*** to do
- Thread starter tyketto
- Start date
To be fair, Splodge's post is understandable. The OP takes some deciphering.
I was involed in something like this once, and this is the best advice.
This is really something you need to sort out for yourself.
If your still pretty decent friends with the girl, then you should be by her side in her hour of need; and your girlfriend should understand that you need to be there for your friend regardless of whether she's an ex or not.
It sounds like she doesn't have much left at the moment, and having a friend turn up as a shoulder to cry on would be a very good thing for her.
I can understand that your girlfriend doesn't want you to see your ex, and this is a difficult time for everyone concerned. But nobody has the right to dictate somebody else's life and tell them they can't see another person.
As a friend, you need to be there for her.
If your still pretty decent friends with the girl, then you should be by her side in her hour of need; and your girlfriend should understand that you need to be there for your friend regardless of whether she's an ex or not.
It sounds like she doesn't have much left at the moment, and having a friend turn up as a shoulder to cry on would be a very good thing for her.
I can understand that your girlfriend doesn't want you to see your ex, and this is a difficult time for everyone concerned. But nobody has the right to dictate somebody else's life and tell them they can't see another person.
As a friend, you need to be there for her.
My ex was like this. I would go back and try to help her and then it would all go terribly wrong.
Tell your new gf about it and also tell her you're staying away. Your new gf will appreciate your honesty and loyalty. Move forward, not back.
Tell your new gf about it and also tell her you're staying away. Your new gf will appreciate your honesty and loyalty. Move forward, not back.
I think she has enough problems with her current relationship and having an ex around who's trying to juggle their own relationships whilst trying to help out is probably just going to confuse the situation.
Be supportive when and if you do speak to her but I'd leave it at that. Stay away.
Be supportive when and if you do speak to her but I'd leave it at that. Stay away.
Soldato
- Joined
- 13 Mar 2006
- Posts
- 6,712
Do you know whether it was a serious attempt at suicide? (massive OD, didn't expect to be found etc)
I'd say probably stay away, unless she has no one else to be there for her and you're sure being there would help her.
I'd say probably stay away, unless she has no one else to be there for her and you're sure being there would help her.
i know i should stay clear, i just wanted a second opinon that i wasnt turning my back on her etc...it was antidepressants she took,not sure how many but over 25 of them and yeah i should just let her family and friends help her through it, im just to soft for my own good and change my job
On the hand, stay clear. Stay as far away and as clearly uninvolved as possible!
. I have been in a similar (and I suppose entirely different) scenario myself, and decided to part ways. On the other hand, you've known her for 20yrs, hmmmm. Tough call. But remember, suicidal/emotionally unstable people will tend to cling to you..