I am fat and have quickly been becoming a complete slob to make matters worse. Ever since my Dad passed away back in 2003 I haven't really given a toss about my body, I was okay with being a bit bigger than I should be and so the weight slowly crept up. Oh I'm not using it as an excuse, I didn't care about my weight plain and simple. Yes there where times when I'd stop and think about it like when going for a new pair of pants and realizing my waist had shot up etc. But I'd suffered depression, had gone through a really bad breakup and to be fair am still having regular stress (still in and out of court thanks to that psycho) from trying to maintain contact with my kids.
After 2+ years of being single apart from quite a few brief trysts with various girls who just didn't work out (Did you see the fog beast thread?) I started wondering why I wasn't getting the types of girls I really wanted, I don't think of myself as ugly, am a pretty confident guy, funny or at least I think so and have epic tallness going for me. So what was missing or rather what was in the way.
I believe it's because I'm fat. I don't blame anyone for not liking me because I'm fat, I don't find fat girls attractive so I don't expect girls to find fat guys attractive. Having had one woman I really hoped to have something with tell me the reason she didn't want to continue things was because I am too big didn't offend me, it gave me my first little nudge to start losing weight.
The second nudge was needing a new pair of pants and finding I'd gone up to a 48 inch waist line, I actually wanted to cry. I was genuinely disgusted.
The third and final nudge was going to the doctors for something completely unrelated to my weight, being weighed and told I was a candidate for surgery. Yeah, thanks but no thanks you crank! Yeah I maybe a candidate but surely you could suggest something a little less drastic as your first approach. I dunno, it was the way it was put across that made me think **** you! I'll do it naturally. And so I've started.
Okay so my initial motivations may be incredibly shallow, getting a girl I'm really attracted too but I have other concerns too. Like being able to do away with my sleep apnea machine, which is weight related and stops me from doing things I enjoyed like camping and going to music festivals. Like having more energy to do things with my kids, do housework and even just be motivated enough to get out of bed on some days.
I want to get back down to my RAF weight of 15st 8 initially and then take it from there...
STATS: 15/04/2015
Height: 6ft8
Age: 31
Weight: 24st 6lbs
Waistline: 48 inches
I've already started my diet and exorcise and am already noticing changes in my body, mainly my boulder like belly has become incredibly squishy instead of hard to the touch. That and bizarrely I've started dreaming regularly again when I can't remember dreaming for a very long time.
So far exorcise wise I'm only walking for an hour a day, with plans to increase things slowly but regularly as and when I can afford to buy some new running shoes or afford a gym membership again etc.
Diet wise I've cut out all the junk, no more chocolate, sweets, crisps, soft drinks, oven chips and cack processed stuff from the likes of Iceland.
Tea has been replaced by green tea with a slice of lemon and/or lime, instead of junk I'm eating fruit. I've switched to whole grains, making home made sweet potato wedges etc etc and am generally getting a lot more vegetables in my diet. All my meats are coming off of 'musclefood.com' so are lean, more so than what's typically got at the supermarket and generally better quality as well.
I aim to check my weight on the 1st and 15th of each month and update accordingly... Sorry for waffling on but it felt good to write stuff out.
Any tips like dealing with craving and stuff would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
After 2+ years of being single apart from quite a few brief trysts with various girls who just didn't work out (Did you see the fog beast thread?) I started wondering why I wasn't getting the types of girls I really wanted, I don't think of myself as ugly, am a pretty confident guy, funny or at least I think so and have epic tallness going for me. So what was missing or rather what was in the way.
I believe it's because I'm fat. I don't blame anyone for not liking me because I'm fat, I don't find fat girls attractive so I don't expect girls to find fat guys attractive. Having had one woman I really hoped to have something with tell me the reason she didn't want to continue things was because I am too big didn't offend me, it gave me my first little nudge to start losing weight.
The second nudge was needing a new pair of pants and finding I'd gone up to a 48 inch waist line, I actually wanted to cry. I was genuinely disgusted.
The third and final nudge was going to the doctors for something completely unrelated to my weight, being weighed and told I was a candidate for surgery. Yeah, thanks but no thanks you crank! Yeah I maybe a candidate but surely you could suggest something a little less drastic as your first approach. I dunno, it was the way it was put across that made me think **** you! I'll do it naturally. And so I've started.
Okay so my initial motivations may be incredibly shallow, getting a girl I'm really attracted too but I have other concerns too. Like being able to do away with my sleep apnea machine, which is weight related and stops me from doing things I enjoyed like camping and going to music festivals. Like having more energy to do things with my kids, do housework and even just be motivated enough to get out of bed on some days.
I want to get back down to my RAF weight of 15st 8 initially and then take it from there...
Height: 6ft8
Age: 31
Weight: 24st 6lbs
Waistline: 48 inches
I've already started my diet and exorcise and am already noticing changes in my body, mainly my boulder like belly has become incredibly squishy instead of hard to the touch. That and bizarrely I've started dreaming regularly again when I can't remember dreaming for a very long time.
So far exorcise wise I'm only walking for an hour a day, with plans to increase things slowly but regularly as and when I can afford to buy some new running shoes or afford a gym membership again etc.
Diet wise I've cut out all the junk, no more chocolate, sweets, crisps, soft drinks, oven chips and cack processed stuff from the likes of Iceland.
Tea has been replaced by green tea with a slice of lemon and/or lime, instead of junk I'm eating fruit. I've switched to whole grains, making home made sweet potato wedges etc etc and am generally getting a lot more vegetables in my diet. All my meats are coming off of 'musclefood.com' so are lean, more so than what's typically got at the supermarket and generally better quality as well.
I aim to check my weight on the 1st and 15th of each month and update accordingly... Sorry for waffling on but it felt good to write stuff out.
Any tips like dealing with craving and stuff would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
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