Trouble making friends

Start making fun out of him. I just banter all day, half the time I mean what I say :)

Work is full of people thrown together, some become friends. Some people like me and some don't and vice versa.

Focus on enjoying your interactions with your colleagues.
 
Just do something, take up more of hobbys, just dont sit on the xbox 24/7, join a squash club, swimming club, stick at it conversation will flow from what you do with your own life, this is more interesting than talking to someone about how many zombies they killed in COD even to another COD player ITS DULL. (clans aside but that has died a death from what it once was)
 
Fair play to you being honest about your feelings, especially on a forum full of potential ****takes.My advice, all you can do is be yourself really, there's no point trying to be someone you're not, if he's going to see your signals he will, if he doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. My point is, don't pretend to be someone you're not, someone out there will 'get you', and when they come along, you'll appreciate it more because they like you for who you really are. :)
 
Just ask to touch weiners...











Ok so not being cartman with tourettes for a moment what you should do is this:

You want to be mates with this guy? Don't badger him. Hang out when he's about. Trying to become his BFF and pushing yourself onto him is not going to endear you to him. It'll also mean that the more time you spend together where you're struggling for chat, the less fun and meaningful it will be.
Hang out less or contact him less about hanging out. Frankly you'll be surprised with the results. You may actually find him texting you! Otherwise it could be he is busy and you aren't a priority. This is no reflection upon you. It is a reflection on life. People are busy. They often don't have time for their best friends/family.

Advice- stop contacting so regularly for hang out times. Limit contact. If you pester him he will think there is something wrong with you and you are desperate or mateless. Contact him once a week to see if he's about for lunch. He may not be but if he is he'll say yes or will re-schedule.
 
but how many facebook friends do you have? that's what really matters

and you can't include the people who were in your year throughout your whole school life, who you probably spoke to for a combined 8 seconds the entire time you were there and then add you. even though you probably wouldn't recognise them in the street, let alone talk to them.
 
You can't force that sort of thing, just do your own thing, take a book, go for a walk at lunch like everyone else. Can't expect people to entertain you, the more desperate you look for a friend the more people won't want anything to do with you. If you run in to each other that's fine but don't go looking for the guy and then make artificial conversation, that just annoying. Once you have a casual friendship going then ask if he wants to do something in a non gay way. At work we usually go for a drink after too work or something like that few months or go for lunch at a pub.
 
Yeah life sometimes sucks like this. Not sure the sexual orientation but general rules apply. In too strong, things creep the hell out. It could be that you need to branch out a little more, meet new people, take up a social interest group in your local community, volunteer work etc.

A focal point for social awkwardness is trying to be around the same person all the time, been there myself. The more people you know, the less you rely on one to be there all the time.
 
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