Stalling for time after a successful interview

[Miganto]

So was that a counter offer from your current employer (at the time) or one of the two new employers you interviewed at?

Eventually both interviews came with an offer and the third was a raise from my current employer - the current employer was auto rejected too as they'd not been a good employer over the years and it annoys me when you suggest you are leaving and get offered more money whilst you've been rejected any pay rises 3 years in a row across the larger area we were in (but again, was open with them from soon after applying externally to give them the idea of what was happening), so moving to a new role even at the same pay was a good move for us.

I was lucky and i'm not trying to boast, i think i was in the right place at the right time, but overall imo, honesty is best - you want to work with these people for years and maybe look to work with the others in the future, best to keep doors open. Or you could just be completely cut throat and selfish and i'll call you sir presidenté of the world in 50 years

 

[dowie]

it annoys me when you suggest you are leaving and get offered more money whilst you've been rejected any pay rises 3 years in a row across the larger area we were in (but again, was open with them from soon after applying externally to give them the idea of what was happening), so moving to a new role even at the same pay was a good move for us.

Wait so did you move for a new role at the same pay as you were on at the time you applied or the same pay your employer was willing to counter with?

As in you got an offer for higher pay, your employer matched it but you figured that even for the same amount of pay you were still better off moving?

 

[Miganto]

Wait so did you move for a new role at the same pay as you were on at the time you applied or the same pay your employer was willing to counter with?

As in you got an offer for higher pay, your employer matched it but you figured that even for the same amount of pay you were still better off moving?

The latter, yes.

 

[Quartz]

I may be in this particular situation soon and wouldn't like to torpedo my own chances by holding out for other offers.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

If you have the full contract in hand you can stall for a day or two saying that you are going through the small print. You can also ask for clarification on some points. But really, isn't any employer worth their salt going to detect significant stalling and rescind your offer and offer the job to someone who really does want it? And you might fluff the final interview with the other place or any one of a thousand other things might happen.

 

[HangTime]

In your recent info of the 'poor career decision' guy, i'd auto reject him. You are going to work for these people for years/longer, they have to 'feel' right, and that kind of dealing isn't 'right' to me especially if you need their help later on - a quick emergency holiday, some bereavement, a pay rise request etc, you gotta get into a good relationship, not a shifty pushy one.

It's not clear if it's an in-house recruiter or not he was dealing with, if not then you can't really judge the company based on the behaviour of a recruiter, they will push hard because they just want their commission. If we rejected every job represented by a ******* third party recruiter then a third of jobs would likely remain unfilled . An in-house recruiter... well, even then I'd bear in mind depending on what role you are going into you might never speak to that person again, and recruiters tend to be a bit flighty anyway. Certainly it's highly unlikely they would have anything to do with holidays, bereavement, pay rises etc unless perhaps they have a broader HR role.