so whose mrs earns more than them?

[Disco Boy]

My girlfriend (so not a misses quite yet) doesn't presently earn more than me - she's an undergraduate with zero income whereas I'm a postgraduate with a stipend.

When she graduates this summer she'll most probably be starting a grad scheme where she'll be earning more than me (probably not considerably, I'm on £18k untaxed, she will be on up to £28k, taxed).

But the gap will only get bigger as she'll have a steep curve for her income whereas for three years I'll still be on the same. Then after I graduate I'll start earning more, but it'll definitely be less than her (very unlikely that I'll start on £30k+, especially if I remain in academia).

For me it'll just feel a bit strange that she'll be earning more than me, are there any men out there where this is the state of play in your relationship?

 

[Disco Boy]

When you graduate you hope you will find a job and won't end up in the dole queue or working behind a bar, filled with people drinking away their sorrows of unemployment?

Fairly certain that the chances of that are slim considering that I am doing a worthwhile qualification from a top university, but thanks

 

[Disco Boy]

My wife earns about $90k a year more than me. I earn a good wage and we're both pretty comfortable with that.

OP - why would it be strange that one of the partners earns more?

Well I suppose it's because my mum has never worked, my dad is the sole earner and if I have a child with my girlfriend (years off...) then I'd like her to be able to leave her job (at least for a few years). But if she's on £60k++ by then and I'm on significantly less (impossible to estimate as it depends on what I do which is as yet undecided) then it'd be madness.