Trouble with ex boyfried

haha, my ex girlfriend does this (i don't personally see the need for her to do so considering she's the one with the new boyfriend). Every so often (like clockwork usually 2 weeks) she will send me a txt message telling me how wonderful last night was and when, where and what time to meet her that day. I think that one day she wants me to bite and turn up unexpectedly out of the blue.

also every so often i get a msn which then escalates so quickly into sarcasm and anger that i pretend i'm away and stop talking

i just tend to ignore it as it should usually roll off your chest, although sometimes i do wonder... OVARY MEGA PUNCH
 
Are you 110% sure that he actually is doing these things?
If he is then why hasn't she blocked him on MSN and changed her number?

Maybe he is telling the truth after all.
 
I had a similar incident.

I split with an ex in January 2004, she cheated on me. I broke contact. This chap kept mouthing off at me, and she kept texting me accusing me of threatening him.

The first thing I did was change phone numbers. Then cease all contact. Block all addresses, contact faceparty about it I'm sure they'd block him or warn him about abusive messages.

Failing that, completely ignore him. No contact whatsoever.

Trust me, I've smacked people before and it either leaves you feeling bad or it escalates the situation into a vendetta.

Cease all contact, and he will soon get very bored with getting absolutely no response.
 
MSN was done a while ago, Virii he msg'd me a few times too but talking like she was on the other end.

brasso sounds like good advice. Is it just a case of ringing o2 up to barr his number?

thanks.
 
Yep, I'm pretty sure you can ring 02 and they can bar a particular number from calling you.

If he really is harassing her its worth getting the police involved.

In my case they were trying to wind me up so I ceased all contact and they got bored with getting no responses to emails etc.
 
Darcy said:
Personally, and many won't agree with me here, but a good smack around the gob by the sounds of it.
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As keyboard warriorish as it sounds, thats what first springs to my mind, but even at the age of 19 i still regress into playgroud mode when i hear of this sort of thing.

Your best bet would be to send all the evidence of it to his own mother, i mean, how embaressing would that be for the poor idiot of a kid, dont get your GF's mum to talk to her, talk to her yourself. When my ex started playing up her parents were on my side when i went round to confront her for instance.

If that isnt on the cards because the mother isnt reasonable, id say confronting him in a scarey manner was your best bet whilst your girlfriend ignores him and lets you know what hes doing without giving him the satisfaction of a reaction from herself.
 
james.miller said:
ignore him? get his numbers barred? change her phone humber? lots of things you can do.
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Trouble is, i've known people that give ex's their number anyway, despite how much trouble they caused in a relationship. Its almost as if they like the attention (not saying that is the case here though we cant be sure :p) So even if she changed the number he'd probably still get hold of it if he wanted it that badly, either via her friends or her telling him it.

Also, barring a single number won't really help because he could just change phones, use a mates phone, a phonebox or anything else that isn't barred.

However maybe the best course of action (To the OP) here is to just keep blanking him. It seems that whatever he writes on Faceparty your girlfriend keeps looking for and reading. If your girlfriend didn't keep checking up on his profile and what he writes then she wouldn't get effected by what she read. At the end of the day most ex's talk negatively about each other (if they spoke highly of them they would be currents lets face it :p) and in a quite a few cases they try to cause trouble out of jealousy. The thing to try to do is don't rise to it. You have each other and thats all that matters. He's the ex for a reason. She loves you not him. Just let him lead his pathetic life and you two be there for each other :)

Think when this sort of thing happened with myself and my ex (we were current at the time) it took about 2 years for the plank to stop bothering us. You just have to bare with it I recon. Anything physical would land you in trouble so its a case of let him bore himself. The more he gets attention and reactions from you the more likely he is to carry on.
 
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If ignoring him doesn't work start keeping a diary of what he does, save the MSN convos, txt messages etc and then when you have a few take them to the police and get them to have a quick word. That ought to frighten him enough to not do it again to your girlfriend and also any other girl in the future hopefully.
 
I can remember my mate having an ex boyfriend that kept stalking her, stay outside her house etc, when we went up to confront him he used to drive off...

We think that he killed her cat as she got a text message in the morning saying sorry to hear about your cat, went outside and there was the cat... evil b*stard... she loved that cat...

Anyway police didnt wanna know untill the cat thing...

Stelly
 
For a start she doesn't have to speak to him on MSN, why doesn't she just block him from her friend's list. She could also just delete any text messages without reading them.
 
My daughter was being stalked by her ex. After I had some 'words' with both him and his parents, they were never heard from again. It was a long distance relationship anyway, with a right pleb for a boyfriend.

The same thing happened to my wife years ago. Her ex boyfriend (a childhood sweetheart ffs!) kept on pestering her. She was terrified to leave the house. He would even smack about her sister just to get to her. I smacked him about, never heard from again.

Violence solves everything. Then again I grew up in a time where you'd do virutally anything to protect your better half...
 
I may be criticised for being a bit negative but..

You are seriously considering taking physical action because of something someone wrote on a website?

Tell her to grow up and ignore him. Had a similar situation with my fiance. Her ex was hassling her - so I told her just to ignore him and not to get worked up over things said on a website.

As a result we have not had any issues since.

Ultimately if someone is going to think negatively of her because of something written on a website then their opinion is not worth considering.
 
ElRazur said:
Take your friends with you, go to his house and terrify his arse (well i meant him not his arse). Then report him for harrasment.
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LOL?

There is a sense of humour there :D

Why doesn't she block him on msn and change her numbers?

Seems like attention to me, most girls are able to cut and cease contacts with their previous other halfs without a flicker or batter of an eyelid. Why is she on faceparty, myspace is so the in thing now :p
 
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Darcy said:
He can't be done for harrassment unless he directly threatens her, the police have more important things to worry about, like people driving cars.
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Harrassment is unwanted attention. So in this case, yes, the ex can be done for Harrassment. If he threatens her, then he can get done for threatening behaviour, a different charge all together :)
 
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