I don't think an i3 and 460GTX would cope with arma 2. Not that it isn't a great combo, just that arma 2 needs a
lot more performance to run well.
Article on Arma 2 performance
Even on overclcoked highest-end hardware (Core i7; 12 GiByte RAM and a GTX 285 with 2 GiByte VRAM) ArmA 2 becomes a slide show (less than 15 fps) running at 1,280 x 1,024 pixels with very high details. You have to go to low or medium details and have to activate Pixel Doubling (which is ugly) to get playable framerates. Given the performance you shouldn't even think about Anti Aliasing, but the Real Virtuality Engine doesn't support it, as well as any SLI or Crossfire modes, anyway.
(I think patches have helped a little) That is with older graphics cards, but I think even a 5970 would strugle to get away with > 30fps at your res. Something beefier than an i3 is also a must
As far as photoshop goes, you will be fine for performance with pretty much any setup. The new hex core Phenoms are very good for desktop/editing use but not quite as good as an i7 for gaming. They are also quite cheap and overclock well - the lesser memory bandwidth (dual channel) shouldn't run into any bottlenecks, but it means a cheaper motherboard and cpu.
An i5 + dual channel ddr3 option might also suite you well, as long as you aren't going for 2 high end sli/xfire graphics cards

Infact, a well overclocked i5 can be about as good as a mediumly overclocked i7 920.
As for graphics, 5830s in xfire or 460GTXs in sli provide a lot of performance for the price - but they put more strain on the CPU I believe, i.e. arma will not be happy. (and having more cores won't help as much as it should).
For some future upgradability, you could get a first half of an sli/xfirable gpu setup. i.e. get one 460gtx on an sli p55 i5 system with the option for another later, or 1 5830/5850/5870 on more or less any board/cpu (maby not i3) and another later. If you want to game I think the future is beginning to look away from dual cores (i3), though I could be wrong - people have been for a while about that.
If you are still looking towards the pricy end of the spectrum. i7 920, asus p6t palm edition, 6GB triple channel ddr3, prolimatech megahalems + 120mm viper fan.
As for graphics, 2x 460gtx still looks good - but there are a lot of other possible options, depending on budget. (2x 460 is very good price/performance). Either way, it's cheaper and more powerful than a mac system.