Uni; who's dropped out or thinking of dropping out?

gropingmantis · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:07

Ewaf said:
I'm not sure why people say "Lectures suck and the lecturers don't help etc!". University is 90% self learning, the lectures/lecturers give you the resources you need, and you get off your fat ass and research it and do it. This isn't school where you are spoon fed

Thats not strictly true. My course is between 25-35 hours of lectures and lab time per week. There is very little self learning till third year.

Stewy · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:08

I'd miss uni life, i'd be so bored at home, I get bored when I go home for the weekend. It's just... I'm not enjoying myself as much as I know I should be. I was really happy say, 2 months ago, fell out with my housemate and i've been pretty down since then really

Flare · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:09

kgi said:
I would strongly suggest some long-term planning and forward thinking.

If you don't like your course then think what you would like and what career you'd want to follow, then make the relevant change. If you do like your course (or if you'd like another course) the don't quit because of personal/other issues. No employer cares about the problems you had back in the time when you dropped out of uni, they'll just see you as a failure and hard to committ/work under pressure.

Get rid of the snakes and the dogs so that your mother doesn't have to deal with them and can focus on her work, suggest she downsizes house to a 2bed house/flat that is easier to manage (and keep some money on the side) and try to call/visit as often as possible. You going back home, aside a short and temporary comfort is not going to help anyone or do your future any good.

I know employers won't care what has happened at home but you make out like people who don't go to uni have no chance. On the snake and dog front, no chance. And back to not studying, you raise the same point about not going to uni... I really don't beleive this, most of my friends dad's (also my friends) didn't go to uni but half of them are multi millionaires the rest are very successfull but not quite at the millionaire stage...

Ewaf said:
Im just about to graduate, and I have never ever thought about dropping out. I want to do another bloody degree and have another awesome 3 years! But the debt would be obscene. I'm not sure why people say "Lectures suck and the lecturers don't help etc!". University is 90% self learning, the lectures/lecturers give you the resources you need, and you get off your fat ass and research it and do it. This isn't school where you are spoon fed. What about your friends etc?? Won't you miss them?

Uni just isn't for some people.

I don't know if you're suggesting i'm being lazy and not doing any work for myself but that's not the case, I knew what i was in for and was not expecting to be 'spoon fed'. I have really been trying but i'm finding it very hard to have an interest. I will still be able to see my friends.

StewartMG said:
I'd miss uni life, i'd be so bored at home, I get bored when I go home for the weekend. It's just... I'm not enjoying myself as much as I know I should be. I was really happy say, 2 months ago, fell out with my housemate and i've been pretty down since then really

I would as well to be honest but i have this house intil the end of june so i don't need to worry about not be able to go out and socialise. I'm not enjoying myself as much as I know I should be either.

Ewaf · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:10

StewartMG said:
I'd miss uni life, i'd be so bored at home, I get bored when I go home for the weekend. It's just... I'm not enjoying myself as much as I know I should be. I was really happy say, 2 months ago, fell out with my housemate and i've been pretty down since then really

Branch out, join a uni sports team, prehaps try hang out with course mates more?

Stewy · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:16

I have but it's still hard, we both do the same course and we have only 8 hours a week so we're always in which isn't great.

Ewaf · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:17

How did you fall out? Can it be patched over?

Flare · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:17

Ewaf said:
How did you fall out? Can it be patched over?

I'm going to guess not if the other person is a girl

Stewy · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:19

We were really close, sleeping in the same bed, spending loadsa time together, she came in to my room one morning after a night out telling me about how she got "clapped on her walk home" (ie. had a one night stand).

I was pretty annoyed, she didn't even try to talk to me even though I made it pretty obvious, now I can't be bother with her at all.

So no, not really

edit: sorry for hijacking thread, I'll stop now, can't be bothered with another 'OmgIfailattehwimenz' thread.

Flare · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:22

StewartMG said:
We were really close, sleeping in the same bed, spending loadsa time together, she came in to my room one morning after a night out telling me about how she got "clapped on her walk home" (ie. had a one night stand).

I was pretty annoyed, she didn't even try to talk to me even though I made it pretty obvious, now I can't be bother with her at all.

So no, not really

edit: sorry for hijacking thread, I'll stop now, can't be bothered with another 'OmgIfailattehwimenz' thread.

Sleeping with house mates is fun in the short term but never in the long term!

ntg · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:26

Flare said:
I know employers won't care what has happened at home but you make out like people who don't go to uni have no chance. On the snake and dog front, no chance. And back to not studying, you raise the same point about not going to uni... I really don't beleive this, most of my friends dad's (also my friends) didn't go to uni but half of them are multi millionaires the rest are very successfull but not quite at the millionaire stage...

There is nothing wrong with not going to university and neither does it distinguish between the quality of people. The key is though that you either go, or not. Dropping out makes you look (at the eyes of an employer who can only evaluate you from your CV) as someone who can't committ, can't take pressure or whatever else reason they may think of.

I am not suggesting or implying that you will fail in life if you drop out and I do believe you when you refer to people who have been extremely successful without going to Uni, I'm just saying that if you are after a career later on, dropping out will reflect very badly on you. Of course going self-employed or opening a business etc. is an excellent option if you are into such a career path, but for employment type careers it will make it hard for you.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging you, I'm just trying to give you an insight into how employers will see your CV/application.

As for the pets going, it's about priorities and the way you have presented things you cannot consider an option of keeping them, having your mother working back at home and you continue studying so something has to give.

meghatronic · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:30

Flare said:
I'm only in my first year and 2nd semester of uni but I have pretty much decided that it just isn't for me

UoM? Subject?

Flare · 17 Mar 2011 at 15:39

meghatronic said:
UoM? Subject?

Yep. German and Business & Managment.

Jengo · 17 Mar 2011 at 16:14

Flare said:
Sleeping with house mates is fun in the short term but never in the long term!

i think the phrase is "Don't **** where you eat"

But in all seriousness, i'm in my final year too and would love to come back and do it all again if i had the money, i personally think uni is a lot more about the social aspects and things like that rather than the course. Sure you get a degree at the end if you work at it, but you also get a lot of very good friends and a whole wealth of experiences, all of which i shall be very sorry to see go!

meghatronic · 17 Mar 2011 at 16:26

Flare said:
Yep. German and Business & Managment.

Have you thought about chatting with our free counselling service or your personal tutor?

We also have a Student Guidance Service

blairw · 17 Mar 2011 at 16:28

Dropped out within 2 months.
Best decision I have ever made, I was doing Comp Sci at Heriot Watt university. I didn't like the subject half as much as I thought I would so decided to take a years break, work, and go back to do Economics the following year. I got my acceptance for that course and everything was good.

I then got used to working and earning good money each month as I was in a fairly good retail position. I then decided to look into other potential ways into a career that suited me.

I am now coming towards the end of a 3 year office based apprenticeship with a large telecoms company, where I have been earning a good wage, while studying part time for a degree in business. I will finish my hons degree next year, and be earning more than the vast majority of uni leavers and have 4 years experience in my field to go along with it.

Sometimes I regret missing out in all the madness of uni and the like, but luckily I had a lot of close friends who did stay on at uni and I got involved that way