Tips on how to deal with a spoiled child
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Just kick it in the harddrive.
I'd hate to think what you'd have to do if that didn't work.
I've done that, and it's no problem - he's a decent fella, I get on well with him. Admittedly, it helps that he lives a few hours drive away, and I already have a son of my own. But, it's only a problem if you (and/or he) make it one.
Giving in not going to help. She does its because she know throwing a tantrums gets her what she wants. Needs the parents to not give in a show who boss. A bit tricky for you to do it. Just need to talk to the parents and ignore her tantrums. Easier said then done I know
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Throw her in your Gulag until she behaves.
Fair enough, I guess that's different then. Thinking at it from my perspective (age/situation etc), I'd never want to do it. Unless the mum is really really fit, then maybe.
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Call supper nanny! Every other episode I watched was with usually the youngest children being spoilt and the oldest being neglected due to it.
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This, you are fighting a loosing battle and there is no way you will succeed unless both her natural parents sort this out.
3 year olds are capable of a lot more than one imagines and can be extremely resourceful / devious.
Their ability to scream and play up, epsecially in a public place, can only be beaten if you can stand their (not walk away) without shame and let them get on with it until they calm down. It may take a while.
Our 2 year old has really amusing tantrums at the moment. If you tell her no about something and she's upset about that, she just lies down on the floor. She doesn't even throw herself down haphazardly, just drops down and lies down.
We just walk around her or step over her until she packs it in.
We just walk around her or step over her until she packs it in.
Ours does the same. She'll throw a tantrum over something stupid (she wants an orange, and doesn't understand that you peeling it first instead of just giving it to her doesn't mean you're witholding it) and she'll lie down and cry.
She's cried herself to sleep before now over something pointless like that.
Disciplining children is all out war, they're devious little buggers and giving in just teaches them how long they need to make a fuss for before they get what they want.
OP: Keep up the good fight...
Child Discipline - Pick your battles, let small things go (otherwise you'll drive youself nuts). But, if you're going to make a point, it's a battle of wills you cant lose.
That child simply doesnt know that they cannot do what they want (or have what they want) at times.
Sounds familiar Our son does that exact same thing, egged on by his 5 y/o sister.
That child simply doesnt know that they cannot do what they want (or have what they want) at times.
Sounds familiar
Our son does that exact same thing, egged on by his 5 y/o sister.
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[Damien];20447096 said:
Don't forget that at this age children are extremely focused on what is happening so for those few mins, that event or in this case ‘the orange’ becomes their world and they haven't developed enough to rationalise and balance the situation quickly enough, so if it doesn’t happen as they expect or plan it to its game-over.
Spoiled children are never fun.
Especially when you are the oldest and get rejected.
Case in point, got 3 a* at GCSE, my stepdad (father of my youngest brother, who is now 6) said "Yeah well the marks are so low this year and exams are getting easier"
2 days after spending 400 quid on my little brother.
My mum kicked him last year for cheating, and now Max (the youngest brother) constantly acts spoilt, treats everyone else in the family like **** and is a very angry young child. Which is a shame, as he can be one of the nicest people I know as well
Especially when you are the oldest and get rejected.
Case in point, got 3 a* at GCSE, my stepdad (father of my youngest brother, who is now 6) said "Yeah well the marks are so low this year and exams are getting easier"
2 days after spending 400 quid on my little brother.
My mum kicked him last year for cheating, and now Max (the youngest brother) constantly acts spoilt, treats everyone else in the family like **** and is a very angry young child. Which is a shame, as he can be one of the nicest people I know as well
I really feel for parents who have trouble getting their kids to sleep at night. Just seeing stuff like supernanny with kids playing the bedtime warfare game before I had my little girl made my blood boil so I got that stuff sorted from the start.
Bedtime at a set time, no messing about. If she's crying after being put down it's tough. If she's still crying after 15 mins then there's obviously something a bit more going on and I'll go check but crying has never lasted more than 5-10mins.
12hrs solid sleep every night since night feeds finished? Great success!
The worst thing though is family trying to stick their nose in when you're trying to deal with tantrums. Like she plays up and cries when told no, etc, I blank her (best way to deal with tantrums imo) and someone tries to swoop in and pick her up.
Yeah, way to teach a child that screaming and crying gets rewarded with attention and cuddles... All my rage...
Yeah, I get that. I find it helps to do whatever it is in front of her and tell her what I'm doing. It usually distracts her long enough to finish. Of course there's always the impossible ones like her eating half an apple and then putting it down and trying to get another one. There's no way you can resolve that one without causing a scene. Sometimes 'nope' really is the only answer, consequences be damned.
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