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Rifte said:
I have rarely settled in the same area and when I was based in the UK the maximum amount of time that I have ever spent anywhere is around 6 years. On the back of this the fear of change has never really been a barrier to a decision of mine.

My most recent move is probably my ballsiest yet, when three years ago we packed up and moved to India.

For me as long as I have my wife and children with me I am convinced that I could live anywhere.

Top tips? Difficult to say. When I was in the UK I was either in one of three places (office, gym, home) and the same is here, so it does not feel that my life has changed much that way.

One thing I would say however is dont shy away from it, change doesnt have to be permanent, you dont like it.....move again. I always go with a 3 year rule.

When I move I will stay there for three years minimum however I feel about it. Once I get past this stage and if I continue to dislike it......time to move.
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Must be nearing the end of your current 3 year cycle then? Yes or no to India?
 
Dup said:
I'd sooner be paid much less and have fewer opprtunities to avoid living in a city.
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That's pretty much where I'm at mentally although I'll continue in my current job for now - there's a chance I might get redundancy which would work out well for me. With no mortgage I could do a much lower paid local job and be a lot happier.

Maybe all this hankering for change is my mid-life crisis starting. Actually, I was thinking of pocketing some of the house sale cash for a nice car - something I've never treated myself to because nice stuff always gets keyed/damaged. ;)

@Rifte - those are some massive cojones there.
 
You need to think hard about what stopped you living the life you wanted when you were in London. Moving won’t change who you are or what you do. It just means you won’t do something in a new area.
If apathy is your main hinderence (and it usually is with people) then fixing that needs to be the priority, not moving somewhere new.
 
Ahleckz said:
You need to think hard about what stopped you living the life you wanted when you were in London. Moving won’t change who you are or what you do. It just means you won’t do something in a new area.
If apathy is your main hinderence (and it usually is with people) then fixing that needs to be the priority, not moving somewhere new.
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Nope my reasons are pretty solid really - the place I'm in is now a hole and driving me nuts, and I want to be closer to my hobbies and the countryside. I can see where you're coming from though.

I've always wanted to make the move but been too anxious about it until now given the expense. Thankfully house prices have had a spurt in recent years in my area and made it affordable. It makes sense now so many friends have moved away or have settled down - I rarely see them these days and I'm sure I can make the effort to catch up. :)

Anyways - that's the point in renting - I have an exit if I really need it (although I doubt that will happen).
 
Narj said:
Nope my reasons are pretty solid really - the place I'm in is now a hole and driving me nuts, and I want to be closer to my hobbies and the countryside. I can see where you're coming from though.

I've always wanted to make the move but been too anxious about it until now given the expense. Thankfully house prices have had a spurt in recent years in my area and made it affordable. It makes sense now so many friends have moved away or have settled down - I rarely see them these days and I'm sure I can make the effort to catch up. :)

Anyways - that's the point in renting - I have an exit if I really need it (although I doubt that will happen).
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Sounds pretty healthy and reasonable to me! Good luck!
 
skaif said:
Must be nearing the end of your current 3 year cycle then? Yes or no to India?
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Actually slightly over that now, the three year anniversary passed a couple of months back.

At the moment it is probably the best move I have made in the past 15 years.

Every place has its positives and negatives and its how you weigh up what is personally important to you and your family. At present India ticks the right boxes.
 
Once you moved, joining a sport club or some physical activity or hobby is a really good way to make new friends. I did that by starting Kendo many years ago, best thing I ever did.
 
Narj said:
Nope my reasons are pretty solid really - the place I'm in is now a hole and driving me nuts, and I want to be closer to my hobbies and the countryside. I can see where you're coming from though.

I've always wanted to make the move but been too anxious about it until now given the expense. Thankfully house prices have had a spurt in recent years in my area and made it affordable. It makes sense now so many friends have moved away or have settled down - I rarely see them these days and I'm sure I can make the effort to catch up. :)

Anyways - that's the point in renting - I have an exit if I really need it (although I doubt that will happen).
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Born and bred Londoner here. Live in a leafy 'nice part NW London. I turned 44 and started hankering same as you. London is a pit stop in life imho. Majority of London is a cesspit.

Good move fella, make your the next phase of your life meaningful.
 
TacticalFish said:
Which area was that out of interest? Addenbrookes way by any chance?
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I looked at a few areas - St Neot's and WaterBeach for example but not Addenbrookes. What annoys me about Cambridgeshire is that developers have been allowed to renege on their promises to build public services and facilities, instead increasing housing density at the last minute. They have also failed to get public transport on board as promised. It doesn't bode well in my opinion so therefore I have a negative outlook on what they will provide going forward.

People should be held accountable and prosecuted for this kind of betrayal IMO but we all know there are brown envelopes floating around with councillors so it'll never happen.

IronWarrior said:
Once you moved, joining a sport club or some physical activity or hobby is a really good way to make new friends. I did that by starting Kendo many years ago, best thing I ever did.
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Yes, this is now the plan - the meetup suggestion was awesome. I'll also use my club affiliation card to visit local watering holes - that's always a good way of meeting locals :)
 
i think the biggest hurdle to moving is a mental one ,doing it is pretty easy ,i came down to cornwall 4 years back for a lifestyle change ,on my 4 day weekends i bodyboard ,coastal walk .take my dog swimming in the gannel crantock , week in week out and year round , genuinely feels like a constant holiday
 
moon man said:
i think the biggest hurdle to moving is a mental one ,doing it is pretty easy ,i came down to cornwall 4 years back for a lifestyle change ,on my 4 day weekends i bodyboard ,coastal walk .take my dog swimming in the gannel crantock , week in week out and year round , genuinely feels like a constant holiday
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Yeah I mentioned you in a thread a while back and really admired how you just escaped everything with your move. You are probably one of the most content people on this forum tbh.

I'd love to go to Cornwall but I just don't think it's right for me right now. It may be my end game, however as I absolutely love the place. I just couldn't find work right now. :)
 
At 21 I left home in leafy Hampshire and moved to urban St Helens. I might not have done, but my Dad kind of insisted.

It did not do me any harm and 45 years later I still live in the Northern half of England, just.
 
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