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tyketto

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my ex took an overdose last night and now shes in hospital. My delema is do i keep clear or should i try and be a friend to her,shes pretty mixed up and thats why we finished 3 months ago and she got involved with a married bloke soon after who she knew,he went back to his wife and thats one of the reasons(of many) why she did it,we jus started speakin 2 days ago, ive now got a new girl who is luvly but wants me to have nothin to do with my ex,she doesnt know whats happend.... do i stay loyal to my new girl or should i be there for my ex as a friend and try n explain that i only want to help if i can
 
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well obviously the one in hospital is there for a reason, shes in need of some help.

I can see why the new girl dosn't want you to have anything to do with your ex but im sure she'd understand if you explained why you were going to see her. If she has a problem with it still then i'd be a bit wary as to the kind of person this new girl is.
 
Depends why she took the overdose. Are you going to help or hinder the situation.

Depending on those, I myself would probably try helping her, but make sure she knows it's just friends and nothing more.
 
Stay away, you might even make things worse by being there (bringing back memories and all that jazz).
 
depends really, do you want to stay friends with the ex? I tried to do it with my last one but it didnt work so i wont be trying it again.

I personally would stay away
 
Echo the previous comments, I would stay away unless you're sure you could offer some 110% valuable support.
 
Only you can really answer this yourself, only you know how you think she'll react to your support or shunning of her, only you can really know why you began talking again a day before she attempts suicide, only you know what this new girl is like.

In short, you need to decide, because you know these people, you know whether they need you or not.
 
I'd probably counsel you to stay away, but I wouldn't take my own advice so I'm not going to.
 
Getting involved now is likely to cause more harm than good - you'll confuse her as to your intentions and, when eventually she realises you're talking to her because you feel sorry for her - which effectively will be the reason - it might push her to try again.
 
I don't need to reiterate the advice that has already been given. Follow that.

But seriously if you are going to write such a post use a version on English that doesn't make the Queen cry.
 
I would try to help her, she clearly needs help. You can be there as a friend without being anything else to her. I think it would help her to have someone there. I think it's good to have compassion and care for a fellow human being especially in these circumstances.

How low must she have felt to do that? She needs all the help and care she can get.
 
she came to me when i saw her upset and i tried to help sort stuff between her n this bloke...i wasnt biased or nothing .she told me she wants me and my new girl to be happy, she said thanks for bein there and that she nor i expected it...
 
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