well if you were to find it offensive that i call my mates chinks then
i) You are taking what i said out of context. I am arguing that using a word in a non-derogatory or jokingly-derogatary way is not immoral and should not be taking as offensive.
That's a different point entirely. You can call your mates anything you like, including things that would be offensive in a different context. It's not an insult, and in any case it's nothing to me if you are insulting your mates. If you were saying that being Chinese is bad and wrong, then it would be like the point of this thread.
And because you are not chinese you cannot come out and say that the word chink is offensive because no chinese person is taking offense to that particular use of it.
ii) That is the point im trying to make. There were some people saying that if you use the word gay to mean rubbish or naff you are offending them and gay people. Yet no gay person has said they find it offensive.
That is where we disagree. I think a person can consider irrational prejudice something offensive, regardless of whether or not they happen to be in the group it's targetted against.
Thats not what my point is. I apologise if im not being clear but ill try and explain how i feel using your analogy:
If man A makes a sexist joke and another man B says "Hey, you cant say that, its offensive." but at the same time a woman near by says "hahahaha funny joke" then the man B is trying to speak for the woman/women.
Not necessarily, no. If he says it's offensive, he is speaking for himself. If he says the woman find it offensive, he's speaking for her. Two different things.
It is illogical for the man B to take offense to the joke, for he cannot see it from the 'subjects' point of view and if he could he would, like the woman, see it was funny. Man B is making an assumption about women, which is more offensive to women than man A's joke (as it was said in jest).
It would be if it was, but it would be equally offensive for exactly the same reason if another woman did it.
If you don't see why, then you're lumping all women together as a single person, which is not a good thing.
now if man A makes a sexist joke and the woman says "Hey, you cant say that, its offensive" THEN man B can step in and help the woman and voice his concern.
He doesn't need her permission to have his own opinion.
In the first scenario the man B was defending the woman even though she wasnt offended. So it makes no sense for him to be offended by the joke.
In the first scenario, the man was defending his own opinion. It has nothing to do with the woman - she has her own mind, he has his.
Now hermaphrodites, thats a whole other ball game (pun again), and is far too complex to even start lol
Not in this context - if, as you argue, a person should only be allowed to object to sexism against one sex, the only people who should be allowed to object to sexism are those who are both sexes.
well the thread seems to have taken the direction that it is now discussing whether or not using 'gay' to mean 'rubbish' or 'naff'.
That was the beginning of this thread.
sure this is derogatary, though not directly to gay people. It is not meant to be offensive to them and anyone whos not gay and is taking offense to it is being over sensitive about the evolution of language.
How is it
not meant to be offensive to people who are labelled as being gay to use 'gay' to mean wrong and bad
because of the connection with homosexuality?
Unless you're arguing that people are using the word that way without giving the slightest thought to why they are, which would be a point.