too easygoing

ash59 · 26 May 2007 at 17:00

just wanted to ask do any of you people have trouble whith being too nice and too easygoing, people calling you too soft, and taking advantage of your nature.

the-void · 26 May 2007 at 17:01

ash59 said:
just wanted to ask do any of you people have trouble whith being too nice and too easygoing, people calling you too soft, and taking advantage of your nature.

No, your just being soft. Oh, you couldn't lend us a tenner, could you? mate?

qwerty · 26 May 2007 at 17:02

Sorry, I don't mean to be.

theleg · 26 May 2007 at 17:07

Yes, i have the same problem.

Richdog · 26 May 2007 at 17:10

ash59 said:
just wanted to ask do any of you people have trouble whith being too nice and too easygoing, people calling you too soft, and taking advantage of your nature.

I used to in my younger years, before I realised it got you nowhere. Toughened up and have felt a lot better about myself since.

ash59 · 26 May 2007 at 17:13

do you think people realise they are being the way they are

do you think people realise they are being the way they are , or just abit thick.

Scuzi · 26 May 2007 at 17:14

I'm very easy going but I'm in no way soft at all. People often mistake my easy going attitude for softness and I get great joy from putting them in their place when they try to take advantage of what they think is me being soft and naive :cool:

If you are soft, people will take advantage of you. Grow a spine and people begin to respect you.

Richdog · 26 May 2007 at 17:15

ash59 said:
do you think people realise they are being the way they are , or just abit thick.

If it's their nature then no, they probably don't realise until it's pointed out to them.

ash59 · 26 May 2007 at 17:16

thanks

thanks wise guy

good of you to get back to me ,

knip · 26 May 2007 at 17:18

Theres a difference between being nice and being "nice"

danza · 26 May 2007 at 17:18

I'm waaaaaaaaaaay too laid back. It can really be a problem for me, as very rarely do I snap or complain.

Saying that, if someone presses the wrong buttons, I could probably be mustered into defence mode. That is, if I can be bothered...

Kreeeee · 26 May 2007 at 17:26

danza said:
I'm waaaaaaaaaaay too laid back. It can really be a problem for me, as very rarely do I snap or complain.

Saying that, if someone presses the wrong buttons, I could probably be mustered into defence mode. That is, if I can be bothered...

*Repeatedly presses the wind up danza button*

ash59 · 26 May 2007 at 17:29

im like that

im like that, why do people have to take advantage all the time, if i could be botherd i could be agressive and be a pillock ,but are we really going to live forever!. we sould try and get on, dose this not make sense.

danza · 26 May 2007 at 17:29

Kreeeee said:
*Repeatedly presses the wind up danza button*

Nope, not working. CBA.

Fraggr · 26 May 2007 at 17:47

ash59 said:
im like that, why do people have to take advantage all the time, if i could be botherd i could be agressive and be a pillock ,but are we really going to live forever!. we sould try and get on, dose this not make sense.

Because we are programmed mentally to fight to survive, and the last thousand years isn't going to change hundreds of thousands of years of programming.

Richdog · 26 May 2007 at 17:48

ash59 said:
im like that, why do people have to take advantage all the time, if i could be botherd i could be agressive and be a pillock ,but are we really going to live forever!. we sould try and get on, dose this not make sense.

What has being too nice got to do with being aggressive? The only alternative to being a pushover (which it seems you are) is not an aggressive pillock far fomr it... that's just what you're using to make yourself feel better.

You can be a nice chap and not be a big wet. People just don't respect a man who won't stand up for himself.

TaKeN · 26 May 2007 at 18:32

I'm abit to easy going..

I like being nice cause i'm a nice lad but when someone keeps constantly taking the **** of arguining with me i eventually snap and turn into a mad person

ash59 · 26 May 2007 at 18:36

thats interesting

il think about that, roll on the rat race!.

cleanbluesky · 26 May 2007 at 18:43

ash59 said:
just wanted to ask do any of you people have trouble whith being too nice and too easygoing, people calling you too soft, and taking advantage of your nature.

'too nice' and 'too easygoing' are two different things.

When people say you are 'easygoing' it means you are relaxed.

When people say 'too nice' that means that you are giving someone too much attention/putting too much effort in or treating them better than they deserve or would treat you in return.

Big Chris · 26 May 2007 at 19:25

cleanbluesky said:
'too nice' and 'too easygoing' are two different things.

When people say you are 'easygoing' it means you are relaxed.

When people say 'too nice' that means that you are giving someone too much attention/putting too much effort in or treating them better than they deserve or would treat you in return.

Well said and very true.

I like to think I'm pretty easy going, but in reality I'm probably not.

I'm certainly guilty of the last statement too, sucks to be honest but it's kinda who I am

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