I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and up until recently I thought everything was fine, now I am not so sure. First the back story:
Met her 2 years ago and she left her boyfriend to go out with me (he was a control freak, liar and neglected her). At the time she was still friends with one of her ex-boyfriends and this made me uncomfortable (because of the way he acted towards me/her). I talked to her about it and her response was 'I wouldn't go out with him because he cheated on me and I can't trust him'. I thought it was an odd response because it seemed like it was the trust and not the fact that I was with her that was stopping her. Anyway after a while they fell out of contact and I just left it at that.
She started her first proper job (after uni) in september and has become increasingly independant (she still lives with her parents), and more distant. She lives at home in the week and is at home on msn each evening talking to me, so I am fairly sure she isn't up to anything but recent events have got me worried.
When I come back from having a bath I often see her minimising msn windows, which is not something she ever used to do, but I didn't think too much of it. Then on New Years at 00:00 she got a load of phonecalls from the ex that she used to talk to when we first started going out. At the time she said she had no idea why he was calling her because she hadn't talked to him in over a year which I believed.
She bought a new phone this week and earlier today I was setting it up for her and installed facebook on it. I went to put her details in and it gave me a password error, so I said that it was giving me a password error and she said that she had changed it. She then got up from the middle of what she was doing and came accross to input the password herself. You might think theres nothing odd about that, but whenever shes asked me to do anything like that in the past she would just tell me the password, if she changes her passwords for anything she will just tell me out of the blue (i.e. she would just go 'btw I've changed my email password here it is').
I just logged in to the general user account on my pc (which she was using earlier whilst I was in the bath) and she had left msn logged on. She had a few messages from the ex she claimed to no longer see any more. Getting quite worried I pulled up the chat logs (which is going a bit far I admit) and discovered she had talked to him several times in the last few months (in the 25 minutes or so each weekend I am in the bath and she is here) and she seemed to know a lot of intricate personal details about his life. The bit that worried me significantly was a conversation she had with him about him sleeping with a girl who had a boyfriend and her response being '2 years is a long time for a relationship(about this other girl)and I know, people change and they find it hard to move on'. Then later on him going on about how guilty he felt when he cheated on her and her going on about how he deserves better than this other girl.
Maybe I'm reading too much into this but it sounds a bit suspicious to me, what do you think?
Met her 2 years ago and she left her boyfriend to go out with me (he was a control freak, liar and neglected her). At the time she was still friends with one of her ex-boyfriends and this made me uncomfortable (because of the way he acted towards me/her). I talked to her about it and her response was 'I wouldn't go out with him because he cheated on me and I can't trust him'. I thought it was an odd response because it seemed like it was the trust and not the fact that I was with her that was stopping her. Anyway after a while they fell out of contact and I just left it at that.
She started her first proper job (after uni) in september and has become increasingly independant (she still lives with her parents), and more distant. She lives at home in the week and is at home on msn each evening talking to me, so I am fairly sure she isn't up to anything but recent events have got me worried.
When I come back from having a bath I often see her minimising msn windows, which is not something she ever used to do, but I didn't think too much of it. Then on New Years at 00:00 she got a load of phonecalls from the ex that she used to talk to when we first started going out. At the time she said she had no idea why he was calling her because she hadn't talked to him in over a year which I believed.
She bought a new phone this week and earlier today I was setting it up for her and installed facebook on it. I went to put her details in and it gave me a password error, so I said that it was giving me a password error and she said that she had changed it. She then got up from the middle of what she was doing and came accross to input the password herself. You might think theres nothing odd about that, but whenever shes asked me to do anything like that in the past she would just tell me the password, if she changes her passwords for anything she will just tell me out of the blue (i.e. she would just go 'btw I've changed my email password here it is').
I just logged in to the general user account on my pc (which she was using earlier whilst I was in the bath) and she had left msn logged on. She had a few messages from the ex she claimed to no longer see any more. Getting quite worried I pulled up the chat logs (which is going a bit far I admit) and discovered she had talked to him several times in the last few months (in the 25 minutes or so each weekend I am in the bath and she is here) and she seemed to know a lot of intricate personal details about his life. The bit that worried me significantly was a conversation she had with him about him sleeping with a girl who had a boyfriend and her response being '2 years is a long time for a relationship(about this other girl)and I know, people change and they find it hard to move on'. Then later on him going on about how guilty he felt when he cheated on her and her going on about how he deserves better than this other girl.
Maybe I'm reading too much into this but it sounds a bit suspicious to me, what do you think?
