I live in Fareham! I also know Ciphon and Eulogy IRL
I live the very top end of Highlands/Kiln Lane way. Not too far from Funtley which is all very nice. My area is very quiet, lots of fields and Fareham wood is a 30 second walk. Very family orientated, kids out playing on their bikes, nice and quiet at night - no trouble and peaceful.
There are some proper rubbish areas though, as with most Towns/Cities. Avoid middle/botton of highlands (Stow estate) as it's a hole and scum live there. All in all Fareham town centre has average high street shopping, nothing special. Same with bars. However, I'd go to Portsmouth or Southampton for a decent night out as I'm sure most would.
The train station is accessable and has some nice areas. As mentioned Gudgeheath Lane seems a nice place to live and there are some little cul-de-sac type places that might do. I'm more like a 5min drive or a 30 minute walk from the station.
I also work in Southampton, I have used the Train/Bus before. It's £6.50 return on train to Soton Central. Trains are quiet frequent in either direction. Although I'm no fan of public transport.
I ride a motorbike and it takes me 20-25 minutes, regardless, to get to Soton (J5 Eastliegh airport).
Definatley sounds like we need to have a Fareham meet! I suppose we could include Khaaan! too as he is only in Gosport. (*spits*)
I'd be happy to answer any more specific questions you might have OP!