Rules of the bro code

[Grissle]

Twice now one of my close friends has tried to chat up my ex immediately after I broke up with them. Under the bro code am I not entitled to be a little peeved at this? They were both 1.5year+ relationships.

He seems to think that I'm moaning and getting ****y when I call him a dirty sleeze with no regard for bros before hoes. On the same note I take most things on the chin and carry on, but I dunno, I feel a little differently about this.

I mean, I wouldn't do that to one of my mates. Am I alone on this?

 

[Grissle]

I'm glad I'm not alone in my boat then.

It's not a major problem, both my ex's found him repulsive and creepy and generally just deleted him off facebook/msn/phonebook etc. In fact on both occasions they spoke to me and asked me to ask him to stop hitting on them, which I found pretty funny.

I think more than anything it just ****** me off. Knowing I wouldn't do it, and thinking it's pretty low. If either of them did actually like him that would just be beyond awkward.

 

[Grissle]

I think, grow up. There is no "real" such thing as a Bro Code. Become an adult and live life like most normal people do.

If she's an ex, she's fair game.

You've got a BMW as your signautre. The best friend you've ever had is probably a GPS, I'm gonna disregard your advice.

Besides, you clearly take yourself and life way too seriously.

 

[Grissle]

With regards to the whole 'timeframes' thing. Surely it's when/if they say it's ok?

For the two times mentioned this has happened perhaps 1-2 days after we've split. I like to give my relationships a bit of time after they end just to cut contact and get over it, for both parties. The reason I don't want one of my mates wriggling in is because he's one of my close mates, surely that makes sense? A few months down the line he can do as he pleases, personally I wouldn't just out of respect but I don't begrudge one of them going for it. I want to see my mates happy.

He's not one of my closest friends, he's kind of a proxy-close friend. Two of my best mates befriended him in college so I have to put up with him type deal. To be honest I haven't stopped smashing him about it, but at least now I can show him this thread so he knows my views are not just my own.

 

[Grissle]

why do people do this? sorry for your situation, but do you really think showing him a bunch of comments online by randomers will really give him an epiphany and change his "wicked ways"?

as I said, sorry for your situation, but life goes on, forum or not, he's going to be a knobber for years to come

I think some people are taking this a bit too seriously, lol. It's more friendly gabber 'you ****' type stuff than me sitting down with him and having a heart to heart, leading into a deep bromance and bareback mountains.

I'm mildly annoyed at the fact he doesn't see as I do, and it's a conversation starter. Simple really. You guys (for the most part) see it as I do, so that gives me more ammo.

We're not going on Jeremy Kyle or anything. We're 21 year old blokes having fun.