Theft?

JonJ678 said:
From the other perspective, someone he's known for over a decade is making a massive fuss over some electronics from several years ago.
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Devil's advocate? Surely you don't believe what you're saying unless you think there's a time limit on loans where the property changes ownership?
 
It's gone so move on and chalk it up to experience , just don't lend the guy anything else
 
I just don't understand these situations.

If he is a friend then ask him about it.
If you want to sell it to him then make him an offer.
If he is a really good mate without much cash give it to him.

Of he isn't a friend why are you worried about him getting upset.
Even if he has lost or broken it and is to embarrassed to admit it he should at least pay you for it.
 
I lent my cousin £50 to buy a Cortina mk 1 in 1978, I'm still waiting for him to pay me back, needless to say I wrote it off long ago
 
It's very poor form on the part of your "friend". The world is full of toxic people, I find it best to eliminate contact with them as soon as you discover their real traits. The thing with toxic people is they'll try to make out you're the bad person for making such a fuss , over a 3DS like in this case, just to hide their failings.

Honestly don't put any more energy into this person, move on forget it, use the energy on something positive instead.
 
Omaeka said:
Devil's advocate? Surely you don't believe what you're saying unless you think there's a time limit on loans where the property changes ownership?
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You knew the guy for a decade or so. £20 a year amortised loss. Is it really worth the stress?
 
Are you bothered by the loss of a couple of minor items you haven't had for 2 years anyway or by the loss of a friendship?

If it's the former, then you might be able to go to small claims court and possibly maybe perhaps get the value of the items but probably not and even if you do it's hardly worth the trouble.

If it's the latter, it's unlikely to matter what happens regarding a couple of old handheld consoles. I'd be surprised if he still has them. I think it's most likely he sold them and is avoiding telling you that. After this long, there wasn't much chance of you wanting them back.
 
Omaeka said:
Not gonna go too much into it but somebody I thought I knew for the better part of 12 years has moved away. I lent him a 3DS XL and Pokemon X+Omega Sapphire nearly two years ago because he was a big fan and was had no hope of affording them.

I keep in contact with him through Steam still and recently asked about the 3DS and getting it back. He skirts around or straight up ignores every question regarding it and the closest he's come to even acknowledging the subject was when I asked him if he thought it belonged to him now to which he was quite defensive. He has made no offers to return it or any information when he may visit to bring it back. All he has bothered to tell me is that he's still living where he is living and won't be coming back.

I'm not going to accept or suggest sending it through the post as it could easily 'get lost' in the mail if you catch my drift. It's pretty shocking somebody would act like that after being good friends for so long, we weren't acquaintances or just occasional friends, we were 'best friends' (though that term makes me cringe) and hung out for all of it until he moved quite recently.

Has anybody else been in a situation like this? I'm not going to go to the police because I feel that's just a poor way to handle the situation nor am I going to beg or anything silly. I will try to get it back a few more times and failing that will cut all contact and remove him from my life completely. It's only £200 or so, which is not a small amount of money but also isn't worth travelling across the country for drama or going through the courts for. It mostly just stings that somebody could act like that to somebody they called a brother and over something so petty, a situation like this just isn't something you create with anybody let alone a real friend.

It's amazing how little you actually know people!

Thoughts?
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I've got a 'friend' who did something similar, I lent him £250 for a secondhand PC and two years later I've only seen £30 of it back. I've cut all ties with him and just wrote the money off.

Some people can be very selfish, I'd suggest doing the same. If he was a real friend he will contact you at some point and sort it out, if not then it's his loss.
 
I recon, as has been said, he's got rid of it by now. (Sold, broken, lost or whatever).
Hoped that you wouldn't bring it up and is now on the defensive now you're asking for it back.
 
Either take decisive action to get it back or let it go.

But my instant thought was this has been sold. Have you asked him if it has been sold?
 
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