Very strange experience

Things change I've changed · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:27

sniffy said:
Giving strange looks to people you don't know for no reason is more of a chav mentality then asking what their problem is IMO. It's provoking a response.

you serious, how old are you ? perhaps I'm just getting old mate, at the ripe old age of thirty if someone gives me strange looks I just don't feel the need to engage that person unless I know them, I may ask who they are in a friendly manor but thats all, I certainly wouldn't do what the original poster did and in a fit of anger walk all the way back and start intimidating the old bloke, I was an idiot like that when I was young but thank good things like that don't bother me anymore, I've more more important things in my life to get on with rather than getting angry and confronting people just because of how they looked at me, just the way I feel.

Monkey Puzzle · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:27

Tefal said:
I would have thought the strange person was the one who walks all the way back to a shop to ask why the owner was "looking at him weird" before getting angry.

Tbh the owner was probably bricking it thinking he was going to get his shop smashed up, or hurt.

Probably reaching under the counter for a multi-use truncheon.

Anksy · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:28

Ninja Edit

Monkey Puzzle said:
Probably reaching under the counter for a Double Barreled ShotGun And His Glasses

Monkey Puzzle · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:33

I see what you did there. Lying is bad.

Vasquez · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:35

Sounds pretty homosexual to me.

are you gay?

RumbleBee · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:35

lowrider007 said:
I certainly wouldn't do what the original poster did and in a fit of anger walk all the way back and start intimidating the old bloke

It was nothing like that.

I agree with what your saying about strange looks. I've had a few and like you say you take no notice, but this was different.

RumbleBee · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:36

Vasquez said:
are you gay?

No

sniffy · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:38

lowrider007 said:
you serious, how old are you ?

No need to get patronising mate. If you aren't then sorry but it's phrased like it. I'm 19.

snip

I wouldn't do what the OP did and actually walk back but if someone is looking at me like a **** then I will simply ask do I know them. If they say no then I will ask why they're looking at me strangely. The way I look at it is if no one ever says anything to them, they will probably continue to do it. It's simply rude.

Things change I've changed · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:39

RumbleBee said:
It was nothing like that.

I agree with what your saying about strange looks. I've had a few and like you say you take no notice, but this was different.

ok, maybe I 'sensationalised' that a little bit, it's all the BBC News 24 reading I do, kinda becomes you after a while, still, you was angry though right ?,
if I was you I would just keep popping in there from time to time, let him get used to you, perhaps your find out his your real dad or something lol.

Things change I've changed · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:43

sniffy said:
No need to get patronising mate. If you aren't then sorry but it's phrased like it. I'm 19.

yeah after I read that It sounds like it could have been taken in that context, with the "perhaps I'm just getting old mate" I was hoping it wouldn't get taken that way, I was genuinely interested in how old you were, I do feel quite out of touch these days lol, when I was 20 I'd of probably had the same opinion as you which is why I was asking how old you was.

RumbleBee · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:44

Regarding walking back. I did this as another thought that entered my mind was that he knew my dad who passed away a few years ago. He knew plenty of people in that area and so this thought entered my mind. I'm the spitting image of my dad when he was my age.

Hyper · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:45

Sounds like someone is a hard man :rolleyes:

RumbleBee · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:46

lowrider007 said:
ok, maybe I 'sensationalised' that a little bit, it's all the BBC News 24 reading I do, kinda becomes you after a while, still, you was angry though right ?,

No not really. More confused than angry. a little angry maybe but I showed no anger when I first approached him. The only anger I showed was when I said the word 'hell' after his (what appear to be) gay comments.

Things change I've changed · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:49

RumbleBee said:
No not really. More confused than angry. a little angry maybe but I showed no anger when I first approached him. The only anger I showed was when I said the word 'hell' after his (what appear to be) gay comments.

ahhh ok np, anyway sorry about joking saying you could find out he could be your real dad, if I had known yours had passed away I wouldn't of joked about that.

sniffy · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:50

lowrider007 said:
yeah after I read that It sounds like it could have been taken in that context, with the "perhaps I'm just getting old mate" I was hoping it wouldn't get taken that way, I was genuinely interested in how old you were, I do feel quite out of touch these days lol, when I was 20 I'd of probably had the same opinion as you which is why I was asking how old you was.

Oh right sorry dude. You can't always tell on the net

PoleY_15 · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:54

just go back tomorrow and get stuck in to him

netby · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:57

gay attack!

kidding,but a few years ago ,it happend to me in a very similar way

again it´s a man in his 55,rich (he is the owner of a company) and I was doing some business with him, and he touched my hand two times, I looked at him and he makes a unmistakable smile

of course I do not need to ask him what he wants

after that, I hurry up the concretization of the business- but he try to slow down it,offering me some good conditions ,and he is trying to prolongate the conversation...

well ,I cut him short- "please make my bill,I want to pay and leave now!"and so i did

sniffy · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:59

Haha that's great

RumbleBee · 4 Mar 2008 at 00:59

no need to apologise.

Anyway I appear to be coming across as some sort of angry person who causes trouble when looked at. This is not true. I was intrigued to ask if I knew him following both the very strange look at the counter and even more so him standing outside his shop watching me walk down the street. Whilst I did feel a little peeved off at this I approached him with no anger whatsoever and it was only his further words that made me appear angry. He was very suggestive with his words. Not sarcastic, blunt or funny.

Being asked if I wanted to stay a while and if I wanted to be looked at is quite a disturbing thing to hear from a shopkeeper, who watches you with beady eyes and watches you walk down the road. As mentioned maybe I caused his reaction by going back, but it just seemed like the right thing to do at the time. It might be I caused the situation by doing this and he was being funny in a dark humorous way. Even so I've no regrets and would still be wondering if he knew me if I never asked. Now I'm left wondering if he wanted to hump me, kill me or just get me out of his shop as I had no rights questioning him.

Sime · 4 Mar 2008 at 03:42

Tefal said:
wow you called him a weirdo?

You went all the way back to ask why he was looking at you? maybe he thought you nicked something, but didn't fancy getting knifed in the face that day?

lol ye I agree. If that was me and the shop guy was giving me some dirty looks I would have thoguht to myself what a to**er and then got on with my life. On the train and off home...

Gotta say you going back to ask "why were you looking at me" is slightly odd in itself.