Tips on how to deal with a spoiled child

franco_22 · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:04

I'm seeing this woman who has a 3 year old kid, I'm left to take care of her quite a lot (this is temporary) the problem is I can't stand the kid as she is incredibly spoiled and has a rich daddy who gives her everything she wants.

The kid doesn't ask for anything, simply demands and throws tantrums. The kid won't do anything her parents or anyone asks her to do. Instead they negotiate with her, literally just to pur her in nursery for a few hours 3 days a week the kid makes them buy her toys, sweets, shoes, etc before she goes, now this is every single day, to get dressed or eat, same thing, now I realise this is not the kid fault and it's the parents who should man up and stop spoiling her so much as this is only going to have negative long term effects.

Only problem is, I have no patience for demands and negotiations with a 3 year old, you do what you're told and that's the end of the story as far as I'm concerned, so what do you think I should do, should I just do what her mum/dad does and let them get on with it or should I stand my ground? I personally don't really care as like I said, this is only temporary but I'm really starting to lose my patience today.

Gilly · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:05

Approach it like a computer and punch the information in.

arc@css · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:06

Gilly said:
Approach it like a computer and punch the information in.

Haha.

My advice would be to not give in, only way to teach. The power lies with you.

Burnsy2023 · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:07

Without the support from her parents and a consistent approach, any efforts you make will be pointless. Good luck, that's my only advice.

steve-h · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:10

How on earth does a three year old become the "alpha male"?

Narj · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:12

Run for your life.

Deep · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:12

Gilly said:
Approach it like a computer and punch the information in.

Brilliant!

PondPikey · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:14

Burnsy2023 said:
Without the support from her parents and a consistent approach, any efforts you make will be pointless. Good luck, that's my only advice.

Agree with this.

Difficult one though. Must be some woman.

franco_22 · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:14

steve-h said:
How on earth does a three year old become the "alpha male"?

Her parents are just complete useless, they can't even get her to sleep in her bed, I remember for like 2 weeks the mum and dad were buying her a toy every single day to get her to sleep in her bed, I told her, why the heck don't you just send her to bed and that's it. The child often stays up until like Midnight-2Am and they don't have the cajones to just be firm and send her off, too scared to upset her, the kid completly dominates them ,she doesn't even ask for anything, if she wants something sometimes and her mum/dad aren't in the room she just fake cries until they go there, literally even today I've watched her, she was perfectly fine, gets up, walks out of the room and starts crying for no reason because she wanted something on TV, why not just ask for it? Kid is nearly 4 years old, going to school next year. To take her to nursery just 3 afternoons it's like CIA terrorist negotiations + buying her things, if it was me I'd just shove her in the car and take her there and that's it, you can cry as much as you like but you're going. I don't understand what's wrong with these people, I can't wait for this kid to be 16 so she can give them the hell they deserve by being such lazy parents now.

Gilly · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:16

It is very lazy parenting.

Stand by your approach. You're in the right.

Cosimo · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:17

Gilly said:
Approach it like a computer and punch the information in.

I'd hate to think what you'd have to do if that didn't work.

Ahleckz · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:18

This kid Is a genius. All credit to her.

boxman2000 · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:19

As long as your missus doesn't mind you laying down the law if you have to then you'll be doing them a favour in the long run.

You know she shouldn't be behaving that way so just be strict but fair, she'll learn.

Cuchulain · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:19

franco_22 said:
Only problem is, I have no patience for demands and negotiations with a 3 year old, you do what you're told and that's the end of the story as far as I'm concerned, so what do you think I should do

LOL @ you thinking 3 year olds can be easily reasoned with, next time you want to get your end damp, try picking someone without baggage.

numatic.nathan · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:19

Speak to her mum and just stand your grounds, I hate spoilt kids..

franco_22 · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:20

What grinds my gears even more is not only this child is incredibly spoiled but her parents are completly negleting her older brother and sister for her because she takes so much time and patience the other kids are just left in the back burner and treated super stricly, it's really not right and not fair for the other ones.

Jay794 · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:22

Spoilt kids are easy to deal with, I know, I am one.

All you gotta do is find something she loves, like a phone or a teddy bear and threaten to take it away until she does what you want.

All my parents need to do is threaten to take my car keys off me and I'm their slave lol.

Failing that, I'm all in favour of smacking, stupid media thinks it doesn't work or it's cruel but it's not, it works. How many of you or your parents were smacked as a kid and how many of you or your parents are in prison.

Kids need to realise what your parents say is law, especially with Christmas being so close.

No joke I actually got coal for Christmas once

Maccy · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:24

You need to sit down and speak to your partner about this, otherwise things will just get worse for you, the parents, and the kid.

Gilly · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:24

Cuchulain said:
LOL @ you thinking 3 year olds can be easily reasoned with

They can. You just need support from the natural parents.

wnb · 31 Oct 2011 at 12:27

Can of worms. Move on. You may end up making things bad between you, the gf and the gf ex. Either except how things are or more on.