That's it, I've got to calm down!

Soldato
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Blimey, I've just been in a bit of a road rage situation, and although still fuming, I really think I need to learn how to calm down when these things happen..

I was just accelerating away from the M4 tolls into Wales, it's a huge funnel of 12 lanes into 3 over about 1/4 mile.
The lanes are split into roughly groups of 4, and each four funnel down into one of the normal motorway lanes.
Anyway, there I am just getting upto speed, and I am in the right hand set of lanes, filtering into what will be the fast lane of the motorway. I was doing about 70 and coming alongside someone that was in the middle set of lanes, which filter into the middle lane of the motorway, at this point we are just at the end of the filtering section and it's normal motorway.

I am now about 1/4 of a car length in front of him, overtaking in the outside lane, he seems to ignore the white lane markings, and just careers into my lane. My 6th sense went off, as I could see him drifting over a little before he really started to change lanes, I was in 4th and being that I was 1/4 of a car length ahead, my instinct wasn't to brake, but to nail it, I accelerated hard, and swerved to the right, I was over the far white line into the verge, but did manage to just get in front of him before he hit me.

My girfriend screamed, as she thought he had hit us, although I felt no 'bump', I gently braked as I wasn't sure what was going on, only to see this person slam their anchors on and weave about a bit, clearly he hadn't seen me, and the sight of my brake lights must have woken him up, as he seemed to very much over react to just my brake lights, I hardly touched the pedal..

So a bit shaken, I carried on, with no time to feel angry, I thought that although close, it hadn't come to an accident so it wasn't too bad..

Anyway, I want get off at the next junction, and I move into the very long filter lane. The car that nearly hit me started to overtake and I obviously glanced over, expecting to see some sheepish looking person, and I had no intention of being nasty, but OMG, His missus, and some 18-20 year old in the back is giving me severe signs/grief/gesticulations...
THAT WAS IT!!!! I just flipped from shaken but calm to WTF, you nearly cause a bad accident and you think I'm a *******???
I then indicated, pulled back onto the motorway from the filter lane, and went into a bit of a point proving mission, I came up the inside of him (I know it was illegal, that didn't seem to come to mind at the time), rolled my window down, they rolled their windows down, and OMG, I've never heard a woman swear so badly in my life (and that's saying something), the guy in the back was mouthing off big style, even though we where doing 60ish, I had no problem hearing them.. so I scream back at them in such a violent manner (Not threatening them with anything, just telling them in no uncertain terms they had just nearly hit me, and can ***** ***** **** themselves. I thought I heard the guy in the back threaten me, which totally pushed me over the edge, I wanted to ram him off the road and kill him, I could feel my blood boil, i can't explain how I felt, just so angry that he'd nearly hit me and thought I was the one in the wrong that needed 'sorting out'.. I then said something, which I can't remember except using some really menacing words, etc, and absolutely screamed it at them.. whatever it was, it must have worked, there faces dropped, and they wound their windows up. I pulled off at the next junction, and went home.

I was expecting a roasting of the girlfriend, but to my surprise she was quite angry with them as well, but I still felt really ashamed and a bit remorseful..

I am sure plenty of people get in these road rage scenarios, but what surprised me is the feeling of anger I had, almost blind rage, now I've calmed down, if I saw the bloke again, I'd probably apologise, it's not the way to act, no matter who's fault it is..
 
:eek: bloody hell :eek:,

You, should have braked insted of going for it tbh but, blast the horn at him
 
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I've been in that sort of situation myself and I know it is all too easy to lose it when the red mist comes down. You have to try and tell yourself to take it easy or things could seriously escalate though.
 
I bet you taught them a lesson. WTF is it with British drivers trying to teach everyone else a lesson? Somebody made a mistake, learn from it, forget about it and move on. Is that so hard to do?

What did you hope to achieve by taking a detour so you could make a few hand signals? You wasted your time to go and create a potentially dangerous situation. You sir are a fool.

In future, just take a deep breath and move on. If you had carried on with your journey as intended it would have been a non event. You'd have no call to boil your blood.
 
Luckily I am pretty calm and tend not to get very angry over anything on the road, I only did it once and I felt ill after. Problem is you never know who the hell you are shouting at, or what they are going to do. Once you get that blind rage in you sometimes you are willing to do anything!!

At least your safe though mate, it could have been nasty from the sounds of it.
 
When you were on the sliproad and they pulled up alongside you, you should have just given them a thumbs up or a big smile when they hurled the abuse.

That's what I do, let them get on with it and just laugh to yourself.

Neil.
 
JTrickle said:
Um, dude, did you not read his post? Thats what he is trying to do here.
No it wasn't. In fact, he did quite the opposite.

Anyway, I want get off at the next junction, and I move into the very long filter lane. The car that nearly hit me started to overtake and I obviously glanced over, expecting to see some sheepish looking person, and I had no intention of being nasty, but OMG, His missus, and some 18-20 year old in the back is giving me severe signs/grief/gesticulations...
THAT WAS IT!!!! I just flipped from shaken but calm to WTF, you nearly cause a bad accident and you think I'm a *******???
I then indicated, pulled back onto the motorway from the filter lane, and went into a bit of a point proving mission

Although credit is due to him as he realises his mistake and is man enough to admit it. I muist admit I did miss the last line of his post.
 
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dirtydog said:
At the time he did, but now he realises he was wrong and he would probably agree with you :)

Aye I've just realised that, I missed the last line of his post. :o

I'm a fool too :p
 
Scuzi said:
I bet you taught them a lesson. WTF is it with British drivers trying to teach everyone else a lesson? Somebody made a mistake, learn from it, forget about it and move on. Is that so hard to do?

Let nature and physics teach them a lesson I reckon, I just leave bad drivers to it and leave them enough space/rope to hang themselves
 
Scuzi said:
I bet you taught them a lesson. WTF is it with British drivers trying to teach everyone else a lesson? Somebody made a mistake, learn from it, forget about it and move on. Is that so hard to do?

What did you hope to achieve by taking a detour so you could make a few hand signals? You wasted your time to go and create a potentially dangerous situation. You sir are a fool.

In future, just take a deep breath and move on. If you had carried on with your journey as intended it would have been a non event. You'd have no call to boil your blood.

When someone switches lane without checking on you and actually causes you to crash (which could be fatal) I would like to see you forget about it!

I can understand how the OP feels, it angers me when people don't check properly before switching lanes, pulling out, etc as it poses major dangers. I made a post not long ago about a mate, going along and his car was about 2/4 next to one on the right and she just pulls out causing him to swerve and ruin his wheel.

When they pulled over she denies responsibility, didn't give no insurance and drove off. Now the ideal thing to do was slap her across the face and smack her car then 'deny all responsibility', would make you feel better but would not achieve much.

Moving on and learning is all you can do, you'll probably get plenty more a******** on the road on the future too and they will give it loads back like you were in the wrong heh.
 
I agree what I did was idiotic, I was just surprised at how I managed to get into the situation, a few hours on and I really regret what I did..

WTF is it with British drivers trying to teach everyone else a lesson?
I know.. queuing and road rage, two great British traditions! I work for an American company, and often take trips there, and drive them places over here, the difference in attitude is quite evident!..
 
You should have got on their back corner and spun them off the road


But seriously, I used to get really bad rage at the wheel a few years back and as you're admitting (hopefully) its best to back off and let them get on with it.

Don't do it again *slaps you on the wrist*:D
 
-Neil- said:
When you were on the sliproad and they pulled up alongside you, you should have just given them a thumbs up or a big smile when they hurled the abuse.

That's what I do, let them get on with it and just laugh to yourself.

Neil.

good advice and can often defuse a situation before it escelates. I had a young female cut me up on a roundabout last year so blew her a kiss and gave a wink. she actually followed me to the traffic lights and gave me her number to go for a drink :)
 
ChoÞÞer said:
:eek: bloody hell :eek:,

You, should have braked insted of going for it tbh but, blast the horn at him

braked and been hit?
he would have had to slam his brakes on and hope for the best, the person along side could have side swiped him, the cars behind could have rammed him from behind.

the best thing to do in that situation was boot it.
 
macca672 said:
good advice and can often defuse a situation before it escelates. I had a young female cut me up on a roundabout last year so blew her a kiss and gave a wink. she actually followed me to the traffic lights and gave me her number to go for a drink :)

i hope you nailed her!!
 
I get very mad at people who cut me up or pull out on me on my bike being So vunerable I feel I need to make a point to them so they will look in future.

the classic is the lane Change or when they drift over lines on a roundabout the loud thud from my Alpinestar boot on their wing to let them know they are just about to hit me does the trick before they do make contact which has happened a for times

or it they do something less dangerous to me they get a tap on their drivers window to allow me express my disatisfaction at what they did, the faster your both going when you do this the more fun it is :p

most of the time I swearin my helmet and thunder off losing them in my rear view mirrors in a few seconds

I love it when cars see you move over etc you feel like not anyone is out to kill you and they all get a thanks wave

we all react differently in a situation like that and I have only had people be humble when they have done something the that (I have been the doughnut driver before so know you should be apologetic if you do a booboo) if someone gives it the large I am honestly not sure if I would let it go I think they would probably lose a wingmirror but only if I was having a bad day

I am Sure all the holier than thou brigade will kick off but we aren't all able to take repeat shaftings and turn the other cheek been doing that all my life thanks. Almost kill me and don't say sorry you will get verbal, do it then give me grief because your safe in a car and I will take it out on your car or make you stop and give you the chance to apologise again or things would go further.

I would then happily take any criminal charge against me, cant do the time and all that :p
 
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