Some advice for a young'un needed

dude, you're near Heathrow. People in London etc aren't very friendly. That's what built up areas and cities are like.
 
Scuzi said:
First of all a bit of background info.
I don't mean to offend anyone by what I'm about to say but compared to people in Ireland, in general, people down here aren't as friendly. I find a lot more people to be ignorant, arrogant and in general unapproachable. There are some really decent people but they seem to be few and far between.
It's not like I don't try either. I go out as often as I can afford to try to meet new people but I find it really hard over here which is strange as I found it one of the easiest things to do in Ireland.


Thanks :)
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I don't think anyone can take offense as in my expirence it's very much true, it does seem to vary from place to place, i've lived in Brizzle all my life and found the people to be incredibly plesant, as have all my mates from Uni who have come from all over the country. they may sound and look a little slow, but damn it they are nice people. Also seems from my expirence that the further south you go the less approachable randoms seem to be, when i've been up noorf randoms alwasy seem really friendly, yet in London randoms don't seem to have the time of day for anyone else, must be the pace of life there, just seems a lot faster, while over here people seem to blob along hapily on their way to wherever they are going not really bothered when they get there, just as long as they do in the end.

Just get involved in some clubs which you are interested in, that way you will meet people with at least something in common with you and it's a good starting point to making friends.
 
I'd definately go with the gym option, personally, as you'll be getting some exercise (not saying that you need any! :p) and you might even meet some 'hot ass'.
 
hey Scuzi,

It sounds like a dream job that you'll soon regret leaving should you decide to move back here. I'm only a few years older than you and haven't found that 'dream' job and many never find it at all. As suggested before in this thread, get yourself some hobbies with people with similar interests to you and you'll soon meet people worthy of your friendship. You come across as a really level headed and sound bloke especially at 20yrs old. From the sounds of it you definitely need someone to move in with you to combat the loneliness. You could advertise and you may even get someone from N.Ireland or someone in the same position as you (living away from home).

all the best mate :)
 
Does your shift pattern hinder your social life, does it make joining clubs etc a pain?

Guys, drinking plus his job dont mix too well.
 
Thanks for the replies everyone, they've certainly opened up a few more options for me. I think I'm just going to go to the gym more often and in general make more of an effort to visit my mates whatever the cost. My shift patterns do interfere with a lot of things, especially if I wanted to join a club or something. Going to the pub more often isn't really an option either as I can't risk going to work with any alcohol in me, although I'll be out on my days off ;)

Again, thanks for the replies!

(P.S. John, ygm)
 
I had no idea you were 20! I always thought you were much older than me!

London isnt a very friendly place at all but if you get into a good social circle (surely starting with people in work) you should get on just fine :)
 
Ah someone already suggested it :P Yeah going to the gym would be great for you. You have so much time to spare by the looks of it too. It really depends on the type of guy you are, can you survive being alone by substituting it with hobbies, entertainment, etc or will you still feel the burden of being alone. All depends on you, personally I wouldnt scrap the job, what else would you do if you go back? Sure you would have mates, but what career prospects? You seem to have been given a nice door to open, dont go back!

Good luck matey! :)
 
Where abouts do you live Scuzi?

I would think about joining match.com as one option, you can meet loads of women from there in your local area. Some that will be mates, some that you won't get on with and maybe a G/F. Either way its a good way of getting out and meeting people. You may meet some of their male friends as well if you go out a few times. Its a good place to start.
 
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