Taking the blame

RetiredGreyFox · 18 May 2008 at 17:42

On friday I had a telling off because I broke protocol.
The week before the Chairman had bought me 2 pints at a 'do' and kept me company for over an hour asking how he could make my job better and to get in touch with him for anything.
On friday I took him at his word, sent an email (with permission) with attachments and he rang me at 3pm.
My big boss was listening to the conversation unaware who I was talking to.
The Chairman asked me a question I was unsure of and told me to get back when I had an answer.
My boss then asked who rang me and when I told her she went white.
She told me that even if he was my lover there was a protocol to speak to him at work and that was through her.
I took the blame and carried on.
About an hour later I walked into the office and she asked why I hadn't dobbed my superior in who told me to do it.
She couldn't understand how she could give me a 5 min lecture without me saying anything to clear myself.
I told her that I came from a rough area and you never dob anybody in.

So, anybody here took the blame?

Indy500 · 18 May 2008 at 17:44

Sounds like a stupid protocol to me.

Ben M · 18 May 2008 at 17:45

what? who could you have dobbed in it? =\

and that's a ridiculous protocol, not being allowed to speak to the person at the top is very strange =\

Tefal · 18 May 2008 at 17:45

lol sounds like she's worried your going to either nick her job or get her in trouble.

Guilty conscience she's done something she knows she shouldn't have and doesn't want you letting it slip

Find out what it is and get blackmailing

Tom0 · 18 May 2008 at 17:51

She's being a bureaucrat because she wants to stick her big fat nose in your work (not suprising seeing as shes your boss) but it sounds like shes put out as you're new in the place and already making high powered friends she doesnt have.

RetiredGreyFox · 18 May 2008 at 17:52

Ben M said:
what? who could you have dobbed in it? =\

dmpoole said:
About an hour later I walked into the office and she asked why I hadn't dobbed my superior in who told me to do it.

the shadow · 18 May 2008 at 17:59

Nobody will cough with you knowing the top dogs sends shivers down managers

they wont take the pizz :cool:

Ben M · 18 May 2008 at 18:05

dmpoole said:
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In your account you don't say which superior told you to do anything.

If you mean the chairman, I don't see how it'd be dubbing him, he's the chairman afterall. Telling your manager that he had asked you to would result in nothing, because the chairman is presumeably the boss of your manager.

Adz · 18 May 2008 at 18:31

Surely the 'protocol' is there to prevent important people from being hassled unnecessarily. Since the chairman invited your e-mail then you've done nothing wrong.

I agree that the supervisor was offended that you went over her head and jealous of your rapport with the chairman.

TriedandTested · 18 May 2008 at 18:40

You didn't do anything wrong, regardless of what 'protocol' this jobs-worth manager has put in place.

It might get you noticed too, rather than being one of the 'sheep'. More so if you were helping him out in any way.

Tenzen · 18 May 2008 at 18:45

keep company with those at the top, ****** the bosses off no end

) also leaves you virtually untouchable.

RetiredGreyFox · 18 May 2008 at 20:12

Ben M said:
In your account you don't say which superior told you to do anything.

dmpoole said:
On friday I had a telling off because I broke protocol.
The week before the Chairman had bought me 2 pints at a 'do' and kept me company for over an hour asking how he could make my job better and to get in touch with him for anything.
On friday I took him at his word, sent an email (with permission) with attachments and he rang me at 3pm.
My big boss was listening to the conversation unaware who I was talking to.
The Chairman asked me a question I was unsure of and told me to get back when I had an answer.
My boss then asked who rang me and when I told her she went white.
She told me that even if he was my lover there was a protocol to speak to him at work and that was through her.
I took the blame and carried on.
About an hour later I walked into the office and she asked why I hadn't dobbed my superior in who told me to do it.
She couldn't understand how she could give me a 5 min lecture without me saying anything to clear myself.
I told her that I came from a rough area and you never dob anybody in.

The clue is in the highlights.
Theres a Chairman, a big boss and a Superior.
The Superior told me to get in contact with the Chairman which the Big Boss didn't like and I took the blame.
Everybody else got it.

Scuzi · 18 May 2008 at 20:15

dmpoole said:
Everybody else got it.

I don't think they did. Your wording is very confusing given that "big boss", "boss" and "superior" appear to be the one person, as does the "chairman" and "superior".

RandomTom · 18 May 2008 at 20:18

dmpoole said:
Everybody else got it.

'Fraid I didn't when I read it, do now though, and think that your superior is a little tight.

Pestilence · 18 May 2008 at 20:19

Yeah, it seemed to me that the Chairman (I'm assuming the Head of Heads) told you at the do that you could come to him any time. So, with his prior permission you emailed him and had a chat. The reason you couldn't dob anybody in was because it was the Chairman himself who allowed you to break protocol.

Left me thinking at the end why you didn't just tell your boss that the Chairman himself allowed this, so bog off. Makes sense now though.

RetiredGreyFox · 18 May 2008 at 20:27

Pestilence said:
Left me thinking at the end why you didn't just tell your boss that the Chairman himself allowed this, so bog off. Makes sense now though.

I did tell my big boss but she said that what The Chairman tells me over a pint doesn't equate in the workplace.
My Superior sat their silent because she told me to do it.

Masterdog · 18 May 2008 at 20:28

Yeah I'd do the same thing I think...I'm not from a particularly rough area, or even a slightly rough area, but I think I come across as whiny if I try and make excuses, even valid ones. I'm probably wrong about that, but I prefer to just keep me trap shut.

Moredhel · 18 May 2008 at 20:40

Why don't you 'dob' people in? Surely stepping on others to get to the top is part of the fun of doing it?

edit: that is meant in jest, just realised it probably wouldn't be taken as such without a smilie of some sort. so here's a

Hitman_Leon · 18 May 2008 at 20:43

If it continues tell the one who is getting on your back you want to talk about the whole thing in the open in front of the higher one. Then that will either shut her up because she dose not want to look like a trouble causer in front of the big boss or she will go with you on it and the big boss will see she is trying to stifle his relations in the company by trying to be the middle man between him and anyone who wants to tell him anything. That in turn may make it seem to him like she might keep things from him and make her look like the red tape fool she seems to be. It could even show him why she dose not want you to talk to him maybe she is not so good at her job and by inviting you to talk to him he was fishing for information to see how she performs.

Pestilence · 18 May 2008 at 20:45

Success is achieved atop a mountain of the weak.

dmpoole said:
I did tell my big boss but she said that what The Chairman tells me over a pint doesn't equate in the workplace.
My Superior sat their silent because she told me to do it.

However, doesn't your "Big Boss" also bend to the whim of the Chairman? Obviously if the Chairman is happy to accept your unsolicited correspondance after having told you so, the decision is his, not hers. As such "bog off", applies.