sons or daughters?

jas72

jas72

jas72

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My boy is now nearly 16 months old and every day I'm thankful that I have a healthy normal boy.

However I often wonder if my boy had been a girl what things would be like.

I secretly hoped for a boy all through the pregnancy (we didn't find out before), nearer the end you don't really care about the sex of the child just so long as everything is where it should be and both mother and child are ok. However, inside I was beaming from ear to ear when they said it's a boy!

Do other fathers feel the same as me do most men secretly want sons and why is that?

For me it's the imagined games that I will have with him that I probably wouldn't have with a daughter, you know lego trainsets etc.

I'm very close to my neice who is now 4 but she has started with dolls and teasets I love her like she were my own daughter but playing with teasets bores me mental and it's a tough job pretending to have a cup of tea every 2 mins. :rolleyes:

Already my son prefers other toys, he has the choice of a full range of girl's toys at his aunt's house but he still goes for the cars or trucks and never touches the dolls. I read somewhere that society programmes kids to act as boys or girls but from watching my son I disagree with that arguement. Why does he play with the and cars and not the prams or dolls even at 16 months?

Probably things will change as he gets older but now 16 months after his 1st breath I still say a small prayer of thanks that he's a boy.
 
Got one of each (son 3 and daughter 6 months).

Best of both worlds but I'm glad my boy was born first.
 
agreed with all of that... my son will be 12 weeks old on Saturday. We also didnt find out until the birth as we wanted to be having the old fashioned suprise of finding out when 'its' arrived.

Were you present at the birth? (judging by the wording you werent) I had to laugh that was the only part of our 'birth plan' that happened according to our wishes. Although I didnt expect to be in the surgical theatre wearing the gown looking over the hole in my wifes tummy to pronounce the sex of my child...

I never once before fully understood people who said 'when you have your own you will understand' now I most definately do :D
 
My dad wanted a boy, he got three girls :p

Lucky for him, none of us were very girly girls and when we were younger liked to play with cars, lego and the Scalextric set he bought us.
 
sara said:
I was one of those kids who liked toys that 'did' things. Dolls were very boring...
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I have a ten week old daughter. When she popped out my wife, who had said she didn't care proclaimed she had wanted a girl really. I must admit I hope our next is a boy, just as my wife really wanted to have a girl.

I think as a bloke you just think of doing things like fishing, footie etc and the excuse to get a scalectix !

If we have another girl I know I'll want to have another. My other half has always said if we had two boys she would want a third. I think one of each is ideal.
 
I was at the birth but the wife insisted I was at the top end incase I was put off the old heave ho hehe ;) So I couldn't really see much it wasn't until he was placing the wee one on my wife that I found out. But he did say it as it was happening.

To be honest it's really no place for a man and if I could get away with it I'd rather not do it again.

Also my wife is hankering after a daughter and I keep reminding her what having 2 sons would mean. I have 2 brothers and know how much destruction 2 boys can make hehe.
 
jas72 said:
I was at the birth but the wife insisted I was at the top end incase I was put off the old heave ho hehe ;) So I couldn't really see much it wasn't until he was placing the wee one on my wife that I found out. But he did say it as it was happening.

To be honest it's really no place for a man and if I could get away with it I'd rather not do it again.

Also my wife is hankering after a daughter and I keep reminding her what having 2 sons would mean. I have 2 brothers and know how much destruction 2 boys can make hehe.
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lol, my wife managed to get more sleep than I did... slight whiff of painkillers and she was snoring away happily... Seats in these NHS rooms cannot be slept on even after 48 hours awake (no it wasnt a quick process, my lad, much like myself proved to be lazy in his approach to getting out, according to the heart monitor on him he was sleeping soundly while his known world tried to eject him). For my sins I was handed the control of the Tens machine (electric zappy pain relief). Having been given a glare that would have frozen the blood in satans veins for being slightly late on the button, I almost developed a 6th sense for the random contractions.

I do remember being asked by a nurse in theatre if I was squeemish, My answer was that I believe we were about to find out. TBH the experience has left us both with a feeling that 1 may well be enough :)
 
jas72 said:
Already my son prefers other toys, he has the choice of a full range of girl's toys at his aunt's house but he still goes for the cars or trucks and never touches the dolls.
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Pheew, I bet that's a relief. The old doll and truck test. :p :D

TBH I think most men prefer to have boys for the reasons already mentioned. Since I been an adult I have also noticed how many women would also prefer a boy, especially there first. But on the whole are less bothered either way.
 
jas72 said:
Also my wife is hankering after a daughter and I keep reminding her what having 2 sons would mean. I have 2 brothers and know how much destruction 2 boys can make hehe.
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Have another son jas, means more members for cod 2 :p :D
 
penski said:
Although I want neither, imagine the frustrations of having a teenage daughter...

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As a wise old mate once said to me...

If you have a son you only have one dick to worry about, have a daughter and its every dick in the neighbourhood
 
If\when I have kids I'll be praying for a boy first, 2 boys then a girl would be ideal I reckon. I want to be able to play football, go fishing, buy scalextrix and train sets, talk about cars, and get him down the local for a pint or two when he's old enough.
 
I have three sons and two daughters. I must be honest, I really wasn't concerned with the sex provided they were healthy. I'm convinced that if we have another it will be a girl, though. I can't see that it matters much. Having said that, imagine being the only guy in a household of 6 women......what a nightmare :eek: :D
 
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