It's worth looking into an Anti Mode
@barmyllama
To give you a very brief idea of what it does, it helps it integrate (work) with your main speakers, so it's less black and white difference between speakers and sub, and more of a shades of grey system, where's there's a seamless transition between speakers and sub.
One of the best purchases I have made, and shortly after buying one, I moved to complete room correction
It helps get the most out of any sub, and would recommend.
I would have offered to demo post covid, but you're quite a way from me