Trouble fitting in at school

flibbage0

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I will try to keep the story short.

End of year 11 I decided to move school to another one a few miles away.

It came as a bit of a surprise for my friends at my previous school but they understood.

Started year 12 in the new school and thought it was a bit strange, but at the time I thought I would get used to it. I eventually got used to the school but not the people in my year.

The thing is I've never felt entirely comfortable/haven't felt like I fit in, I mean I get on with people but nothing happens outside of lesson or school.

Its been nearly 2 years now and I understand that many of them already have there existing circle of friends so it would be harder for me to join in because some of them won't even bother talking to me.

Every now and then somebody asks me what I think of this school compared to my previous one, I just say its alright, its cool.

But its coming to the point now when I honestly want to say The school itself is ok, but the people here are a bunch of stuck up ****** and I'm really not bothered If I don't see any of you ever again :(

I really don't know what to do, I'm now thinking of taking get the grades and get the hell out of there approach, as sad as it sounds.
 
What have you done to try and integrate? Have you actually tried to join in with people?
Have you spoken to teachers?
You must have something in common with some of them!!
 
You sound like you're nearly finished. Don't jeopardise your eduction at the last moment by needlessly moving schools. (Unless you're being bullied but you didn't mention that). You can make new friends at college/work. Or can you not make friends outside school? It may be seem tough now but one day it'll be a distant memory and you'll wonder why you were so worried. Hope it all works out
 
Fitting in at a new school is very hard. Fitting in at school is hard enough.

But when you get to uni its opposite. Fitting in with people is soooo easy, that you end up wishing you could 'un-fit-in' or lose some of people you end up having as friends.

Theres nothing really that great about being popular while at school. Its more of a hidden curse than it is a blessing.
 
Andelusion said:
Must... resist...
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In all honesty though it sounds like you haven't tried that hard to fit in. I know it can be hard but you haven't given us much information to go on really.

I'd take the "Get the grades and get the hell out" approach!
 
When I went to college I couldnt stand the people in my class, but tried to get along with them. Eventually I made it quite clear what i thought of them and i just got on with my work and saw my own mates in the breaks and afterwards or in free time. Honestly, who gives a .... what the people in your class think, just ignore them, most people that age are total tools anyway, always trying to impress one another, trying to be witty and the class clown etc. I can't be doing with people like that either.
 
flibbage0 said:
I will try to keep the story short.

End of year 11 I decided to move school to another one a few miles away.

It came as a bit of a surprise for my friends at my previous school but they understood.

Started year 12 in the new school and thought it was a bit strange, but at the time I thought I would get used to it. I eventually got used to the school but not the people in my year.

The thing is I've never felt entirely comfortable/haven't felt like I fit in, I mean I get on with people but nothing happens outside of lesson or school.

Its been nearly 2 years now and I understand that many of them already have there existing circle of friends so it would be harder for me to join in because some of them won't even bother talking to me.

Every now and then somebody asks me what I think of this school compared to my previous one, I just say its alright, its cool.

But its coming to the point now when I honestly want to say The school itself is ok, but the people here are a bunch of stuck up ****** and I'm really not bothered If I don't see any of you ever again :(

I really don't know what to do, I'm now thinking of taking get the grades and get the hell out of there approach, as sad as it sounds.
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Sorry, but do they even know who you are?
 
Go to an after school club your interested in :)

That way, you'll have a topic to break the ice with people :)

Or just start talking to people in your class, ask the person next to you if they've got any plans for the weekend, how long have they been at the school, crack a few casual jokes about you being the "New kid" and just general just try to find out about people....

Without being weird :p
 
Find someone with a common interest, sport, computers, general geekery, speak to them about it, get a proper conversation going over it then build on that (on a daily or weekly basis if need be) to the point that person calls you their friend and introduces you to his/her friends, then hang out with them regularly.
 
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