Caporegime
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Torn, thats how i am feeling right now ! Torn !!! Not another girls thread !
This is a follow on from the previous thread about following your head or heart. Well, I can't keep it in anymore and got to let it out !
Long story short, I really like this girl, she knows it, I've told her and we talked about it. Everything i know tells me to stay away but my heart is dying inside and here is the problem -
1 - She has a boyfriend (2 years)
2 - She cheated on him a few times with 2 different guys
3 - The boyfriend doesn't know about it
4 - She doesn't see it as a problem if he doesn't know
5 - She doesn't feel guilty about it
6 - She says because the sex wasn't good, it doesn't count as sex
7 - A bit irrelevant - she's leaving the country for 8 months comes the Summer.
Every instinct, logic, bones and reasoning in my body tells me that she is trouble. There is every reason and evidence she will do it again, and nothing indicate she would change. Add to the fact that she has a boyfriend so i don't want to go there or be that guy. Every other respect she is a really really nice girl, really gorgeous, amazing character, funny, intelligent. I only recently found her the "truth" about her, she has been really honest and told me a lot and why she did it. Now usually when i know a girl who is like that it really put me off them regardless how pretty she is, but somehow i can't do it here. That mechanism in my head isn't switching off my heart somehow. May be because i've just known these facts, or may be i liked her too much already prior knowing these facts.
I think the lyrics to What becomes of the broken hearted sums it up just about right for me right now.
"Love's happiness is just an illusion, Filled with sadness and confusion"
EDIT - Just woken up dreaming about her, as you can probably guess, this is on my mind........I am also disappointed to find out she is like this, a little angry/disappointed at myself that i couldn't see it from the beginning, usually i can see through a girl what they are like and i guess i never expected her to be like this (guess i am way off the ball here). I just don't get it, I don't get how could someone not feel guilty cheating on someone they love (she says she loves her boyfriend), I mean just how ?????????? I would feel guilty for lying, nevermind cheating ! Her reasoning is that she doesn't want to look back and thought she missed an "opportunity" and have regrets and what ifs. That is such a BS excuse and is something i never expected she was like this.
I guess i am upset at myself to misjudge her at the start to think she is someone i thought she was, and disappointed to find a girl who has no moral value when it comes to the sanctity of the foundation of a relationships - Trust, Love an Honesty. How could someone be like this and how come I still like her knowing all this !!!!!!!!!!!
This is a follow on from the previous thread about following your head or heart. Well, I can't keep it in anymore and got to let it out !
Long story short, I really like this girl, she knows it, I've told her and we talked about it. Everything i know tells me to stay away but my heart is dying inside and here is the problem -
1 - She has a boyfriend (2 years)
2 - She cheated on him a few times with 2 different guys
3 - The boyfriend doesn't know about it
4 - She doesn't see it as a problem if he doesn't know
5 - She doesn't feel guilty about it
6 - She says because the sex wasn't good, it doesn't count as sex
7 - A bit irrelevant - she's leaving the country for 8 months comes the Summer.
Every instinct, logic, bones and reasoning in my body tells me that she is trouble. There is every reason and evidence she will do it again, and nothing indicate she would change. Add to the fact that she has a boyfriend so i don't want to go there or be that guy. Every other respect she is a really really nice girl, really gorgeous, amazing character, funny, intelligent. I only recently found her the "truth" about her, she has been really honest and told me a lot and why she did it. Now usually when i know a girl who is like that it really put me off them regardless how pretty she is, but somehow i can't do it here. That mechanism in my head isn't switching off my heart somehow. May be because i've just known these facts, or may be i liked her too much already prior knowing these facts.
I think the lyrics to What becomes of the broken hearted sums it up just about right for me right now.
"Love's happiness is just an illusion, Filled with sadness and confusion"
EDIT - Just woken up dreaming about her, as you can probably guess, this is on my mind........I am also disappointed to find out she is like this, a little angry/disappointed at myself that i couldn't see it from the beginning, usually i can see through a girl what they are like and i guess i never expected her to be like this (guess i am way off the ball here). I just don't get it, I don't get how could someone not feel guilty cheating on someone they love (she says she loves her boyfriend), I mean just how ?????????? I would feel guilty for lying, nevermind cheating ! Her reasoning is that she doesn't want to look back and thought she missed an "opportunity" and have regrets and what ifs. That is such a BS excuse and is something i never expected she was like this.
I guess i am upset at myself to misjudge her at the start to think she is someone i thought she was, and disappointed to find a girl who has no moral value when it comes to the sanctity of the foundation of a relationships - Trust, Love an Honesty. How could someone be like this and how come I still like her knowing all this !!!!!!!!!!!
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