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I personally would go and see how she is doing... but I dont know all the circumstances, so I really can't really give advice
 
I thought it was just stupid people and those wanting to cry for help that OD'd as a way to die? Admittedly you didn't mention what she OD'd on, but unless it was junkie juice or morphene i wouldn't have thought she wasactually planning on dieing.
 
I understand why your new girl is being like that, but surely if she knew what had happened she wouldn't mind too much. As long as you re-assure her that you have no feelings for your ex anymore but want to be there as a friend then she should be kewl with it
 
Go to the hospital, make sure she is ok, then go get her professional help and then watch how she gets on from a distance.

I wouldnt feel right just leaving someone i knew in a state without trying to at elast get them some help even if i wasnt the one helping them.

Colin
 
I think you have two things to consider:

1) How long were you a couple for? Short term vs. long term.
2) If visiting her is in her best interest. Why is she in the state she is? Visiting her may simply make matters worse.
 
Difficult to answer without knowing how your relationship was, and currently is with her. Unless you feel that visiting her will help in some way, I'd stay away. Oh and whatever you do, I wouldn't lie to your current girlfriend or keep her in the dark.
 
i was with her for 2 years, she always wanted the cindererella ending,didnt matter what i did it was never enough, im going to tell me new girl everything ,im an honest guy n woudnt lie
 
To be honest, if your current girlfriend is so insecure that she'd actually stop you from helping your friend in need - then you need a new girlfriend.

Tell your girlfriend what's happened, and that you need to be there for her and that if she doesn't like it, the door is right there. Tell her this is something that you need to do.
 
tyketto said:
my ex took an overdose last night and now shes in hospital. My delema is do i keep clear or should i try and be a friend to her,shes pretty mixed up and thats why we finished 3 months ago and she got involved with a married bloke soon after who she knew,he went back to his wife and thats one of the reasons(of many) why she did it,we jus started speakin 2 days ago, ive now got a new girl who is luvly but wants me to have nothin to do with my ex,she doesnt know whats happend.... do i stay loyal to my new girl or should i be there for my ex as a friend and try n explain that i only want to help if i can
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Its just a cry for help.
An overdose is not a proper way to kill youself, and she knows that. If she actually wanted to kill her self she would jump off a bridge. OF coruse, this takes far more balls and the realisation you will die, instantly. These selfish people want to sit in there own self made cess pit dwindling over their existence fore hours as the drugs slowly kick in. They then know a trip to hospital and a stomache pump and she will be out in days. Bet she called a friend to say she took an overdose.
 
Gilly said:
I'd probably counsel you to stay away, but I wouldn't take my own advice so I'm not going to.
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If it was someone I'd just broken up with then I'd agree with this. However, I don't speak to any of my ex's anymore so I don't care what they get up to/where they end up

If it's going to wreck things with your new girl, stay away
 
I'd stay at arms length for the time being. Being there as a friend would be ok, however being emotionally involved would just unstabilise her further.

Suicide attempts mean she needs professional medical help. Now she's been admitted for this she should be on their radar and she should have councilling offered.

Later once she's come to accept your relationship then you can build friendship but not until she's accepted her own position and yours. Otherwise soon as she feels depressed because she can't form a relationship with you (or it doesn't work out) - it could go horribly wrong and she may succeed next time.

Also you have to remember this is your life? Do not be pressured by emotional blackmail. Be firm that you're with your new gf now and that is what you want. Talk to your new gf as she is part of your life too.
 
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Hold on, why are you asking our advice? Your going to get a lot of mixed answers here mate. First thing I would do is tell my partner what happened and then ask if she would have a problem with you being there for her as a friend. If she has an issue with it, then take it from there.
 
I would tell your g/f what has happened and I would also get a message to the ex just to let her know that you do care. You don't need to actually see her and I don't think It would help anyone, she needs professional help. Just some flowers and a card would be enough.
 
JodieG said:
I would try to help her, she clearly needs help. You can be there as a friend without being anything else to her. I think it would help her to have someone there. I think it's good to have compassion and care for a fellow human being especially in these circumstances.

How low must she have felt to do that? She needs all the help and care she can get.
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That's the problem though. He (I'm sure) can be nothing more than a friend, but how would she feel in the vulnerable state?

I know if one of my ex's came back to me I'd feel like they wanted me back or something daft.

It is unfortunate, but I think you have to leave it.
 
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