in my opinion this happens to a lot of women. They have few hobbies and find that their lives are empty especially as they age and men loose interest. Time that was spent socialising and dating or raising kids turns into a need for some sort of social dilemma. This must be worse if her husband has left her as she will have to leave the house to get her fix. if I was to offer any advice I would try to divert her attention from the fence so that she has something else to concern herself with.
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I really hate people who try to vilify others over stuff that is clearly an accident.
I think the solution here is quite simple. Point out to her that these are your friends she is threatening over a minor accident that they have already promised to put right. If she continues to behave like that, you will stop acting as an intermediary and let her do what she can through the police (Advise friend to report it). She will then be entitled to as much repair work as she can prove they damaged. Given you already repaired the damage, this will be 0.
Then falcon punch her for emphasis.
I think the solution here is quite simple. Point out to her that these are your friends she is threatening over a minor accident that they have already promised to put right. If she continues to behave like that, you will stop acting as an intermediary and let her do what she can through the police (Advise friend to report it). She will then be entitled to as much repair work as she can prove they damaged. Given you already repaired the damage, this will be 0.
Then falcon punch her for emphasis.
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In my opinion, this is not criminal damage and you'd find it difficult for any criminal offence to be considered here.
What I would suggest is that you do get the fence fixed somehow as neighbour disputes have a habit of getting childish very quickly and can fly out of all proportion. A bit of stubbornness isn't worth this.
What I would suggest is that you do get the fence fixed somehow as neighbour disputes have a habit of getting childish very quickly and can fly out of all proportion. A bit of stubbornness isn't worth this.
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I agree entirely. I just don't need the hassle. My job is getting on top of me enough as it is, nevermind some busy body neighbour with nothing better to do.
Sod having neighbours like that!
When i first got the BMW on the road I hadnt finished the driveway yet so the whole front garden was a mess and the BMW was having to be parked sideways, it was a total mess
Basically i ended up reversing into my neighbours short and very rotten fence post (holding up a chain that linked to another post)
His gard was a tad over grown so i hadnt even seen the post before i broke it. I went round, appologised and promised to fix it when we layed the front garden
Front garden got layed, post got fixed, lovely happy neighbours!
When i first got the BMW on the road I hadnt finished the driveway yet so the whole front garden was a mess and the BMW was having to be parked sideways, it was a total mess
Basically i ended up reversing into my neighbours short and very rotten fence post (holding up a chain that linked to another post)
His gard was a tad over grown so i hadnt even seen the post before i broke it. I went round, appologised and promised to fix it when we layed the front garden
Front garden got layed, post got fixed, lovely happy neighbours!
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Well. Arranged for my friend to call round to see her Saturday @ 5pm. She was inflexible on the time (he wanted to come at 3pm). So he re-arranged his plans so that he could come down.
@ 4:30ish she sent my OH a message saying he can't come because she has reported it to police and its now a police matter.
My friend popped down anyway with his fencing friend and he tapped on the door to try and speak with her and she just said she can't speak with him and closed the door in his face.
Surely when (IF) the police ever show up they will have the common sense to see that my mate is trying to do the right thing (above and beyond IMHO) and she is just being obstructive and unreasonable.
Just in case I've printed off all the SMS from my OH's phone that she's sent showing how she's nicey pie one minute then a raving looney the next.
@ 4:30ish she sent my OH a message saying he can't come because she has reported it to police and its now a police matter.
My friend popped down anyway with his fencing friend and he tapped on the door to try and speak with her and she just said she can't speak with him and closed the door in his face.
Surely when (IF) the police ever show up they will have the common sense to see that my mate is trying to do the right thing (above and beyond IMHO) and she is just being obstructive and unreasonable.
Just in case I've printed off all the SMS from my OH's phone that she's sent showing how she's nicey pie one minute then a raving looney the next.
What a ridiculous situation, I feel for you. I can't believe the police would get involved with this, has a crime even been committed? How is it a "police matter"?
If your mate is up for it I would just go ahead and fix the fence with or without her consent. It certainly can't be said that you have been anything other than totally co-operative in the matter. My primary concern would be that this could eventually develop into a dispute between you and your neighbour, not a pleasant situation to be in.
This, if the police have actually been involved and she's not just spouting crap stop talking to her and go through the police.
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My friend was quite astute and recorded the conversation on his phone which clearly isn't abusive.
That is the good bit. We've asked her twice for the crime reference number/incident number and she won't tell it us.
I smells bull plop and don't think that she has even called the police (yet).
To be perfectly honest I am not worried about this fence incident any more as I am sure it will be a lot of huff and puff about nothing.
What concerns me is what sort of crap will she cook up in future. She's the "Neighbourhood Watch Co-ordinator" which I was quite happy when she set it up, as we get lower home insurance premiums, semi-regular patrols etc, however she has her nose in everyone's business and after this event I would be happy never to speak to her again!
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Not spoken to her, seen her or had a message off of her since Saturday. It's nice to have a bit of peace. Perhaps this is just the calm before the storm however?
hows about, play dumb, contact the neighbour and ask if everthing was sorted out with your friend and youre calling to make sure everythings ok because youve not seen said friend since.
her reaction will given you an indication of exactly the level of psycho youre dealing with
her reaction will given you an indication of exactly the level of psycho youre dealing with
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I'm not gonna bother. She's getting radio silence.
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Nah deffo wouldn't do that. She'd probably try to have us done for trespassing! lol
The police have already said it's a civil dispute, they won't give two tosses and my advice is forget about it, I speak from not insubstantial experience of these sorts of disputes. People like her will really become riled when they realise their noise is having no effect, smile at her, wish her a nice day each and every time you see her with a happy big smile, go out of you way to do so as I promise you, it will mess with her head in a way us normal sorts would never understand. Destroy her with ambivalence and indifference.
This, one thousand times this.
Reading the thread is hard for me as I'm ill but if you havent told your neighbour who your friend is and their address.
Tell them your friend died. A week later pop out for a few hours in a suit like your going to a funeral.
Though this means your friend cannot visit you anymore.
Tell them your friend died. A week later pop out for a few hours in a suit like your going to a funeral.
Though this means your friend cannot visit you anymore.
Interesting way to solve it...
When he comes round you could tell her he is his twin brother, and that he inherited the car. Then get him to reverse into her fence again