thrown out.

Make up with your Dad. He might be a ******* but living with a ******* and staying out of his way beats any of your other prospects at this moment in time. If you're joining the army soon then hopefully it shouldn't be for too long.
 
Go back home, unless you have a job or savings.

You should be able to find a room in a shared house. Either through the newspaper or the many house share websites. Many will be able to sort out in 48hours. As long as there is no agency involved.

Or beg and grovel with friends or family if it is only 3months.

You could also apply for emergency housing with your local concil. Although I ave no idea what you need to qualify

But really take it on the chin and go apologise.
 
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You need to eat humble pie or bed down with relatives remember to have a second option in case the forces don't workout many people don't make it through selection due to health problems, attitude or it may not be suited to it.

Best of luck to you hope it works out in the end...
 
Go back home and say sorry to your dad. If you're actually leaving home in a couple of months, just lie low and do stuff in your room until then.
 
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If you're man enough to join the army, then you're man enough to swallow your pride and go home and apologies!
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I agree, however, its obvious that he isnt man enough to join the army, he is using it as an escape rather than a proper choice.


RadoX - my advice: grow up.
 
We have threads every couple of days where people ask for ridiculous relationship advice that runs to pages and pages, but when someone actually needs to good advice (whether it's the kind he expected or not) you guys tear his throat out. He's probably in the worst emotional state of his life and you guys are acting like trolling idiots.
 
Because the situation couldn't possibly be more complex than that could it. We've not really been given much information about this situation, your making sweeping statements like the solution is easy.
 
the solution is easy. that is the first thing he should do.

go home, apologise, sort things out with his dad. if that fails then look for more advice
 
RadoX said:
i go in the army very soon. 2 - 3 months depending on what i do, what are my options for living .
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go to job centre. beg for benefits or a roof over your head

do it before you turn 18 and it will probably be even better. im sure they class you as a kid and wont let kids live on the street
 
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just constant verbal abuse, as for doing stuff wrong in his eyes the army is wasting my life infact thinking of it, anything i do or say he dosent agree with. i try to stay out of the way most of the time but the main reason hes annoyed now is because i dont have a job and im wating for a few things to process for the army.
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Ok, time to grow up - I mean that in a positive and constructive way.

It sounds like your parents are worried sick that you may end up hurt or killed. It shows they love you and they’re concerned. Put yourself in their shoes with your son wanting to enter a profession that has a real chance of you dying. It sounds like those are raw emotions coming from your dad.

If you want to join the army then do so. Vow to make yourself a success.

Ask your parents to sit down at the kitchen table with you. It’s probably completely unexpected - switch off all distractions (TV, Music etc).

Apologise for flying off the handle.

Then in a comfortable, low, unwavering voice tell them that you understand that they are worried sick about you joining the army. If they interrupt, talk over your, raise the pitch or volume then continue at the same volume, pitch.

Tell them that you understand that they would like you to lead but the life you want to lead is going to be different. Tell them that you love them, and you know that the idea of the army is worrying them sick but you want their support with the life you wish to lead.

Listen. Listen and Listen. Keep calm, focused and maintain a confident low steady sounding voice that slower than you’d normally talk with them.

If they fly off the handle with comments such as “well if that’s the life you wish to lead..” etc then just let it slide, remain calm and continue in the same low confident voice. Don’t escalate but reiterate that you will be joining the army and in the mean time you will be looking for a job to pay your way.

Don’t forget - for them it’s going to be the first time they’re probably seeing the kids out the house and it tends to be emotional. By keeping calm, and in a low steady voice you’ll appear confident and by listening.

When you’re hunting for the job - discuss the progress (applications etc) with them. It shows you’re doing something. When you’ve got your pay - give some if it for upkeep.

Just thoughts - sorry if they sound a little patronising.
 
Depends if you can really get on with your dad or not. We don't know the full story. If there is no way back then i would try and ask a relative first or seek advice from Citizens advice.

For all we know, you might be a right thug or, your dad might be a right bully! Only you know the answer to that. Whatever the answer, act accordingly.
 
Go back and keep hitting your Dad until he allows you to move back in. As i see it this is the only solution.
 
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