Uni students

Conscript · 7 Mar 2007 at 15:40

Too right, Im the same as Fox. Live at home but it's not like I miss out on a decent social life. I can see how people enjoy living away from home, and I guess I would like to try it. But to be honest, I just wasn't all that bothered about moving out, like a lot of people I knew who couldn't wait to get out and be living on their own.

To each, his own, I guess.

Mckee · 7 Mar 2007 at 16:11

im in my second year of my degree and commute to manchester every day. Stayed at home because of financial reasons ( didnt wanna put pressure on my mum n dad when i know they couldnt afford it really )

Overall though im glad i stayed at home. I dont drink and never really have and im a very active person. I'm big on mountain biking and if i stayed at uni would i be able to pick up my bike at the weekend and drive to Wales/Scotland etc, the answer is a resounding no. I also play a hell of a lot of golf, would i have been able to do that at uni? Probably not to be honest.

I've made a considerable amount of m8s at uni and regulary chill out with them at night. So do i have the best of both worlds? For me YES. The commuting is a BITCH but you get used to it and i have the freedom at nights and weekends to continue with my hobbys and pretty much do whatever i want. I also have only £1000 debt so far and thats from buying myself a new mountain bike

haha.

BUT im not everyone. Most people my age enjoying getting absolutely hammered drunk every night............if thats the sort of person you are, live in halls

daz · 7 Mar 2007 at 16:49

Independence > Dependence

robmiller · 7 Mar 2007 at 16:52

daz said:
Independence > Dependence

I don't see why living away from home implies independence and living at home implies dependence, though (I presume that's what you're implying).

One of my flatmates goes home every single weekend, never does her own washing, gets her boyfriend to cook and clean for her and is generally 100% dependent on other people.

Then there are people who live at home but are just as independent as most people who live uni during term time.

daz · 7 Mar 2007 at 16:55

I like having my own space that I'm in charge of.

It's not so much about doing your own washing, it's about if I want to invite people back to mine late I have nothing to worry about. I can have a mini-gathering, stick some music on etc... I don't have to worry about damaging things, because it's my stuff...

Spursboy · 7 Mar 2007 at 17:04

robmiller said:
I don't see why living away from home implies independence and living at home implies dependence, though (I presume that's what you're implying).

One of my flatmates goes home every single weekend, never does her own washing, gets her boyfriend to cook and clean for her and is generally 100% dependent on other people.

Then there are people who live at home but are just as independent as most people who live uni during term time.

I think there is more opportunity to have/be exposed to independence at uni. Granted not everyone is the same and there will always be exceptions to the rule.

I have a similar story about one of my friends going home every weekend at uni, but out of the 100's of people I knew, it is a minority.

Nix · 7 Mar 2007 at 17:06

I can see where both Rob and Fox are coming from, but it really is down to what each person wants to do.

I know deep down, I would (couldn't anyway) not have stayed at home. I've been very independant for years, but there is something which I can't quite put my fingers on. When I go home I feel very restricted even though my parents are quite liberal and have let me do my 'own thing' for years.

It's more of a case of I needed to get away from Southend, away from Essex. I wanted to be completely on my own (300ish miles from home

) and just learn to take control of my life. I could do all that washing, cooking, cleaning crap before uni' - it's not exactly hard.

I do not regret moving away for a second. I doubt and if I can help it - I'm not moving back home when university finishes.

Bumhucker · 7 Mar 2007 at 17:31

I lived away from home for the first year and I'm now back at home for the second so I am speaking from experience...

move out.

robmiller · 7 Mar 2007 at 17:33

daz said:
I like having my own space that I'm in charge of.

It's not so much about doing your own washing, it's about if I want to invite people back to mine late I have nothing to worry about. I can have a mini-gathering, stick some music on etc... I don't have to worry about damaging things, because it's my stuff...

I totally see what you're saying and FWIW I agree, I just don't think that the situation is even remotely as black and white as some people are making it out to be—that if you live at home you'll be some hermit with no friends, and if you move out you'll be partying every night and instantly transform into an independent well-rounded adult.

Jotun · 7 Mar 2007 at 17:40

I decided to stay at home, and I'm regretting it, although I doubt I'd be able to afford to move out without a part time job, I miss out on quite a lot as getting there is about an hour by public transport, 25 mins by car.

Stellios · 7 Mar 2007 at 17:58

Stayed at home, if uit wasnt so expansive to stay in *** halls i would have been tempted, but £3k to have a cold small room and share a toilet with 4 other people, no thanks.

In a way i reget staying at home, but to be honest im not out in town that often, so its not like im trailing it at 3am all the time.

SideWinder · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:00

Noble-Kebab said:
if you stay at home you will lose the experience of growing up and being a full blown adult.

That's the reason i want to "spread my wings and move out of the nest".

Saytan said:
no matter how cool your parents are with you doing what you want, they're likely to take exception to you sliding down the stairs on matresses, and holding unplanned post-night parties

[TW]Fox · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:07

daz said:
Independence > Dependence

Living at Uni and Living at home are not linked to either.

I know people who live at Uni who are entirely dependant on their parents for everything - they pay the accomodation, they pay their fees, etc etc. I also know people who live at home (Well actually only one person) who is completely independant, pays her own way, etc etc.

dirtydog · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:10

[TW]Fox said:
I also know people who live at home (Well actually only one person) who is completely independent, pays her own way, etc etc.

Living at home and being completely independent, are mutually exclusive.

Nix · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:17

Jotun said:
I decided to stay at home, and I'm regretting it, although I doubt I'd be able to afford to move out without a part time job, I miss out on quite a lot as getting there is about an hour by public transport, 25 mins by car.

I have to work part time. The hours are a git (quite often finishing at 4am), but I need the money as I couldn't afford to be at university otherwise. I need to eat! If I was at home, there is no question if my parents would support me, I just feel I had the chance to take the burdon off them, so I did.

[TW]Fox · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:21

dirtydog said:
Living at home and being completely independent, are mutually exclusive.

How? Her parents charge her the going rate for rent/bills, she buys her own food, she comes and goes as she pleases. To be honest I think its rather a harsh way to treat your kids, but she's as independant, if not MORE so, than people who live in halls at Uni.

How many people who live away for Uni are 'completely independant'? Not many I'd guess. I don't know a single person at Uni who isn't being at least partially funded in some way by their parents.

dirtydog · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:28

[TW]Fox said:
How? Her parents charge her the going rate for rent/bills, she buys her own food, she comes and goes as she pleases. To be honest I think its rather a harsh way to treat your kids, but she's as independant, if not MORE so, than people who live in halls at Uni.

How many people who live away for Uni are 'completely independant'? Not many I'd guess. I don't know a single person at Uni who isn't being at least partially funded in some way by their parents.

I didn't say that someone living with their parents can't be independent to some extent. But what they cannot possibly be is 'completely' independent - for reasons which surely are too obvious to need spelling out?

Oh and independent doesn't have an 'a' in it - if you go to Uni shouldn't you know that

[TW]Fox · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:32

I spend my time at the back of the lecture theatre throwing bits of paper around

robmiller · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:33

[TW]Fox said:
How? Her parents charge her the going rate for rent/bills, she buys her own food, she comes and goes as she pleases. To be honest I think its rather a harsh way to treat your kids, but she's as independant, if not MORE so, than people who live in halls at Uni.

How many people who live away for Uni are 'completely independant'? Not many I'd guess. I don't know a single person at Uni who isn't being at least partially funded in some way by their parents.

Me! And I don't get anywhere near the maximum loan either (my loan covers my tuition fees and 90% of my accommodation, everything else I pay myself).

Luckily I work ~40 hours a week and therefore don't starve

[TW]Fox · 7 Mar 2007 at 18:34

40 hours a week? How do you find time for essential student tasks like dossing around playing pool in the union, surfing 100mbit internet and getting up at 1pm after rolling in at 4am the night before from the Union?