Thanks dad

Sorry to hear dude, my mum passed away in August with metastatic brain cancer, it amazed me how quickly she deterioated. Chin up, it gets easier with time.
 
Horrible for thing to go through mate, very glad you got to spend a good XMas with him and hugged him goodbye. All the best.
 
Feel for you and your family OP - I lost my Dad in October 2010, and although life carries on, it's always hard to imagine I'll never see him again.

My thoughts are with you though, and of course your family.
 
Sorry for your loss :(.

I know exactly what youve been through and going through. I lost a parent to a brain tumor in 2006.
 
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Ahh man really sorry to hear of your loss. But like you said, it not being drawn out is really for the best. Watched my dad fade away over 5 years as a result of dementia before heart failure took him.

Keep your chin up m8...
 
Amleto said:
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I'm glad he got past xmas - it was a 'good' family time. He got worse quite quickly afterwards, so I'm happy for small mercies that it wasn't drawn-out.

I'd recently told him that I loved him, and our last contact was a big hug, so I have no regrets - may you all be as 'fortunate'.


ps, can anyone find the (best) dad song that was mentioned here a while back - I cant seem to find it.
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Sorry for your loss.
This wont be it, but listen the The Furey's, The Old Man, it has to be one of the best 'dad' songs ever.
They are an Irish folk band, but this song is deep.

 
Stretch said:
My dad was given 3 months in the end, it was 5 years after being diagnosed though. I never accepted it which looking back was a big mistake.

It gets bit easier but there's part of it I'll never get over. Watching someone die in front of you is pretty horrific, especially someone you've know all your life. Sounds like you got to spent some time with your dad whilst he was with you so you should be thankful for that :)
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Hi OP.

My Dad was taken into hospital just after Christmas for a hip replacement (had a broken hip for a few months, just didn't know about it!). The operation went without an issue, but then on the 3rd day of recovery, his kidneys began to shut down due to the mix of drugs from the surgery and his cancer drugs. He then fell asleep and didn't wake up after that and died on the 6th. Quite a shock to the family, we knew his cancer was advanced but the doctors said he'd still be around for at least a year if not a fair while longer.

It's awful, losing your father. The worst thing that has happened to me.

My words to you won't be 'sorry for your loss' or anything like that as ultimately they don't really help - something a friend of mine told me when I told her about my loss as her father had died last year.

However, just remember to greive. You'll need to be strong for the family, and help them get through this sad and terrible time. But remember to take time for yourself. If that's on your own, or with people, or with a bottle of whisky and your thoughts then it's all fine (I picked the latter). Remember the man for who he was and try and get through the arrangements in a way that would make him proud.

Just take care of yourself and your family and hopefully, if you're like my family and I then you'll be able to have a good laugh and some nice times in between the sadness during the coming days and weeks.
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My Dad died suddenly nearly 4 years ago and you'd think I'd know what to say in these situations but I still don't know the answer.

Looks like Stretch and Ahleckz have summed it up best from my experiences of the awful time.

Thoughts are with you and your loved ones, Amleto.
 
I've already replied to this thread with condolences. But one piece of advice I want to give is that, as a father, I know I will die one day and I know my children will be holding my hand, in just the way I held my fathers hand, as he closed his eyes. That was a tough moment for me and one I will never forget. And I don't want to.

So this is natures way of passing the baton to you. Over the next few years you will realise you fill the gap of your father, being more mature. When you have kids (not sure if you do right now) then the death of your father maes you realise that one of the reasons you are here is to prepare your children for a time when you aren't here anymore... to equip them to live life, and enjoy life, when you're not here.

All the best...
 
Really sorry to hear about your Dad.
I lost my Mum in 2007 and my Dad last April.
All I can say is just take each day as it comes.
Everyday I think of my parents and it hurts, give things time mate.
 
j.col said:
Sorry for your loss.
This wont be it, but listen the The Furey's, The Old Man, it has to be one of the best 'dad' songs ever.
They are an Irish folk band, but this song is deep.

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ah, missed that. Yes, that is the one I recall, although I didn't describe it very well. Thanks, I wouldn't have found it again.
 
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