Some advice for a young'un needed

Scuzi

Scuzi

Scuzi

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First of all a bit of background info.
I'm 20, from Northern Ireland but 18 months ago moved to England to take a job. The first 15 months or so involved living in Bournemouth where I did my training after which I was posted to my unit which is just up the road from Heathrow. While I was living in Bournemouth I was sharing a house with one of my colleagues and a couple or trainee pilots. When I moved to where I am now I thought it would be nice to have my own place so rented a house by myself.

Now, the problem. I love my job. The job satisfaction is second to none, the salary is good, my colleagues are great, the perks are great and I get a lot of time off. I feel extremely privileged to be doing what I do. I'm 20, I have 3 crap A-levels to my name and I'm earning a very decent living, something I didn't imagine would happen so quickly.
The only problem is that I'm lonely where I am. I work for 6 days then have 4 days off and I'm now at the point where I dread my days off. I live by myself which is great sometimes but being alone for up to 4 days at a time is really getting me down. The only proper friends I have in England live in central London and I really only get to see them once, maybe twice a month. I don't mean to offend anyone by what I'm about to say but compared to people in Ireland, in general, people down here aren't as friendly. I find a lot more people to be ignorant, arrogant and in general unapproachable. There are some really decent people but they seem to be few and far between.
It's not like I don't try either. I go out as often as I can afford to try to meet new people but I find it really hard over here which is strange as I found it one of the easiest things to do in Ireland.

So, I'm in a dilema. I don't know whether to give my current situation a bit more time to see how it pans out or do I scrap it all and move back to Ireland.

I want to stay but I cannot stress how much I hate sitting around this house by myself. I'll probably never get the opportunity to do a job I enjoy as much as I do now or one that pays as well as it does so it seems a damn waste to throw the towel in after 18 months of hard training to get where I am. But, then again, I can't imagine sitting here bored out of my skull for the next 2 years (when my unit is moving down to Southampton).

I suppose I just needed to get that off my chest but I'd like to hear your opinions on the matter, maybe someone with a clearer mind can steer me in the right direction.

Thanks :)
 
I know it sounds overly simplistic but go where you are happiest.

Its always a personal choice between job/money/social life etc. but when you balance up all of those which place makes you more satisfied.

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Grow an alter-ego. Hours of fun talking to yourself!

Or, invest in more gaming consoles--that'd sap up enough spare time so that your days off would just fly by.
 
Take up a hobby, do something or a few things you enjoy and go meet others with a similar interest. It seems these days (if you're over 20) the only way to meet people apart from at work is either down the pub (when you're already with friends) or doing a hobby. Take up martial arts or RC trucks/helicopters etc. Why can't you go out with other people from your work, they surely have the same days off as you? Say to a few of them you have a route planned to go biking. Do some cross country and downhill etc.
 
Scuzi said:
I don't mean to offend anyone by what I'm about to say but compared to people in Ireland, in general, people down here aren't as friendly. I find a lot more people to be ignorant, arrogant and in general unapproachable. There are some really decent people but they seem to be few and far between.
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No offence taken, it's completely true. That's the first thing Irish people notice when they come to England. Never been to Ireland but by the sounds of it it's a much friendlier place.
 
Friends come and go, a career sets you up for life. You seem to me from the forums and when I met you briefly a few years ago to be a very nice, genuine guy. I'm sure you'll make friends eventually it's just a case of putting yourself about, so to speak which is not the easiest thing to.

If you give up now, you might find yourself in 3-4 years time thinking 'what if?'. There's nothing worse than regret.

Failing that, Schizophrenia is fun :).
 
Yeah, seriously - finding a good career is not an easy thing. Jacking it in for two years of being lonely may become your biggest ever regret. I would stick to it like poo to fur and just try and work out the friends thing. Sometimes it can take a few months to meet the right people.
 
You could do a lot in 4 days off?

Several ideas:

New hobby/hobbies
Set-up & Run a small business

Both will keep you busy and if you pick certain things under each one then you will also meet loads of people :D
 
I like the idea of taking up some sort of hobby or even going to the gym. I suppose it will get me out of the house which can only be a good thing. I'll take a look in the local rag to see whats going on.
Moving house isn't really an option at the minute as I'm tied in with a contract until May. If things are still as they are by then I might consider a move.


I think the alter-ego/schizophrenia might come involuntarily if I don't sort something out! ;)

Thanks for the replies :)
 
It's a bit geeky but next time there's an OcUK meet in/around London, go to it! That's a sure fire way to meet some like minded people. I've made some good 'real life' friends through this forum, other notorious individuals have even found long term boyfriends/girlfriends.

Charity work sounds like a good idea.
 
you should go find some nice shaved pussy ;)
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or invest it in : beer :D
 
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Works night out?

Can you not do some hours at Heathrow/Gatwick doing something? (You still work in ATC right?) Get to know some of the flight attendants (:D) and staff there, organize (or join in) a few nights out maybe?
 
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