (all this is from what a friend said who is studying nursing) and the 3rd year only pays about £200 a month.
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They still have student loans, which are there to cover living expenses.
 
Got with my girlfriend New Years Eve, moved in together 1st May. :D

We rent a big house with just the two of us in there and couldn't be happier.
 
We got our own place after 10 months but I'd been living in his student flat for a while before that. 4 years later and we have a mortgage :)
 
I'm 20 and split everything 50/50 renting with my Mother at the moment, as well as my own expenses - car, food, ect..

My girlfriend is also 20, lives with her parents and pays some rent / for her car.

We've been together for just under 2 years.

I've moved around a lot during my life, my girlfriend hasn't moved house once in her whole life. So it would be a lot of a bigger change for her, than it would be for me, and I don't think she'd be ready for that for another few years.
 
I wouldnt do it. You just seem to young and saying "we all make our own decisions and mistakes and I think now is the time to have a go at it" is just you being in love thinking of all the great things.

Believe me, there WILL be bad times. Unless your relationship is absolutly ROCK solid and you have discussed costs involved and every other thing I would never ever do it.

Not at your age anyway.
 
as far as living costs go, she's fresh out of uni, so a bit skint, and working part time atm. we go halves on rent, electric and gas

i pay internet, council tax, my mobile (she uses my unused contract minutes)

probably go about 60:40 on food


besides the council tax, i find it cheaper living with her than I did with friends, before this, I lived in a house with 5 other friends (and usually had one or two living on the sofa's in the living room too), gas and electric bills were astronomical in this place, basically had 7 computers on 24/7, and most lights in the house on 24/7 -plus you'd end up going to the pub a lot more, and buying expensive junk food


i live a lot healthier sharing with the other half :)
 
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I've been with my GF just under 6 years.

Met at Uni and from the time we were "going out", which I suppose was validated from the night I stuck it in...she pretty much lived in my room at Uni. I'd like to state we had known each other a fairly long time and spent a great deal of time together before we were going out.

For a few months she didn't stay every night, but most nights. I'd say within 3-4 months she was permanently at mine. When that Uni year finished she didn't find another place to live for the other 2 years we were there, she just stayed with me (lucky my room was the biggest in our house and had a double bed!!).

We moved back to my folks after Uni and after a few years graft we are currently in the process of signing up to a house we buying! We have lived togetrher at least 5.5 years of the 6 we have been "going out" and it has worked for us!
 
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