Scared of the future

Don't ever be afraid of the future. It is like the world around us. It is neither negative nor positive, just neutral.

Everyone has burdens and trials ahead of them, some may appear easier than others, but until you are in that person's shoes, you cannot judge it or them.

I think everyone here has been hit with some form of feeling down, or similar, after all, isolation using computers for entertainment and escapism is going to be a major reason why many of us are here on this forum now (whether they choose to admit it or not!). You have to reason with yourself that the best possible care is available for your mum, and as for yourself, you need to develop some hobbies that get you out and about, seeing different things, experiencing new things and enjoying life.

Cysts are very common - boils under the skin, right through to others in nearly every single organ in our body. I've got 4 right now, which I have to put up with, and I thought the worst when I found them.

Best of luck for your mum, and regardless of the results, she will receive the best care. Chin up, stay positive and try to make some positive changes in your life too. :)
 
Hi Neil79

I'm sorry to hear your news, hopefully you will have good news from the results.

I'm coming from a very similar situation (in regards to your outlook) and I am proof that with belief and help it is possible to turn everything around, it does though takes a lot of hard work; my place was very dark (still is sometimes). I have no friends, at the moment, because of my past, I have flash backs that make me feel so low. I also worry about the future, about what might happen, to my parents etc. Does this help? Simple answer, nope. We put all our energies into thinking of the past, this creates the depression, then we worry about the future, this creates anxiety, that we miss the now.

The most difficult time to acknowledge is the present, staying in the here and now is ideal, but when your mind has been trained to wander all those years, it can take superhuman abilities to bring your focus back. You have that ability, Neil.

I came from a place of loneliness, anxiety, anger etc. I am in a place now, where I yearn to meet people and make friends, strange thing is, I never shut up to others behest :). But as I have learnt is that, life is no linear path, you will have good times and bad times.

You are never alone, my friend. Try and centre yourself, focus on what is happening right now. Be with your mum. But also talk to others about your thoughts.

I wish there was something more I could do. Do you have community support personnel that you can talk to, CMHT, anyone? You could even call the Samaritans.

Try and not keep hold of your thoughts, talk about them.

Best thing is, try and push for the support.


Good luck, Neil.
 
Thanks all :)

One of the lumps was a cyst and has been removed, the other has been sent off to be analysed. So at least that's some good news for my mum
 
Sounds like good news,

I think if they find *anything* that isn't 100% normal they send it off to be looked at as procedure, fingers crossed it's benign.

Go give her a hug!
 
Unfortunately it's scares like this which makes you really appreciate what you have.

...good news so far though. Chin up!
 
Be strong mate and spend time with her is the best thing you can do as what I did when my dad got diagnosed with terminal throat cancer in 2009, I broke down in work as I assumed I was about to lose my dad but 5 years on after many treatments and stemcell treatment he's been fine as can be and has not progressed in all that time and has 6 month checkup and still ok so far fingers crossed, even if it is cancer it could be something they can treat.

Best wishes Neil.

If you need to talk let me know.
 
It's with great joy to announce that my mum doesn't have cancer! Both benign, thanks everyone for your prayers
 
I am very close to my father and would be devastated if anything happens to him; but death comes to us all and no parent wants their child to take their own life. So get a grip of yourself and stop thinking in terms of 'I'll be dead soon after'.

I should add, I did already lose my grandmother, mother, sister, cousin and nephew in the space of a few years. If I can find a way through that quagmire of emotion, I am sure you can too!
 
I'm more glad than you'll ever realise about the outcome of this, your OP was one of the most depressing I've read on here and I'm glad it's turning around for you.
I don't know you, not many people here do but it doesn't mean strangers you've never met don't care or feel any empathy for you. Don't ever feel that you have no one, because you do, even if it's just someone you don't know typing a response from his workplace miles away :)
 
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I'm not sure what to do, if it is cancer and I lose my mum, I'll be dead soon after, harsh I know but what you see on the forum is not what happens in life with me.

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That makes it sound like you're going to kill yourself if your mum dies?

I lost both my parents to cancer within 3 months of each other at the age of 20.

I had to drop out of work to be the primary carer for my mother.

I ended up homeless, I had no money for food.

It was the WORST time of my life.

You don't know how strong you are until you are pushed, so don't be a bitch and man the **** up for both you and your Mum.

People die, people lose loved ones, its a part of life, not a nice part but a part non the less.

I don't have any family, I spent my last 2 birthdays on my own.

Life can be ****, but you know what, the loss I went through made me the person I am today, and he's a MUCH better stronger person than he was before.

Its upto you how you take the loss of a loved one, you can either crumble, or become a better person in their memory.

Your choice G.
 
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