Sleeping Arrangements

Lonewolf

Lonewolf

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Bearing in mind that more under 14's are having abortions than before and with having a teenage daughter myself. How did you cope with this dilemma?

If you're a parent, at what age would you be comfortable with your daughter/son having their partner sleeping under your roof and sharing your sons/daughters bed?

If you are a son/daughter living with your parents, have you managed to persuade your parents to allow your partner to sleep over? At what age were you first considered mature or responsible enough?
 
to sleep over 15, maybe 14 at a stretch, in the same room 16+ but that depends entirely on your trust in your daughters responsibility
 
My parents never gave a rats, but I am male which makes the world of difference.

If I have a daughter, ideally never (she can move out if she wants some lad kipping in a bed and room that I've paid for).

If I had a son, whatever age :)
 
This is a really difficult question to be honest, you will never stop people having sex if they want to, would I rather it happen in the safety of the home rather than on the back seat of a car or in a park that's a real tough one tbh.

HEADRAT
 
HEADRAT said:
This is a really difficult question to be honest, you will never stop people having sex if they want to, would I rather it happen in the safety of the home rather than on the back seat of a car or in a park that's a real tough one tbh.

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I agree that's the crux of the issue really, I wouldnt make an issue of it, just be open with them, encourage them to be the same with you, make sure that if they are doing anything they're sensible about it
 
You’ll never stop them having sex if they want to. They will just find somewhere else or wait until you go out/away on holiday.

My parents never had a problem with girls staying over in my bed.
 
My ex girlfriend was allowed after 3months of going out and i was 18...

her perents were the same.

My sister is now 18 and perents don't like it.... i think younger for guys than girls.
 
HEADRAT said:
This is a really difficult question to be honest, you will never stop people having sex if they want to, would I rather it happen in the safety of the home rather than on the back seat of a car or in a park that's a real tough one tbh.

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Have to agree with that.
Does totally depend on the person though, my Gf's mum would never let her sisters boy friend stay over in the same bed he had to sleep in another room, but it was always fine for me to stay around, from the same age, her mum never really trusted his sister I guess lol
 
Lonewolf said:
Bearing in mind that more under 14's are having abortions than before and with having a teenage daughter myself. How did you cope with this dilemma?

If you're a parent, at what age would you be comfortable with your daughter/son having their partner sleeping under your roof and sharing your sons/daughters bed?

If you are a son/daughter living with your parents, have you managed to persuade your parents to allow your partner to sleep over? At what age were you first considered mature or responsible enough?
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When they are married.
 
I would think it is far more difficult to condone your daughter having someone share her bed than it would for your son (Go on lad!!) but as Headrat suggests, its better than them having sex behind your back.
 
LordSplodge said:
18. My house, my rules. If they don't like it it's tough ****.
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Then expect to see you little girl being had against a tree on some police programme, or maybe in your bed while you're out!

I have a daughter and hopefully by the time this becomes an issue she will have enough respect for herself and her mother and I to do anything silly. If it was a long term boyfriend then I'd probably let him stay over as long as he seemed OK, if he was toe rag scum I'd probably just do by best to scare him off ;)
 
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Two of my friends (girl and boy) are still not allowed to sleep in the same room/bed if they stay over their parents. They are both 26 and have been together for 7 years! Always cracks me up. Plus they already live in a flat on their own.

Personally I think 18 for both is a fair age but maybe I could be persuaded depending on the attitudes and how responsible I think they are, but then that could set a precedence if you've got more than one sprog.

For me it just happened, the girlfriend came round one day like many others and didn't go home one night, nothing was ever said in my house and it kept happening till I went to uni. Her parents were never to keen on me staying over in the same room (and I personally think her dad designed her bedroom so she could never have a double bed in there!) Just added to the danger of getting caught so we did it anyway and they never found out.
 
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