Torn, thats how i am feeling right now ! Not another girls thread !
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Just goes to show that no-ones immune doesn't it RL?
You sound like you're more annoyed at yourself for not seeing (or allowing yourself to ignore) this side of her. It also sounds like she's aware of the effect she has on men and is using it to her advantage at the expense of her moral "line in the sand." And that she's willing to make up excuses to justify her behaviour (#2-6). From what that says about her own standards of morality, I wonder what else she'd be willing to do and then justify to herself? Or maybe she's just gone a bit overboard with the new freedoms she's discovered at Uni and she'll settle down once she's got it out of her system.
I'm definitely in the "if she'll do it for you, she'll do it to you" camp as far as getting involved goes - I'm NOT going there again! Although it's damn hard to think sensibly when your heart is pulling in the opposite direction I know. Remember - God didn't give us enough blood to run the brain and the penis simultaneously.
You sound like you're more annoyed at yourself for not seeing (or allowing yourself to ignore) this side of her. It also sounds like she's aware of the effect she has on men and is using it to her advantage at the expense of her moral "line in the sand." And that she's willing to make up excuses to justify her behaviour (#2-6). From what that says about her own standards of morality, I wonder what else she'd be willing to do and then justify to herself? Or maybe she's just gone a bit overboard with the new freedoms she's discovered at Uni and she'll settle down once she's got it out of her system.
I'm definitely in the "if she'll do it for you, she'll do it to you" camp as far as getting involved goes - I'm NOT going there again! Although it's damn hard to think sensibly when your heart is pulling in the opposite direction I know. Remember - God didn't give us enough blood to run the brain and the penis simultaneously.
Avoid mate, I've been there and one day I woke up out of the haze and cocoon that I created around myself. And I'm glad I did wake up because it was really hurting me. I didn't realise how much it did affect me until I said enough is enough and walked away from the whole thing.
This girl sounds like real trouble and she will do the same to you, what's that saying about a leopard never changing it's spots? Anyway, I would recommend walking away with as little emotional damage as possible (ie, now). If you go through with anything you'll end up worse that's for sure. All the best.
This girl sounds like real trouble and she will do the same to you, what's that saying about a leopard never changing it's spots? Anyway, I would recommend walking away with as little emotional damage as possible (ie, now). If you go through with anything you'll end up worse that's for sure. All the best.
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Jonny69 said:HELL YEAH!!! Tap that ass
Twice on a Sunday.
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Raymond Lin said:
She needs a slap, i would stay away
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Ahhh man take it from me, she isnt worth it.
I watched my ex (whom I'd been with for 18 months) turn from the sweetest girl in the world to a cheat. I went away to france for a couple of weeks and when i came back she wanted to break up with me and blamed the whole thing on me. 4 months later I'd found out that she'd cheated on me while i was in france (she claimed it was an accident... even though it happened at least 3 times while i was away)... she waited 4 months to tell me this and she still claimed to love me. I don't understand or beleive that someone could love someone but cheat on them and lie to them about it. It doesn't make sense to me and if this girl can do the same you should stay away.
sure, a bit of fun might sound appealing but the hurt isn't worth it. Here I am 8 months on and still thinking about this girl every day and unable to start another relationship because I cant get the ex out of my head.
I didn't see it coming, you however have an insight into what this girl is really like so unless she feels extra strongly about you she is trouble.
I watched my ex (whom I'd been with for 18 months) turn from the sweetest girl in the world to a cheat. I went away to france for a couple of weeks and when i came back she wanted to break up with me and blamed the whole thing on me. 4 months later I'd found out that she'd cheated on me while i was in france (she claimed it was an accident... even though it happened at least 3 times while i was away)... she waited 4 months to tell me this and she still claimed to love me. I don't understand or beleive that someone could love someone but cheat on them and lie to them about it. It doesn't make sense to me and if this girl can do the same you should stay away.
sure, a bit of fun might sound appealing but the hurt isn't worth it. Here I am 8 months on and still thinking about this girl every day and unable to start another relationship because I cant get the ex out of my head.
I didn't see it coming, you however have an insight into what this girl is really like so unless she feels extra strongly about you she is trouble.
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fatiain said:No, talking about her.
Unless the cap fits.... (if it does, what you doing later
ermmmm i'm busy, infact, i'm fully booked for the next year 
Be a real man, shes already taken so dont pursue her!
It doesnt matter that she has cheated a few times already, it doesnt make it right just because she doesnt feel guilty and that her bloke doesnt know!
You shouldnt even be considering it!
It doesnt matter that she has cheated a few times already, it doesnt make it right just because she doesnt feel guilty and that her bloke doesnt know!
You shouldnt even be considering it!
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Been thinking about this today, went to the gym with her even, and half way though the morning my mind finally clicked. It might sound strange but after a lot of thinking i finally see her the way she really is, instead of what my heart wants me to see. It all happened almost in a moment of clarity, what my head knows all along now i finally accepted it. I still like her but at least now i have control.
gord said:Thread title clearly stated that this wasnt another girls thread with exclamation.. alas i have been duped once more.. evil doers!
Raymond Lin - be glad youve not taken things that one step further... its not love you feel for her but lust. To want a woman like that knowing what shes like is just asking for trouble...
I got into a similar situation at university, I was mucking around with a girl I worked with. I knew she had a boyfriend. By her own admission she had always been selfish and did whatever she wanted..she'd been around a bit put it that way.
It was pure lust, we were mucking about at work. I'm glad I didn't sleep with her though. Things just clicked when I realised that although I got on with her, she could never be with me. I know for a fact she would be off with other people.
I just feel bad that I was one of them...although I didn't sleep with her. It taught me a hard lesson.
Don't get into it mate, it'll only end in pain.
It was pure lust, we were mucking about at work. I'm glad I didn't sleep with her though. Things just clicked when I realised that although I got on with her, she could never be with me. I know for a fact she would be off with other people.
I just feel bad that I was one of them...although I didn't sleep with her. It taught me a hard lesson.
Don't get into it mate, it'll only end in pain.