So I proposed............

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Rusty_Noob said:
At least you seem to have taken it in the right way :D

Congratulations :)
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No other to take them , god I've made more then fair share about 10 Dollar and Asian people. As long as its meant in a good humored way then its all good.

Rimblock sound like a broken record but links still seems to be dead ....:(
 
A friend of mine from work has not long returned from China where he had a ceremony for the families (bride & groom both Chinese) he said it lasted for several days but one of these was taken up with the grooms family traveling by train to her parents town. He also said he had never smoked and drank so much in his life (non smoker and neigh on tee total in the UK) come the end he had to resort to water and pretend to be drinking the rice wine.

My 2 pennys worth: Wear lots of red.
 
divaboy said:
She's explained all the red letters stuff , but in Taiwan all this goes to the Brides parents. however she doesn't want a huge wedding etc etc. But she thinks her parents won't be happy with that......
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utter rubbish. red letters go to pay for the actual banquet so that your should net zero. Can't believe she told you that.

One HK girl tried to tell my parents during my brothers wedding in taiwan and they nearly called off the wedding.

Think about it - the red letters should generally net you around 20k gbp more or less depending. However on top of the banquet, why should this go to her parents and not yours?

I get really frustrated when girls try this.

This is not "tradition". And I'm not even going to go there.

But congrats on the proposal.

Obviously if you are totally loaded, its not going to make a difference. You might even be asked to pay the "upfront fee"
 
Dimitris said:
utter rubbish. red letters go to pay for the actual banquet so that your should net zero. Can't believe she told you that.

One HK girl tried to tell my parents during my brothers wedding in taiwan and they nearly called off the wedding.

Think about it - the red letters should generally net you around 20k gbp more or less depending. However on top of the banquet, why should this go to her parents and not yours?

I get really frustrated when girls try this.

This is not "tradition". And I'm not even going to go there.

But congrats on the proposal.

Obviously if you are totally loaded, its not going to make a difference. You might even be asked to pay the "upfront fee"
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Maybe I didn't explain myself correctly , she meant if her dad by tradition organized and paid for the entire wedding then the red letters should go to her family to cover there costs.

However clearly if we paid for the wedding then the red letters would go to us. Either way she doesn't really want her dad paying for a huge wedding , she wants a simple small wedding etc etc. But I understand where you are coming from ......

If you have any other advice would be interested in hearing it ..........
 
misunderstood:p

who the red letter goes does really depend on who pays for the banquet.

Generally, you would take the photos in advance so that you can choose one as a banner thing for your banquet.

Not sure how applicable it is or her family, but a "tradition" is the aspect of the groom giving some money to the brides father. This used to be a lot but nowadays is more of a token which isn't much - around 1k gbp? In theory the parent should give back this money in terms of furniture etc etc.

The wedding doesn't last that long. you can go to the registrar before the banquet or etc but it doesn't take 3 days. just 1.

Banquets are held mostly in hotels and depending on the financial muscle of her parents, it would dictate how many guests and what type of luxury. "generally speaking", the red letters should net zero.

The hotel banquets would accept a deposit and the remaining about after the wedding as they know its generally relying on the red letters etc.

also, depending on the religion of your bride, it might or it might not include church.

Weddings are tiring and even more so the preparation. The banquet and the change of clothes is only for the banquet. Generally after the banquet, the groom and bride will generally stay the night at the hotel.

grr, too many details. Would be easier if you asked questions:)
 
Dimitris said:
misunderstood:p

who the red letter goes does really depend on who pays for the banquet.

Generally, you would take the photos in advance so that you can choose one as a banner thing for your banquet.

Not sure how applicable it is or her family, but a "tradition" is the aspect of the groom giving some money to the brides father. This used to be a lot but nowadays is more of a token which isn't much - around 1k gbp? In theory the parent should give back this money in terms of furniture etc etc.

The wedding doesn't last that long. you can go to the registrar before the banquet or etc but it doesn't take 3 days. just 1.

Banquets are held mostly in hotels and depending on the financial muscle of her parents, it would dictate how many guests and what type of luxury. "generally speaking", the red letters should net zero.

The hotel banquets would accept a deposit and the remaining about after the wedding as they know its generally relying on the red letters etc.

also, depending on the religion of your bride, it might or it might not include church.

Weddings are tiring and even more so the preparation. The banquet and the change of clothes is only for the banquet. Generally after the banquet, the groom and bride will generally stay the night at the hotel.

grr, too many details. Would be easier if you asked questions:)
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No seriously your input is awesome. I thing its a tricky one as my partner and her mam are a modern Taiwanese people. However her dad is seem to be pretty traditional person (doesn't like to lose face) and been in Australia its pretty hard for her to get a idea on what the general mood is over there :o

So i'm trying to do my bit and research , research on the the whole western/eastern wedding thing. trying to find a balance of both would be good. Maybe to give everyone at the wedding an insight on how different cultures live.

Phew its a good job i'm unemployed with a reasonable level of cash behind me.........lets hope its enough :p

Apart from forumosa anyone know any good websites ............
 
Sorry, missed your reply.

Pics url double boiled with six treasure sauce, err, sorry, fixed now.... and tested (required the www at the beginning) :D.

I have just confirmed about who traditionally pays with my boss (mainland Chinese by birth athough now Singaporean by citizenship). Typically now the Bride and Groom will pay for the wedding but if the parents pay it will generally be the Grooms parents.

Remember generally, the bride is moving out of her family and in to the grooms. This is one reason why male childern are prefered, else the family is raising the child to be passed to someone else and who is to look after the mother and father in their old age :).

Need to check out with her about the dowry though. I was exempt but only because my wife was already divorced, as was I, so she already had one paid by her previous husband. I also was not obligated for the banquet :D.

RB
 
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